The Wedding Series

After months of blogging about all things wedding, ‘The Wedding Series’ has come to an end! Before I sign off properly on this little project, I thought I’d write a post which includes links to each post I made – so everything’s in one place and easily accessible should anyone need it/want it. I’m going to go chronologically, from the very first post I wrote last July to last week.

Each title is linked, so you can get to each post easily!

PRE-WEDDING

I Said Yes To the Dress!

Read the story of my wedding dress shopping experience at The Bridal Factory Outlet in Northallerton.

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The Most Fun Things About Starting To Plan Your Wedding

All the best bits in one tidy little blog post.

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The Pros and Cons of
Wedding Fayres

Read about our experience of the UK Wedding Event at Harrogate Sun Pavilions.

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How To Manage
Wedding Stress

I can’t decide which is more stressful – moving house or planning a wedding. But it’s an epic task, it’ll take over your life, and when you’re in the middle of it, any stress relieving tips will help.

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Wedding Planning Tips Part 1

My top tips for having the most organised, magical experience possible.

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Wedding Checklist

Straight from my wedding spreadsheet (minus a few details that only our wedding needed). Grab a cuppa…

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Cute Wedding Things You Don’t Need…But Want!

There’s so many pretty, quirky and fun things out there that you’re going to want to add to your wedding…these are the ones that turned me into a magpie!

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Questions To Ask:
Your Venue

…before you sign on the dotted line.

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Questions To Ask:
Your Photographer

…to check you’re signing on for your perfect package.

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Questions To Ask:
Your Baker

…don’t get carried away by yummy cake and forget the important details!

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POST-WEDDING

Our Wedding Timeline

Our wedding day in pictures.

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Wedding Planning Tips Part 2

A few months on from the first post, because one alone wasn’t enough!

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Wedding Skin Prep

Read about the miracle products that got my skin wedding ready.

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Post Wedding Pointers

Tips I learned during wedding planning that I had to pass on to future brides and grooms.

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DIY Wedding Makeup

I did my own makeup – see what products I used.

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10 Things No One Tells You About Planning a Wedding

You read all the nice posts, and the advice posts…but what’s the reality? The things no one talks about?

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Top Tips For Your Wedding Day

Potentially my most important post! Tips for couples for the big day itself – tips to ensure you have the most happy, magical day possible.

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Questions You Never Thought To Ask About Your Wedding

You’ll have so many questions during the planning process, ones that never would have crossed your mind until you’re knee deep in planning! These were mine…

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Wedding Etiquette

…for both wedding guests AND the couple getting married!

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and finally,

 

My 7 Fave Wedding
Purchases From Etsy

Though it could’ve been so much more if I didn’t exercise some self restraint!

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Thankyou to everyone who’s supported both my blog and my Instagram in the last year since I started running it ‘properly’, it means so much to have the support of you lot.

Onto the next adventure!

Lynette x

My 7 Fave Wedding Purchases from Etsy

I honestly don’t know what I’d do without Etsy! I’ve used it for gifts before, but it’s such a gem when it comes to kitting out your wedding too. There’s so many gorgeous and wonderful things on there, but here are the ones that caught my attention, and made it to our wedding. I’ve linked all the product titles so you can get straight to each Etsy page if you want!

Signage

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Finding the perfect signage for our wedding literally took months and months of browsing, until finally I came across LolaandElvis. They have a few different design options, but I loved this one. All the types of signs we wanted were available, PLUS they were happy to create an ‘Unplugged Ceremony’ sign just for us! The service was impeccable, mock ups were emailed to me to check over, and nothing I asked was too much trouble. I felt like a valued customer, not just another number, and each sign was perfect when they arrived. I honestly can’t recommend this company enough.

Will You Be My Bridesmaid Proposal

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I mean, HOW CUTE are these?! I saw them and fell in love, because I thought they’d be a perfect little present to ask my girls to be my Bridesmaids 😊 There’s lots of choices for ribbon and flower colour, so yours can be totally unique!

Confetti

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It’s biodegradable, the colours were spot on for our colour scheme…what’s not to love?!

Bridal Hair Accessories

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You can get hair accessories from so many places, but I didn’t really know what I wanted. I decided early on that I was going to do my own hair, and with all the curls I wasn’t sure how I wanted to play it when it came to accessorising. So I decided to get a couple of grips like this so that I had the freedom to play around and use them however I wanted. I loved that, plus, they’re so pretty 😍

Father of Bride Cufflinks

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I wanted to get my Dad cufflinks as an ‘I love you/thankyou for everything’ present, and I stumbled across these which could be personalised with our wedding date (image from Etsy site, not ours). Personalised, yet classy…something I feel can sometimes be lost with personalised gifts. They were really special and I’m so glad I found them.

