Adult Life Hacks (Part III)

I can’t believe it’s been over a year since my last ‘Adult Life Hacks’ post, but after some requests, IT’S BACK! There were 5 points in Part I, 5 points in Part II, so here are my next 5!

11. Command Strips 🖼️

After a dramatic experience when trying to mount a TV bracket on the wall last year involving gas, a hole in the wall and living off takeaways for a few days (I’ll let you fill in the gaps!), we just couldn’t be bothered dealing with the STRESS of banging 17 picture hooks into THE SAME WALL when we put up some wedding photos 😬 SO, Command Strips it was! Genius things, easy to use, and nothing’s fallen down yet (touch wood)!

12. Save Money on Flowers: Buy an Orchid 🌸

I love having plants and flowers in the home, it really brightens the place up. I love having a vase of flowers on the coffee table, but it really does add up if you’re having to replace them every week. Maybe one day I won’t notice the flower shaped dent in my bank account, but for now, a one off purchase of an orchid was a great idea! Just got to remember to water it (I’m not so good at that, but I’m getting better)! 

13. Always Have Lardons in the Fridge 🥓

I mentioned it in my first vlog a couple of weeks back, but they’re honestly such handy things to have around. They only take 3 minutes to cook, so when you’re not sure what to make for lunch or tea, it’s easy to throw them in a salad, some eggs, a pasta dish…the possibilities are endless! Unless you’re a vegetarian I guess… 🙈

14. Use a Potato Masher to Close the Windows 🥔

#ShortPeopleProbs, I can’t close the kitchen windows when they’re open in summer because I’m too short to reach over the counter 🙃 Instead of walking outside to push them in (which I’ve done a couple of times), grab your potato masher to yank them in again! Credit to Mama P for that idea!

15. Damp Paper Towel for Bird Poop 🕊️

Crediting my Dad for this one…we had a lovely deposit left on the back of the house, but apparently this hack works on cars too. Dampen a paper towel, pat it onto the ‘stain’ and leave it for a few minutes. You still might need to give it a firm wipe or little scrub (depending on whether you’re dealing with glass, metal or brick), but it’ll be MUCH easier to get rid of then.

And there we have it, 5 fresh new adult hacks for you! If you want to see the first 10, click here for Part I and here for Part II, and there’ll be another coming your way in a few months!

Lynette x (3)

9 Reasons I Feel Like An Adult This Month

‘Adulting’ is a term I use frequently with my friends – sometimes sarcastically, sometimes seriously – but always with the slight disbelief that we’re ACTUALLY ADULTS, and not just moseying through life as our teenage selves did. I’m married, I have a house, a car, amazing jobs…yet I still struggle to get my head around the fact that I’m almost in my late twenties, and that the kids I teach will see me as a ‘grown up’! I decided I’d just take note of some of the things that have highlighted my ‘adult’ status this month:

1. I made an ‘unwanted presents’ box in the loft

It’s no secret that on some occasions during our lives, we all receive presents we don’t like, don’t need, or just aren’t ‘us’. We can’t bear to throw them away because we feel guilty (even though the person who gifted them will probably never know), and it’s not that we’re ungrateful…but when you don’t like whatever it is, or it has no place in your life, what do you do? Well, I made a box. A box for unwanted gifts that can sit in the loft, out of sight, but always there. And if you’re sat there reading this thinking ‘that’s awful!’, then you’re lying, and you know full well that you have your own system (even if it’s not the same as mine) of dealing with weird gifts.

2. We have a flowerbed

AND WE’RE VERY PROUD OF IT! We got a bit of advice from Granny Nette (thankyou!) about how to start, but other than that, we did it all ourselves! It’s really pretty, and we’re really proud of ourselves that we did something adult-y that went right.

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3. I bought a spirit level

I used to borrow dad’s, but I decided that I’d got to a stage in my life where I needed my own. So I got one.

4. Warm weather = more washing!

Once upon a time, the heat excited you because it meant you could go and do fun things, or spend longer with your friends. Now, if I wake up and the weather’s forecast to be warm with no rain, I get excited for all the washing I know I can get done (and dried!) that day.

5. I drove to get a Maccies and ended up coming back with M&S food

The intention after summer school was to drive to the retail park and treat myself to a takeaway…but as soon as I got there, I didn’t fancy it. So into M&S I went, and picked up some flowers for myself when I got there too.

6. Garden Centre trips are REALLY FUN

So, the homewear shopping trips started to become fun when I was a student, but since we moved into the house and we have a garden now, Homebase/garden centre trips have become just as fun!

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7. I had to shout at kids for playing in our drive

Yep, I turned myself into ‘that scary lady who lives at number ___’. But when the kids were playing around our cars, that’s a big NOPE. I got very cross. And anyone who knows me, knows that when I get really riled up, it’s not pretty. It worked though, I haven’t seen them anywhere near our house or drive since! Mwahaha…

8. I’m googling weeding tips

I don’t think there’s anything to comment on, there’s just no denying it’s ridiculously adult-y, and I wouldn’t have been doing it a few years back!