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Cheap and cheerful and they worked well with the rest of our signage! Again, what’s not to love?!

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I’m going to ignore the fact that there was some confusion with delivery (twice!) because it was sent to the wrong address (on the other side of the country!) for no reason…because I really love the product. I did a lot of spray painting for the wedding, so I ordered these in unpainted wood and sprayed them myself so everything would match…and saved quite a bit of money in doing so! They sat on our top table during the breakfast, on our gift table during the evening do, and now, on our living room windowsill! 

Who else is a massive Etsy fan?!

Lynette x

Wedding Etiquette

With my wedding series almost over, I thought it a good idea to write an etiquette post – for both wedding guests AND the happy couple (yep, there’s etiquette on both sides)! I’m sure in this day and age we’re all aware of the Do’s and Don’t’s…but it’s good to have a reminder…

If You’re the One
Getting Married:

 

Spouse invitations

If a guest is married, it’s required by etiquette (yeh, required, that’s the word that articles use!) to invite the spouse. I had to google this one as I was sure it was a ‘thing’ and it definitely is, so make sure you invite the significant others.

Send thankyou cards

Obviously, you’d thank anyone who gave you a wedding gift, but don’t just send a text – finish off your wedding with a flourish and do it on paper or card – maybe even using the same design template as you did for the rest of your stationery!

Don’t invite someone to the hen/stag if they’re not coming to the wedding

Goes without saying really I think, but how much of a slap in the face would that be?!

Chat to your guests

Receiving lines aren’t really a part of new traditions, but make sure you get round to all your guests for a quick chat. As well as it just being polite, surely you WANT to see them all?!

Accommodation

If your wedding isn’t close to home (be that 30 minutes, or 300 miles), you need to provide your guests with information about accommodation (and transport, for that matter)! If your venue has rooms, great, if not, hit google and find some nearby hotels that you can note down on your information cards.

Don’t put registry info on the invitation

Your invitation is something special, you’re telling people that they’re loved so much that you want them there on your special day! It may be tempting to get all your information out there at the same time (and save on stamps too, it doesn’t half get expensive when you’re posting all your invites!), but now is not the time to start asking for gifts. Save that for later.

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If You’re a Guest:

 

DON’T. WEAR. WHITE.

I can’t stress this enough. Even with a pattern on. There’s so many colours to choose from, please, just pick one of those. A bride would be totally within her rights to kick you out and never talk to you again if you turned up in white. I would’ve done had any of our guests turned up like that.
And by the same token, if you’re planning an outfit to stand out and make a statement, shame on you. Wear something nice, look gorgeous of course, but the couple has one day to themselves, one day as the centre of attention with family and friends around them – to attempt to stand out is selfish.

RSVP on time

The couple will have put an ‘RSVP by’ date on your invite. This is because they NEED TO KNOW BY THEN for a multitude of reasons, they haven’t just plucked it out of thin air. Don’t be the guest they have to chase: when it’s been made so clear, they won’t be your biggest fans for ignoring it.

No shows

Being a no show is a big no no! Weddings are expensive, and other people have missed out on the opportunity to be there because you RSVP’d yes. Unless you’re blown away to Oz in a tornado, you should be there.

Unless you’re the bride or groom, you’re a guest.

I’ve said it many times before, but weddings are mammoth tasks and very stressful. Unless you’re the ones getting married, you are a guest. Just smile sweetly, agree with everything that’s going on, don’t start questioning, grilling or making the couple feel guilty or obligated to do something (whether that’s during the planning or on the day itself) – it’s not your day, it’s theirs, and they’re doing what THEY want to do.

Turn your phone OFF

Particularly during the ceremony. The couple want you to be present with them in this special moment, not staring at them through a screen – if you’re interested in pictures, that’s what the photographer’s there for! Nothing will ruin a photo of the happy couple more than a sea of cameras and phones in the background.

Spell their names right

Whether it’s on a card or a personalised gift (especially the latter I suppose, when it’s likely to be more than a couple of quid), make sure the names are spelled right! It’s not a hard thing to double check, and it won’t be well received AT ALL if you get it wrong. Make sure you double check if you need to (with a family member or on Facebook, IT’S SO EASY so there’s no excuse)…otherwise, the gift/card you got will end up buried at the bottom of a box in the loft or in the bin, however nice it may have been! When it’s their wedding, I can guarantee it’ll be taken very personally. Anyone wanna guess if it happened to us…? 😂

Brides, Grooms, Guests – have you got all of that? Some of it sounds a little intense I know, but, I say it as it is, that’s me. 