9. “Sorry, my husband deals with that”

It’s happen a couple of times, but the main one was to a Virgin cold caller knocking on the door with a ‘I noticed you’re not with us’ spiel…it meant I could get rid of him within 2 seconds of opening the door ✋

I also still feel giddy when I refer to Ed as my ‘husband’ or someone calls me by my new surname 😍

Who else has similar, scary moments of realisation?! 🙈

Lynette x (3)

The Wedding Series

After months of blogging about all things wedding, ‘The Wedding Series’ has come to an end! Before I sign off properly on this little project, I thought I’d write a post which includes links to each post I made – so everything’s in one place and easily accessible should anyone need it/want it. I’m going to go chronologically, from the very first post I wrote last July to last week.

Each title is linked, so you can get to each post easily!

PRE-WEDDING

I Said Yes To the Dress!

Read the story of my wedding dress shopping experience at The Bridal Factory Outlet in Northallerton.

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The Most Fun Things About Starting To Plan Your Wedding

All the best bits in one tidy little blog post.

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The Pros and Cons of
Wedding Fayres

Read about our experience of the UK Wedding Event at Harrogate Sun Pavilions.

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How To Manage
Wedding Stress

I can’t decide which is more stressful – moving house or planning a wedding. But it’s an epic task, it’ll take over your life, and when you’re in the middle of it, any stress relieving tips will help.

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Wedding Planning Tips Part 1

My top tips for having the most organised, magical experience possible.

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Wedding Checklist

Straight from my wedding spreadsheet (minus a few details that only our wedding needed). Grab a cuppa…

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Cute Wedding Things You Don’t Need…But Want!

There’s so many pretty, quirky and fun things out there that you’re going to want to add to your wedding…these are the ones that turned me into a magpie!

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Questions To Ask:
Your Venue

…before you sign on the dotted line.

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Questions To Ask:
Your Photographer

…to check you’re signing on for your perfect package.

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Questions To Ask:
Your Baker

…don’t get carried away by yummy cake and forget the important details!

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POST-WEDDING

Our Wedding Timeline

Our wedding day in pictures.

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Wedding Planning Tips Part 2

A few months on from the first post, because one alone wasn’t enough!

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Wedding Skin Prep

Read about the miracle products that got my skin wedding ready.

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Post Wedding Pointers

Tips I learned during wedding planning that I had to pass on to future brides and grooms.

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DIY Wedding Makeup

I did my own makeup – see what products I used.

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10 Things No One Tells You About Planning a Wedding

You read all the nice posts, and the advice posts…but what’s the reality? The things no one talks about?

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Top Tips For Your Wedding Day

Potentially my most important post! Tips for couples for the big day itself – tips to ensure you have the most happy, magical day possible.

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Questions You Never Thought To Ask About Your Wedding

You’ll have so many questions during the planning process, ones that never would have crossed your mind until you’re knee deep in planning! These were mine…

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Wedding Etiquette

…for both wedding guests AND the couple getting married!

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and finally,

 

My 7 Fave Wedding
Purchases From Etsy

Though it could’ve been so much more if I didn’t exercise some self restraint!

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Thankyou to everyone who’s supported both my blog and my Instagram in the last year since I started running it ‘properly’, it means so much to have the support of you lot.

Onto the next adventure!

Lynette x (3)

Questions You Never Thought To Ask About Your Wedding

I’m pretty sure I’ve said it before, but I’ll say it again…there are SO many things involved with a wedding, so many more than you’d ever realise until you’re actually knee deep in table plans and decor spray painting! And there’ll be questions you need to know the answers to that never would have crossed your mind before. The point of this post is not to answer all these questions (I still don’t have answers to some of them!), but just point out some of the things you’ll want to research/ask your venue.

What happens with the confetti? 🌸

So, it’s arrived in a massive bag…how do we use it? Do I empty it into a big box and people grab a handful? Do I invest in confetti cones/baskets etc, and if so, how do guests get them?

Do I stand up with everyone during the speeches? 🥂

I’m the bride. People are toasting me. Is it rude if I stay sat down, or is it weird if I stand and effectively, toast myself? (I didn’t think about this until it was literally happening, I had no clue what I was supposed to do) 😳

Lynette & Ed

Where do the bouquets go after the ceremony? 💐

I think each wedding will be different, but our coordinator suggested using my bouquet as decoration for the cake table. Which was lovely! I just hadn’t given my bouquet a second thought (past the ceremony) until a couple of weeks before the wedding.

Groom – Where do I look when I’m at the end of the aisle? 🤵

Straight forwards? To the bridesmaids and approaching bride? A bit of both? This is a question Ed asked before the wedding, but I think by the time it got to the day, there’s that much going on and emotions are so high, you don’t even have chance to worry about it!

When do I take my veil off? 👰

Immediately after the ceremony? After the photos? Before the evening do? Or leave it on all day? After lots of researching, it seems it’s one of those things that is down to each individual bride. So I just decided I’d take it off when I’d had enough of it. And that came after the speeches when we were tucking into the wedding breakfast, because it was making me warm and annoying my bare upper back.

What time does the sun set? ☀️

You want those gorgeous sunset pics? You’re going to need to know what time the sun sets. Make sure you find out and add it to your itinerary so you know when in the proceedings you need to slip away.

Lynette & Ed

What happens with my engagement ring? 💍

The main answer to this question (when googling) seems to be to wear it on the other hand. Which is all well and good unless it doesn’t fit. I’ve got relatively thin fingers, so getting a ring over my knuckle is a struggle anyway, I wasn’t going to force it onto my right hand and get it stuck! So dad looked after it and I popped it on again after the ceremony.

How do I feed the photographer? 📸

Is he bringing a pack up, or do I need to find him a seat at the wedding breakfast? One I can’t answer and you’ll have to ask your venue, but we paid for ours to eat in the lounge bar next to the breakfast room.

Can we book our honeymoon in my married name? ✈️

Yes you can, because you can get a post dated passport. You’ll need a special application form, and a signed form from your officiant with details of your ceremony (don’t worry, it’s fairly straight forward). You won’t be able to use your new passport until you’re married, but once you ARE, you’re all set to jet off as Mr and Mrs.

And there’ll be plenty more that you’ll encounter during your wedding planning. Anyone else out there come across these kinds of ‘OMG I have no idea’ kind of surprise questions during their planning?

Lynette x (3)

Top Tips For Your Wedding Day

Okay, I’ve written quite a few wedding posts now, but I thought it was about time I shared my post important one. Unlike my other posts, this isn’t about the planning, or the run up, but tips for the actual day itself. And this post will reveal the top tips and suggestions I’d give to ANYONE getting married! So let’s dive right in…

Make Time in Your Itinerary for Each Other

This was one of the biggest pieces of advice we were given. Like, almost every person who wished us well said ‘Oooo you’ll never see each other’. To which we thought, SOD THAT! So, I wrote some ‘Bish time’ into our itinerary, to make sure we definitely had that time to spend together. And it was so easily done, so easy, I was surprised that so many people had struggled with it themselves! I suppose it’s one of those things that if you’re aware of it ahead of time, it’s easily manageable. We planned to get away a couple of times during the day, but actually managed it 5 or 6 times! And those moments as a newly married couple, amidst the chaos and business of the rest of the day are UTTERLY magical, and are such a special memory of our day that we both hold now.

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Mingle, But Don’t Feel Bad About Moving On

There’s so many people you love there, you want to see them all and have a chat, and make sure you actually spend time with them. It’d be so easily done to spend 30 minutes talking to each person, but with so many wedding guests there, you really don’t have the time. Mingle, but don’t feel bad about moving on – people will understand!

Walk Slowly Up the Aisle

As with anything when adrenaline is involved, it’s very easy to speed up, and if you don’t think of it ahead of time, you’ll be next to your hubby/wifey to be within seconds! Ask whoever’s walking you down the aisle to set the pace, slow you down a bit if needs be (thankyou Dad!) and ENJOY that incredibly iconic moment.

Practice Holding Your Bouquet

You’ll want to hold it lower than you’d think! Some say to have the stems lined up with your belly button, but it’ll depend on the style of your bouquet and the design of your dress. So I ended up holding mine in line with my hip bones! It’s just one of those things that you wouldn’t think of, so here I am now to point it out 😊

Lynette & Ed

Grooms – Don’t Lock Your Legs!

This one’s from Ed. 

“Make sure not to lock your knees! If you lock them for too long, you risk passing out: not good on your wedding day. Remind yourself every now and then (or get your best man to do it like me!) to shake out or have a little knee bend to relieve the built up tension.”

Don’t Skip Brekkie

I know you’ll be a bag of nerves and excitement, and the idea of food might make you feel queezy…but you MUST eat something on your wedding morning. Whether it’s a bit of toast or a piece of fruit, just make sure there’s something in your system. You don’t want to spoil your day by feeling lightheaded or worse, faint!

Make the Effort To Eat

Following straight on from the last point, keep eating during the day. Again, so many people said ‘You won’t eat.’ And I just couldn’t understand this – when you pay so much per head for your wedding breakfast and/or buffet/hog roast etc, you had your menu tasting, and most importantly YOU LOVE TO EAT, why would you not eat?! I know this is a good time for the newly weds to walk around and talk to guests, but I’m pretty sure your guests would rather you eat and last the whole day, than attempt to talk to them and see you collapse the next minute from lack of nutrition 🙃 Screw tradition, eat the damn food!

Lynette & Ed

Step Back and Survey

I saved a big one for last. A piece of advice we were given close to the big day, which we made sure we did, and are SO grateful for (thanks for the tip Mr Lunt)! This is probably the only time in your life when ALL of your dearly loved friends and family are in the same place, and they’re here because of the two of you – because they love you, they believe in your marriage and want to celebrate the most special day of your lives. Take a moment with your new spouse to step back, and just watch. Watch these people interacting, laughing, dancing, having an amazing time. It will be ingrained in your memory forever.

I urge anyone getting married to take on these tips, it really will help make your day special and drama free. Like the tips/insider info? I have similar posts here for Post Wedding Pointers and 10 Things No One Tells You About Planning a Wedding!

Lynette x (3)

10 Things No One Tells You About Planning a Wedding

So you have a rough idea in your head of what planning a wedding entails, and you can read all the advice articles you want…but there’s some elements of planning that no one mentions. So I’m gonna do that now. And I’m gonna start with a big one, because it’s something we had no clue about, yet caused drama, and I think anyone planning a wedding needs to be aware of this! And number two is Ed’s most important lesson.

1. Traditions have changed

There are a lot of traditions that have changed in the 30 years since our parents got married. We had an issue with corsages (I know 🙄), which was purely down to both generations doing things their own way, assuming ‘that’s just how things are done’ and not realising the others’ idea of tradition was the complete opposite! So my advice would be to stay aware, discuss lots with your family/guests, just to make sure you’re all on the same page.