Lynette x

Questions You Never Thought To Ask About Your Wedding

I’m pretty sure I’ve said it before, but I’ll say it again…there are SO many things involved with a wedding, so many more than you’d ever realise until you’re actually knee deep in table plans and decor spray painting! And there’ll be questions you need to know the answers to that never would have crossed your mind before. The point of this post is not to answer all these questions (I still don’t have answers to some of them!), but just point out some of the things you’ll want to research/ask your venue.

What happens with the confetti? 🌸

So, it’s arrived in a massive bag…how do we use it? Do I empty it into a big box and people grab a handful? Do I invest in confetti cones/baskets etc, and if so, how do guests get them?

Do I stand up with everyone during the speeches? 🥂

I’m the bride. People are toasting me. Is it rude if I stay sat down, or is it weird if I stand and effectively, toast myself? (I didn’t think about this until it was literally happening, I had no clue what I was supposed to do) 😳

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Where do the bouquets go after the ceremony? 💐

I think each wedding will be different, but our coordinator suggested using my bouquet as decoration for the cake table. Which was lovely! I just hadn’t given my bouquet a second thought (past the ceremony) until a couple of weeks before the wedding.

Groom – Where do I look when I’m at the end of the aisle? 🤵

Straight forwards? To the bridesmaids and approaching bride? A bit of both? This is a question Ed asked before the wedding, but I think by the time it got to the day, there’s that much going on and emotions are so high, you don’t even have chance to worry about it!

When do I take my veil off? 👰

Immediately after the ceremony? After the photos? Before the evening do? Or leave it on all day? After lots of researching, it seems it’s one of those things that is down to each individual bride. So I just decided I’d take it off when I’d had enough of it. And that came after the speeches when we were tucking into the wedding breakfast, because it was making me warm and annoying my bare upper back.

What time does the sun set? ☀️

You want those gorgeous sunset pics? You’re going to need to know what time the sun sets. Make sure you find out and add it to your itinerary so you know when in the proceedings you need to slip away.

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What happens with my engagement ring? 💍

The main answer to this question (when googling) seems to be to wear it on the other hand. Which is all well and good unless it doesn’t fit. I’ve got relatively thin fingers, so getting a ring over my knuckle is a struggle anyway, I wasn’t going to force it onto my right hand and get it stuck! So dad looked after it and I popped it on again after the ceremony.

How do I feed the photographer? 📸

Is he bringing a pack up, or do I need to find him a seat at the wedding breakfast? One I can’t answer and you’ll have to ask your venue, but we paid for ours to eat in the lounge bar next to the breakfast room.

Can we book our honeymoon in my married name? ✈️

Yes you can, because you can get a post dated passport. You’ll need a special application form, and a signed form from your officiant with details of your ceremony (don’t worry, it’s fairly straight forward). You won’t be able to use your new passport until you’re married, but once you ARE, you’re all set to jet off as Mr and Mrs.

And there’ll be plenty more that you’ll encounter during your wedding planning. Anyone else out there come across these kinds of ‘OMG I have no idea’ kind of surprise questions during their planning?

Lynette x

Post Wedding Pointers

As promised, I’m back with more wedding tips/guidance! I’m calling this ‘Post Wedding Pointers’ because these are things that we did or experienced that, (having come out the other side), we’re SO GLAD we did – even if it caused a bit of stress or extra work beforehand – it was worth it! So, diving straight in:

🏃‍♀️ Don’t Rush Into Anything 🏃‍♀️

Whether you’re tired of getting nowhere with photographers or have spent 6 months looking for the perfect signage…honestly, don’t rush it just for the sake of getting it ticked off your Checklist. Whilst it may feel better in the short term, it won’t in the long term. If you have something specific in mind, keep searching, IT IS out there! And with something like your photographer, you’re going to be spending a lot of time together, and they’re capturing your big day – you need to make sure you get on and that you trust them!

💐 Don’t Feel Obliged to
Stick to Tradition 💐

There are SO many different ways of doing weddings these days, so feel free to play around with how you do things! I didn’t want to toss my bouquet, so I didn’t. You want a different line up at your top table? Do it. By the same token, if you WANT to stick to tradition, DO, don’t let yourself be bullied into something you don’t want to do.