2. Share your burdens

“Stress can, and WILL sneak up on you. Be sure to share your burdens with your partner and not keep them bottled up. You’re marrying this person, they’re the most important person in your life – they, of all people, need to know if you’re struggling.”

3. Who arrives when

The guest list itself will probably be quite easy, and you’ll keep adding names to it for a few months (you’re bound to forget a couple of distant relations or make new friends that you’d like to have there). The tricky bit, is deciding who comes to what part of the day – particularly if you have a set amount of guests that you’ve agreed with your venue, and adding an extra head costs a lot of dolla! You’re just going to have to be ruthless (you’ll find your own way of doing this), but know it’s going to take a while to decide. Make sure you have a bottle of wine (or two!) handy…

Lynette & Ed

4. It’s a nightmare trying to find a photographer

Not for any negative reason though, I might add. It’s just – your photos are the one thing that immortalise your wedding, the one reminder of the day, the only professional documentation you’ll have. And that comes with a lot of pressure, because you don’t just want to jump into something for the sake of it. You need to sit down with your fiance and have a chat about what kind of style you like, how much you’re willing to spend, and the kind of package you want. There are lots of wonderful photographers out there, and maybe some couples get lucky by stumbling across their perfect match straight away (remember, you’ve got to get on as well – you’ll be spending a lot of time with them!)…but it took us months to find Sugarbird. Worth the wait though 😉

5. You’ll be spoilt for choice with decor

Honestly, it won’t be a case of trying to find decor for your day that matches your theme, rather, you have to decide what NOT to have. You only have to type your colour sceme and ‘wedding’ into Pinterest to find THOUSANDS of ideas. Everything looks so gorgeous, there’ll be creative ideas you never thought of, and it’ll take you weeks (perhaps months!) to decide what you’re going to do, and how you’re going to do it.

Lynette & Ed

6. Wedding Fayres will expose you to so many LOCAL suppliers

Which is amazing! We both grew up here, went to school here, met here, decided to move back here independently of each other (but at the same time) after a bit of adulting, bought our first house here, and Ed proposed here – we have such a special bond with our home town, we wanted to source and use as many local suppliers as possible for our wedding day. As well as loving supporting small businesses, it just felt right. And we wouldn’t have met all these lovely people were it not for our trip to the Sun Pavilions in Harrogate for the UK Wedding Event. We discovered our Favour suppliers there, who turned out to live just round the corner from us! Can’t get more local than that 🍬

7. You’ll be refreshing your email every 30 seconds

Whether it’s waiting for confirmation from a supplier, or the answer to a burning question, you’ll be refreshing your email so often it’s not even funny. And when you see an email coming in, the mini heart attack happens – it dies down again if it’s just spam, but then you’re back to square one! Waiting. Refreshing…

8. It’s easy for the budget to get out of control

No, SERIOUSLY. It’s so easy it’s not even funny. Set your budget, try to guestimate how much you’ll spend on each element, and keep an excel spreadsheet of how much you spend on every single thing you buy. It’s all well and good thinking of the big things like the dress/flowers/rings/cake etc, but if you don’t keep track of the placenames/confetti cones/passport name change/registrar fees – you’re going to find yourself in deep doo doo.

Lynette & Ed

9. Whilst it’s your day, you want to keep your family happy – AND IT’S HARD

I’ve said it so many times before and I’ll say it again – it’s your big day, do what YOU want, don’t feel pressured into anything by anyone else. But that being said, obviously it’s natural to listen to wants/requests. It’s your family, you love them, and you want them to be happy, so if there’s a decision you’ve made that totally conflicts with a problem they have – it really is tricky. Out the other side of it, I still stick by my statement of ‘DO WHAT YOU WANT’, but just be aware that it’s hard. And try not to get ill from the stress like we did. Only a little bit bitter about that… 🙃

10. It’s stressful but you’ll feel SO MUSHY

I’ve never felt as 😍 and mushy and warm and fuzzy as when we were wedding planning (until we got married that is, the ice heart has officially thawed). It’s so exciting, so special, and you will ABSOLUTELY LOVE IT. Yet no one says how magical it feels!

Did I spill the wedding tea a bit? I suppose I did! But they’re all points that I think any bride or groom needs to know. It’s such a MASSIVE part of your lives, it’s wonderful but it won’t be easy, and I don’t think you can ever know too much!

Lynette x (3)

Post Wedding Pointers

As promised, I’m back with more wedding tips/guidance! I’m calling this ‘Post Wedding Pointers’ because these are things that we did or experienced that, (having come out the other side), we’re SO GLAD we did – even if it caused a bit of stress or extra work beforehand – it was worth it! So, diving straight in:

🏃‍♀️ Don’t Rush Into Anything 🏃‍♀️

Whether you’re tired of getting nowhere with photographers or have spent 6 months looking for the perfect signage…honestly, don’t rush it just for the sake of getting it ticked off your Checklist. Whilst it may feel better in the short term, it won’t in the long term. If you have something specific in mind, keep searching, IT IS out there! And with something like your photographer, you’re going to be spending a lot of time together, and they’re capturing your big day – you need to make sure you get on and that you trust them!

💐 Don’t Feel Obliged to
Stick to Tradition 💐

There are SO many different ways of doing weddings these days, so feel free to play around with how you do things! I didn’t want to toss my bouquet, so I didn’t. You want a different line up at your top table? Do it. By the same token, if you WANT to stick to tradition, DO, don’t let yourself be bullied into something you don’t want to do.