📸 Make a ‘Must Have’
Shot List 📸

If there are specific scenery shots you want as a couple, or special moments you want to try and capture, tell your photographer! They’ll work with you to try and incorporate all your wants, including the formal family shots (if you’re having them). And flipping this coin on it’s head, have a definite unplanned photo that Sugarbird captured when Ed got even more excited about having just tied the knot 😂

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🐑 Appoint a Photo Shepherd 🐑

However lovely they are, the formal photos can feel like a bit of a drag with so many combinations of people that you want to capture. Having got our pictures back, you can tell when our cheeks were starting to hurt from smiling, we had weird faces, which isn’t ideal 😂 Appoint a couple of people to organise and shepherd your family members so the process is as quick and straight forward as possible. Our Best Man and Maid of Honour were wonderful at ordering people about, and the family formals ran like a well oiled machine! Thankyou Emma and James 😊

📝 Email Itinerary to Family/Wedding Party 📝

It can be as vague or detailed as you want, but it’s good for the wedding party to know what’s going on – for their own piece of mind, but also because it’ll allow you the chance to breathe!

📧 Send Emails/FB Messages with Last Minute Requests 📧

So we had an ‘Unplugged Ceremony’ where we asked guests to store phones and cameras away, and we also asked for this for the first dance too. We wanted people to be present in the moment with us, not watching through a lens or a screen. It also meant our wedding photos came back and we could see our guests and their reactions/emotions, and not a sea of gadgets! We also didn’t want people uploading photos on the day (again, we wanted them to enjoy the day with us), and we asked they didn’t share any photos of us until our official photos came back too. We did all this via email or message (which was so easy), and everyone totally understood and respected our wishes. Thankyou lovely guests for being amazing 🙂

🎁 Designate Someone
To Collect Gifts/Cards/Decor 🎁

Whether you’re staying the night at your venue or not, you don’t want to leave anything chilling in a random room somewhere. Ask someone (maybe parents or wedding party) to collect up your gifts and cards and store them in their room. Then, you don’t have to worry, you know it’s taken care of, and you can just pick them up whenever suits you best.

Lynette & Ed

👰 You Set the Tone of
Your Day 👰

If you’re stressed or fretting about something, that will radiate – your guests will be looking for something not right, or something to go wrong. Take it all in your stride, what will be will be, there’s honestly no point stressing or worrying on your big day. Have fun and enjoy, and so will they!

👗 Make Sure You’ve Packed Appropriate Clothes for the
Next Day 👗

There are going to be so many things on your list of things to take to your venue, but don’t forget the time AFTER your wedding too! Whether you’re having brunch the next day with family, want to head to the pool or spa, or are having a nice dinner with your new hubby/wifey, make sure you’ve packed appropriate clothes! As gorgeous as your dress/suit will be, wearing it down to breakfast the next day won’t be ideal 😂

💌 Make Note of
Who Got You What 💌

Opening cards and wedding gifts is honestly so special! But don’t get carried away, make sure you make a note of who got you what. Whilst you’ll probably be able to remember most (if not all) for a few days after, it’s going to be really embarrassing if you thank someone for the wrong gift! We didn’t get round to sending out our Thankyou cards until a few weeks after the wedding because of the Honeymoon, (but had opened the prezzies as soon as we were home from the venue) – had I not written it all down, we’d have been in troubleeeeee.

🏝️ Take Time Off Before
Your Honeymoon 🏝️

This might not be for everyone, but honestly, we’re SO GLAD we waited a week before going away. Your wedding day is SO exhausting, and also taking into account the fact you may have struggled to sleep for a few days before…I can’t imagine jetting straight off on honeymoon. It took us a good few days to recover and recuperate, and we’d planned a week of chilling and coupley things (like going for a meal or going on a walk, things that we struggle to find time for ordinarily). We then flew off to Madeira a week later. We were able to fully enjoy the experience, we weren’t dead on our feet, and it extended the wedding too! 

Stay tuned for more wedding posts – I have some Wedding Day Tips and Things No One Tells You posts coming up – and next week, I’ll be sharing my Wedding Day Makeup!

Lynette x

Our Wedding Timeline

Wow, it’s been such a long time since I last posted on the blog! I’m sure you know why (and if you don’t, you can guess by the content of this post)…WE GOT MARRIED! Welcome back/hi lovely readers. After THE MOST INCREDIBLE DAY OF OUR LIVES last month, our photos came back earlier this week. Sugarbird managed to capture our day perfectly, and we’re over the moon with every single photo!  