📸 Make a ‘Must Have’
Shot List 📸

If there are specific scenery shots you want as a couple, or special moments you want to try and capture, tell your photographer! They’ll work with you to try and incorporate all your wants, including the formal family shots (if you’re having them). And flipping this coin on it’s head, have a definite unplanned photo that Sugarbird captured when Ed got even more excited about having just tied the knot 😂

Lynette & Ed

🐑 Appoint a Photo Shepherd 🐑

However lovely they are, the formal photos can feel like a bit of a drag with so many combinations of people that you want to capture. Having got our pictures back, you can tell when our cheeks were starting to hurt from smiling, we had weird faces, which isn’t ideal 😂 Appoint a couple of people to organise and shepherd your family members so the process is as quick and straight forward as possible. Our Best Man and Maid of Honour were wonderful at ordering people about, and the family formals ran like a well oiled machine! Thankyou Emma and James 😊

📝 Email Itinerary to Family/Wedding Party 📝

It can be as vague or detailed as you want, but it’s good for the wedding party to know what’s going on – for their own piece of mind, but also because it’ll allow you the chance to breathe!

📧 Send Emails/FB Messages with Last Minute Requests 📧

So we had an ‘Unplugged Ceremony’ where we asked guests to store phones and cameras away, and we also asked for this for the first dance too. We wanted people to be present in the moment with us, not watching through a lens or a screen. It also meant our wedding photos came back and we could see our guests and their reactions/emotions, and not a sea of gadgets! We also didn’t want people uploading photos on the day (again, we wanted them to enjoy the day with us), and we asked they didn’t share any photos of us until our official photos came back too. We did all this via email or message (which was so easy), and everyone totally understood and respected our wishes. Thankyou lovely guests for being amazing 🙂

🎁 Designate Someone
To Collect Gifts/Cards/Decor 🎁

Whether you’re staying the night at your venue or not, you don’t want to leave anything chilling in a random room somewhere. Ask someone (maybe parents or wedding party) to collect up your gifts and cards and store them in their room. Then, you don’t have to worry, you know it’s taken care of, and you can just pick them up whenever suits you best.

Lynette & Ed

👰 You Set the Tone of
Your Day 👰

If you’re stressed or fretting about something, that will radiate – your guests will be looking for something not right, or something to go wrong. Take it all in your stride, what will be will be, there’s honestly no point stressing or worrying on your big day. Have fun and enjoy, and so will they!

👗 Make Sure You’ve Packed Appropriate Clothes for the
Next Day 👗

There are going to be so many things on your list of things to take to your venue, but don’t forget the time AFTER your wedding too! Whether you’re having brunch the next day with family, want to head to the pool or spa, or are having a nice dinner with your new hubby/wifey, make sure you’ve packed appropriate clothes! As gorgeous as your dress/suit will be, wearing it down to breakfast the next day won’t be ideal 😂

💌 Make Note of
Who Got You What 💌

Opening cards and wedding gifts is honestly so special! But don’t get carried away, make sure you make a note of who got you what. Whilst you’ll probably be able to remember most (if not all) for a few days after, it’s going to be really embarrassing if you thank someone for the wrong gift! We didn’t get round to sending out our Thankyou cards until a few weeks after the wedding because of the Honeymoon, (but had opened the prezzies as soon as we were home from the venue) – had I not written it all down, we’d have been in troubleeeeee.

🏝️ Take Time Off Before
Your Honeymoon 🏝️

This might not be for everyone, but honestly, we’re SO GLAD we waited a week before going away. Your wedding day is SO exhausting, and also taking into account the fact you may have struggled to sleep for a few days before…I can’t imagine jetting straight off on honeymoon. It took us a good few days to recover and recuperate, and we’d planned a week of chilling and coupley things (like going for a meal or going on a walk, things that we struggle to find time for ordinarily). We then flew off to Madeira a week later. We were able to fully enjoy the experience, we weren’t dead on our feet, and it extended the wedding too! 

Stay tuned for more wedding posts – I have some Wedding Day Tips and Things No One Tells You posts coming up – and next week, I’ll be sharing my Wedding Day Makeup!

Lynette x (3)

Wedding Planning Tips Part II

Planning your wedding is life encompassing. (As well as there being so much to do), I think it’s because despite the months and months of energy that goes into it, you’re never finished. There’s always something else to do, something else to plan – you manage to get one thing ticked off your checklist and there’s ALWAYS going to be something else that needs your attention, right up until the wedding is over! You’re planning the most magical day of your life and you want it to be absolutely perfect – so naturally, it’s stressful too.

I wrote a planning tips post before our wedding, but I needed to add some more – so here I am! You can check out Wedding Planning Tips Part I here.

There are so many wedding tips out there, but based on my experience, these are the biggest and most important ones that I felt needed sharing.

1. Write a checklist

There are honestly more things involved with planning a wedding than you think – I had no idea until I made our list, which I still kept adding to up to a week before the wedding! There’s no point trying to remember it all, so get it written down, and tick things off as and when they’re sorted (this’ll make you feel happy too!). Although not everything is on there (for example, I didn’t need to state obvious facts like ‘Mum take dress to venue’ or ‘have favours delivered’) you can see My Checklist Here.

2. Keep track of your spending

Firstly, you need to decide on your budget, a point I included in Part I. Once you have, stick to it and keep track of what you’re spending. Not gonna lie, it’s easier said than done, especially when you start getting magpied (yep, I’m turning that into a verb!) by gorgeous venues/decor/stationery/accessories (I’ve got a post about Things You Don’t Need But Want). I made a spreadsheet of all our expenditures as and when they got booked. It lists the vendor and/or product, the total amount, deposit amount, remaining balance, and a tick box for when the full payment had been made. And I’m so glad I did – it was quite sobering to write it all down and realise how quickly it was adding up!

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3. Make a priority list

Linked to the point above, I think it’s important to sit down with your fiance and decide which elements of the wedding you want to throw money at, and where you want to save. Some may want to splurge on the venue, some may want to save. Some may want to splurge on the decor, some may want to save. And this applies to every single thing you’ll organise, because there are so many options for every aspect of a wedding. We’re all different, all our ‘dream wedding’s are different, so make your own list. And an easy way of saving some pennies if your budget’s starting to weep…

4. …chop the Guest List

Ruthless, but it feels less so when you’re faced with a long list of names, each of which costing you a gazillion pounds per head. 

5. Invite who, and do what YOU want

I can’t stress enough, that you must remember this is YOUR day, and no one else’s. (Weddings work very differently now to 30 years ago, which some people may not realise – it may be worth just getting them, and yourself, clued in to these changes so there’s no confusion/unintentional ill feelings). YOU are the ones in charge, not anyone else, so don’t feel bullied into anything. And I only stress this so strongly, because after talking to other brides, this seems to be the biggest problem in 21st Century Wedding Planning, and the area that causes the most upset. 

6. Make a list of questions before meetings

Whoever you’re meeting with, whether it’s your wedding coordinator, favour vendor, dress seamstress (the list is endless), make a list of all the questions you want to ask – the ones you’ll want to know the answers to before signing on the dotted line. I’ve got lists of questions for your venue, photographer, and baker if you’re curious.

Lynette & Ed

7. Don’t be afraid of buying/booking early

In fact, the sooner the better! Particularly with bigger things like your venue and photographer which can get booked up years in advance – get booking to avoid disappointment! With all the craziness of moving house, and then life and work getting hectic, I’m so glad that I cracked on with a lot of things, despite worrying that I was doing it too soon. It meant a lot less stress later on, and trust me, you’ll want to have as little of that as possible close to the big day – there’ll be plenty of other things to be worrying about!

8. Ask for help when you need it

During the planning, the truth is, you and/or your fiance may feel like you want to tell everyone to back off and let you get on with planning your day by yourselves. But there will be plenty of family and friends offering their help, because it’s exciting for them too, and there will be occasions (however stubborn you are, or happy you are to be in control), that you WILL need that help. Take them up on their offer. Then it’s up to you how much instruction you give (depending on how much control you want to hand over/hang on to)! Just saying it as it kids. No planning articles tell you the truth about these things.

9. Write a separate checklist for your the wedding party of who’s doing what

From who’s attending what appointments, to who’s in charge of taking what to the venue, it’s not only peace of mind for you to have a note of this, but the family will feel happy to be kept in the loop, and clued in with what is/isn’t required of them.

Last, and most importantly…

Lynette & Ed

10. Work as a team with your fiance

I’ve spoken about how much of a stressful time it can be – mainly because that’s the bit no one tells you! But it will also be the most wonderful. It’s such a special time, and for me, it was made even more special by Ed and I doing a lot of it together – I have so many fond memories that I’ll cherish for the rest of my life. Make time for each other, share the work load, and enjoy every minute.

There are plenty more tips I can give, but these are my top 10 based on our experience. Not enough? Stay tuned, I’ve got a ‘Post Wedding Pointers’ post coming to you soon! 

Lynette x (3)

The Pros and Cons of Wedding Fayres

Before I start, full photo credit goes to the UK Wedding Event website. I made sure that all of the photos used were taken on the day we were there – so you can actually get a sense of the vibe we were feeling when we were walking round 😊

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After we got engaged, the main thing people said to me (after congratulations!), was ‘Go to a Wedding Fayre/Fayres’. A lot of Fayres are on Sundays which is one of my work days, so we only managed to get ourselves to one, back in the Easter Holidays. Which some might think was a shame, but honestly, it was a lovely afternoon, a great experience, and we didn’t come away feeling like we needed to source more ideas – we actually had too many!

I’d already done a fairly substantial amount of research by the time we went to the Fayre, hosted by The UK Wedding Event at the Harrogate Sun Pavilions. It was 6 weeks after our engagement, and by this point we already had the venue booked, colour scheme decided, and I’d sat for hoursssss on Pinterest looking at centre pieces, flowers cake, decor ideas… (Yes, organisation Queen is in her ELEMENT with this wedding planning malarkey!) There’s SO many ideas out there for any kind of wedding, and social media has proved to be a WONDERFUL tool (particularly Etsy, but I’m going to come back to that another time).