Whether it’s a cliche to say or not, it really was the most magical day of our lives, and we’re so incredibly grateful to every single person who celebrated with us or sent messages of congrats and well wishes – the love we’ve experienced in the last month is extraordinary and we feel so lucky. I could waffle on for multiple paragraphs about how out of this world the whole experience has been, but that’s not why you’re here…you’re here for a photographic timeline of the day! So here we go:

7:00am – Alarm (may or may not have already been awake)

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7:30am – Bridesmaids arrive, bridal party start getting ready

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8:00am – Groom gets ready

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9:00amSugarbird arrives and starts snapping away

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9:30am – Flowers arrive

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10:00am – Groomsmen are ready and preparing to meet guests

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10:15am – Guests start to arrive

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10:20am – Last minute hair tidying

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10:30am – The dress goes on

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10:40am – Dad arrives in Bridal Suite

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10:50am – Guests seated, Groom trying to remain as calm as possible

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10:59am – Show time

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11:00am – Ceremony

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11:30am – Mr & Mrs

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11:40am – Slip away from guests for ‘us’ time

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11:50am – Return to drinks reception and mingle

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12:00pm – Confetti and formal photos outside

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12:20pm – Get the bloomin’ sixpence out of the shoe, because after 2 hours, it hurts

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12:25pm – Couple shots

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12:40pm – Breathe. The adrenalin’s wearing off and exhaustion setting in…

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1:00pm – Second wind! Call in to wedding breakfast

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1:15pm – Speeches

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1:45pm – Food!

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3:45pm – Quiz

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5:00pm – The Great Bishy Bake Off

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5:45pm – Guests mingle, photo time for us

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7:00pm – Evening guests arrive

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7:30pm – Cut cake

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7:35pm – First dance

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7:40pm – Parent’s dance

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7:45pm – Buffet, sweet cart, PARTY!

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8:30pm – Outside for sunset shots and a walk around the grounds together

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10:00pm – Sparklers and Fireworks

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10:30pm – Hot dogs and more dancing!

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12:00am – Home time. Thankyou to everyone who shared in our special day ❤️

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Lynette x

Questions To Ask: Your Venue

Okay, WELCOME to a subcategory of ‘The Wedding Series’ – ‘Questions To Ask…’!

Viewing venues and doing your research is really fun, but what about when you get to your meetings? What are the important questions to ask before signing that contract? Same applies for your photographer, baker, florist…hence this new little category!

Our venue coordinator is amazing, and a lot of these questions were actually answered during our initial show around/sit down (that level of efficiency gave me real peace of mind moving forward!), but here’s the list I compiled last March!

And let me just point out too, that this is the list for the initial meeting, when you and your fiance are in the midst of venue viewings and trying to get a feel for which venue fits you best. There will be PLENTY more questions you’ll want to ask during the planning process, but these are the ones you want to know before booking.

Questions To Ask: Your Venue

  1. Is wedding insurance included in the price?
  2. How long can you hold the date we want?
  3. Chair decor – is it included in the package/options/prices?
  4. Vendors – do you have suppliers you recommend/work with regularly?
  5. Can we have lit candles?
  6. Do you have any rules about confetti, fireworks or other decorations?
  7. Will we have to hire/pay extra for chairs, glassware, table cloths etc?
  8. What are our lighting options for the reception?
  9. Is there a safe place for gifts?
  10. Is VAT included in the final price?
  11. Accommodation – do guests pay us, or the venue directly?
  12. Do you provide mics for speeches?
  13. Will we need to vacate any rooms for setting up (at any time during the day)? If so, what are our options during that time?
  14. Does the bar take cash or card?
  15. Is there a schedule for; initial deposit, final payment, charges for staff.
  16. Will the venue clear everything away afterwards?
  17. When can we start setting up?
  18. Do you have public liability insurance?
  19. What are your usual timings for the day (ceremony, food etc)?
  20. Can we move things around to decorate?
  21. Can we have a written confirmation email and contract?
  22. Diameter of circular tables (how much room will we have for centre pieces)?
  23. Does the DJ provide their own decorations (star cloths, uplights etc)?
  24. Do you provide easels for signs?
  25. Do you provide a cake stand and knife?
  26. Do you host more than one event at a time?
  27. Do you allow sparklers?
  28. How many guests can you accommodate in the day/evening?
  29. Which rooms are licensed for civil ceremonies?
  30. Do you/how do you cater for food allergies/vegetarians/vegans?

As I said, there will be LOADSSSS more questions that will come up during the planning process, these are just the ones to get you going before you sign on the dotted line. There are (of course) more questions that you can ask (questions that will be on wedding sites and other articles), but a lot of these will actually be answered on the venue’s website/in the brochure, before you even go for a viewing!

Things like:
Do you offer a complimentary menu tasting?
How much wine is included per person?
What evening food do you offer?

…which is why they haven’t been included in my list. These are all the questions we asked, got firm answers right there on the spot, and we came back feeling very well informed – and in a good place to move forward with the booking!

ONLY 3 WEEKS TO GO NOW!

Lynette x