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I’ve put together a list of Pros and Cons about the event. Obviously, this is totally personal so I’m not claiming it’s the gospel truth, but I thought you might be interested 😊

PROS:

Meeting Local Suppliers:

One of the things that Ed and I had decided quite early on, was that we wanted to source as many LOCAL suppliers as possible. For a multitude of reasons, but the main two being:
a) We want to support local business
b) We have so many ties to the area (including him proposing at Knaresborough Castle)…it just felt like a really nice bow to tie our whole relationship together.
THIS was where the Wedding Fayre really delivered. We were able to meet local businesses (it turns out that one company that we’re definitely going to go with LITERALLY lives round the corner from us!), that we wouldn’t have found had we just sat on Google. 

Getting Ideas:

This is the main reason for all of my friend’s Fayre recommendations…there’ll be things there that you won’t find scrolling through Google or Pinterest (unless you have a million free hours). There was a guy at ours for example who did engravings and carvings into a variety of objects for place names, seating plans etc etc. I’d never have thought of using a mirror engraving as a seating plan, but there you go!

Goodie Bag:

YESSSSS who doesn’t LOVE a goodie bag?! With The UK Wedding Events team (who organise Fayres all over Yorkshire), you get a canvas tote on arrival with a floor plan of what’s where, and a bunch of wedding magazines and flyers. You’ll pick up more little freebies as you go round, but my fave (obviously) were the food stands 😉 Stood in Valley Gardens, eating strawberry/champagne fudge is NOT a bad way to spend a Sunday afternoon!

Spending time with your fiance:

Ed and I live together so we see each other every day, but because of work and house stresses the last few months, we’ve not had an awful lot of time to spend together in a ‘going out and doing things’ sense. I value every minute I spend with him anyway, but getting out of the flat and doing something adventurous or different is always lovely – and fun! 
As much as anything else, it’s nice to be able to start your wedding journey together. I know lots of partners will have different plans for who does what, as it’s not possible to do everything together. So being able to spend some time ‘wedding-ing’ (just the two of you as well, without any family or friends present) is really special. Especially when you’re recently engaged and it’s all still new and exciting and a bit weird, and people keep on congratulating you!

CONS:

Businesses going for ULTRA HARD SELL

I would definitely recommend going with a BIT of an action plan about what you want (or perhaps more accurately, what you DON’T want), because some people will try to do the HARD SELL. And I mean like, jump down your throat before you even get to their stand and won’t let you leave without signing up to their mailing list. So BE STRONG and just say no 💪 (Politely of course, you don’t have to barge past them, by all means have a conversation with them…but stand your ground). 

It’s Busy

We went later in the day in an attempt to avoid the crowds (although this COULD mean you miss out on freebies, but it was a risk we were willing to take). And it paid off for us getting there at 3pm, but I can imagine it being very cramped in there earlier in the day.

Getting emails MONTHS later from companies you had no idea existed

Kind of linked to the Hard Sell point I made. This is the problem with anyone you show any interest in…they insist on you writing down your name and email address. Which is great to essentially get a free reminder a few days later about the suppliers you liked, but I got a GDPR email from a random company a few weeks ago, which sent me into a mild panic: the name wasn’t anything to do with weddings, and it took me Googling the website link to realise it was a wedding ring company! Panic over, it wasn’t a stalker. But I’d totally forgotten I’d even given them my details. We weren’t interested in the slightest but I felt bad for the guy who had very few names on his sheet, so I suppose I’ve contradicted my earlier statement. At the end of the day though, it’s totally up to you how you choose to spend your experience; a s**t ton of emails might be a help to some, but may be a nuisance to others. 

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All in all, they’re great events to attend, and whilst there are a couple of cons, they really don’t outweigh all the pros – and this post wasn’t necessarily about reviewing the experience, it was to give you a general idea. I hadn’t read much about what to expect from a Wedding Fayre when I googled ahead of our visit, so I’m putting this out there in the hope it finds someone who really needs an honest opinion. OR, maybe you just fancied a nosey…it seems people are curious about wedding related thangs!

If you’ve enjoyed reading this, stay tuned by subscribing/following my blog because I’ve got plenty of other wedding post ideas! 😊

Lynette x (3)

How I Spent My Week Off

Does what it says on the tin I guess, no need for a massive introduction! I have no idea whether this is going to be of any interest or not, but seeing as having a full week of absolutely no work is so rare for me, I wanted to document it. So here we go!

Summer school finished on the Friday, I spent the Saturday planning for Autumn term, so we’re starting the week on Sunday. I’m going to give you a couple of little insights to each day…obviously, I won’t have spent my entire day doing these things, I fitted telly watching/laundry/grocery shopping/meal planning/general chilling into my days as well…but this isn’t a diary, so I won’t bore you with the nitty gritty things 😊

SUNDAY

IMG_3280.JPGI started the week with a GORGEOUS catch up with my best girl and Maid of Honour, whom I haven’t seen properly in months! (The coffee was too yummy on a cold day to take a pretty pic first, hence the empty cups you get instead 😉). I can tell you right now, I love adulting, and I love my job, but the two together means it’s near impossible to find time to socialise 😳 I think we all struggle, in our own ways. But it was so lovely to see her and a laugh! So after we’d had a cuppa and a good old natter, home I toddled to make soup, and sat down for the afternoon with my book. Following my Summer Reading List post, I’ve finished one book and am half way through the second! Quite an achievement for me in this short amount of time! Go and check out my list if you’re curious. 
The evening was finished off PERFECTLY with a beauts Chicken Thigh recipe from Alice’s first book, red wine, The Hobbit (Part 3), and my Bish 😊 (Which, by the way, is the nickname Ed and I have for each other. We’ve been friends for over 9 years now, and we’ve never called each other by our first names. Never. I have no idea where ‘Bish’ came from, and to refer to, it’s easy to call him Ed…but to his face…NAH. WEIRD. He’s Bish 😊)

MONDAY

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I had THE ULTIMATE BANK HOLIDAY MONG. Lots of sitting around doing nothing and watching Primeval (one of my August Hauls). Ed went out to get us a takeaway from So Bar (one of our faveeee places to eat, they do the most INSANE burgers), drank wine, and watched Fellowship of the Ring. Followed by a banoffee brownie (also from So) for pudding WHICH WAS AMAZING, especially after this ‘cleaner’ plan we’ve been on recently! It was a long time since we had a yummy, cosy night in like this together, and I’d really missed it.

TUESDAY

Voldy (my little Viva) was getting her first MOT (ever, and with me) on the Wednesday, so we went out to check over things. And to give her a wash. I CAN’T WAIT TILL WE MOVE so I don’t have to park under a tree anymore…white car + tree = leaves, bird mess, and a new natural habitat growing at the bottom of your windscreen between your wipers and bonnet. GROSS. I hadn’t driven for 6 weeks either, so that didn’t help! But never mind, she got some TLC.
IMG_3224Today is ALSO the day I started my Bullet Journal! I’d been sooooo excited to get organised (I’d been making blogging notes on my phone and iPad, but that wasn’t cutting it anymore). I planned it all out, I got out my new fine liners, I got artistic and started drawing too…I genuinely had loads of fun, I love drawing and colouring.
The day was finished with painting my nails with my new varnish from Prism Polish UK – again, I included this pic in my August Haul, but LOOK AT THAT COLOUR 😍

WEDNESDAY

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Voldy went for her MOT, passed, and came back even sparklier than before! In the time I had free , I went window shopping (with the new house in mind) in TK Maxx/Homesense, Matalan Home, Boots and Next, and finally finished up in Costa to have some lunch. I really enjoyed it actually, it’s been a long time since I got out to do something like that by myself. I really must try to do it more often (she says as the most stressful and manic couple of months begin 🙃😰) 

THURSDAY

August Haul was written, photos taken, and published. Doesn’t sound like much but this blogging malarkey really is a time consuming hobby! The rest of the day was spent filling in more of my journal, watching more Primeval, and trying to just chill out and wind down. I felt very pent up today, I’m not sure why…

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FRIDAY

Was a day of adulting, followed by  a trip to the theatre. First off, it was the first time I’d driven on the Motorway at 6pm on a Friday…well THAT was an experience! I’m used to travelling on a Sunday morning, when the traffic is fairly light, so creeping along some stretches nose to tail at 20 mph was a bit of a change! Not gonna lie, I was anxious about the journey ahead of time, and during, but I’m proud of myself for cracking on and not giving in, because now I can tick the ‘stressful motorway drive’ off the list of accomplishments!

IMG_3339Also, I have to do a quick shout out to the show I went to see…Wakefield Youth Music Theatre Group performing Les Mis. I’m still relatively new to the Wakefield theatre scene, and have only seen one production before now (which was this time last year)…but…WOW.
I think it’s natural to go to a youth group show with good (but perhaps not exceptional) expectations. HOW WRONG COULD I BE. I have learned, that when you go to Wakefield, you expect the best AND YOU’LL GET MORE. (I mean, to be fair, it’s a Louise Denison/Jim Lunt production, so OF COURSE it’s going to be incredible!) I genuinely couldn’t believe the passion and energy pouring off the stage from this group of kids and the standing O they received was totally deserved. If you’re in commutable distance of Wakey before the show closes at the end of this week, I URGE you to go, you won’t be disappointed. AND the other lovely thing, was that I got to see one of my girls who I hadn’t seen in nearly a year 😊

SATURDAY

IMG_3379I spent the first part of my day editing my ‘1 Second a Day’ video. I’d seen some friends post their 2017 videos at the beginning of this year and thought it was a lovely idea! I know that you can get apps that do it for you, but when I already pay my monthly subscription to Adobe for Premiere Pro, I figured I’d get my money’s worth and do it myself! Which is actually quite fun! 

I also figured I should start organising for when we move. So the afternoon was spent upstairs, sorting, packing things into bags and disassembling the storage rack (which, by the way, I’ll share at another point, probably in a ‘new house’ related post, because it’s so handy)!

SUNDAY

I know I started on a Sunday too, but WE WENT TO DUNELM MILL AND IT WAS AMAZING! First off, it was a day of adulting with my fiance, and I don’t think I can ever stress enough how special times like this are. The last time I visited Dunelm was when Mum, Dad and I were kitting out my flat in Sidcup, so that’ll be at least 5 years ago now, if not longer! The house Ed and I are moving in to is a new build so it’s a totally blank canvas – which means we can do everything from scratch and make it completely our own. With the wedding next year too, this is the start of a new chapter of our lives – and it really is quite exciting 😊 I don’t want to get too carried away now (which would be very easy because it was so fun!), because as I said, I’m reserving ‘house things’ to another time. 

I rarely get that ‘Sunday feeling’ because usually I work Friday-Tuesday, but after a week of absolutely no work and back to classes tonight, I was definitely feeling it a bit!

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Hope you all had a lovely summer – let’s get back to it! 💪

Lynette x (3)