10 Things No One Tells You About Planning a Wedding

So you have a rough idea in your head of what planning a wedding entails, and you can read all the advice articles you want…but there’s some elements of planning that no one mentions. So I’m gonna do that now. And I’m gonna start with a big one, because it’s something we had no clue about, yet caused drama, and I think anyone planning a wedding needs to be aware of this! And number two is Ed’s most important lesson.

1. Traditions have changed

There are a lot of traditions that have changed in the 30 years since our parents got married. We had an issue with corsages (I know 🙄), which was purely down to both generations doing things their own way, assuming ‘that’s just how things are done’ and not realising the others’ idea of tradition was the complete opposite! So my advice would be to stay aware, discuss lots with your family/guests, just to make sure you’re all on the same page.

2. Share your burdens

“Stress can, and WILL sneak up on you. Be sure to share your burdens with your partner and not keep them bottled up. You’re marrying this person, they’re the most important person in your life – they, of all people, need to know if you’re struggling.”

3. Who arrives when

The guest list itself will probably be quite easy, and you’ll keep adding names to it for a few months (you’re bound to forget a couple of distant relations or make new friends that you’d like to have there). The tricky bit, is deciding who comes to what part of the day – particularly if you have a set amount of guests that you’ve agreed with your venue, and adding an extra head costs a lot of dolla! You’re just going to have to be ruthless (you’ll find your own way of doing this), but know it’s going to take a while to decide. Make sure you have a bottle of wine (or two!) handy…

Lynette & Ed

4. It’s a nightmare trying to find a photographer

Not for any negative reason though, I might add. It’s just – your photos are the one thing that immortalise your wedding, the one reminder of the day, the only professional documentation you’ll have. And that comes with a lot of pressure, because you don’t just want to jump into something for the sake of it. You need to sit down with your fiance and have a chat about what kind of style you like, how much you’re willing to spend, and the kind of package you want. There are lots of wonderful photographers out there, and maybe some couples get lucky by stumbling across their perfect match straight away (remember, you’ve got to get on as well – you’ll be spending a lot of time with them!)…but it took us months to find Sugarbird. Worth the wait though 😉

5. You’ll be spoilt for choice with decor

Honestly, it won’t be a case of trying to find decor for your day that matches your theme, rather, you have to decide what NOT to have. You only have to type your colour sceme and ‘wedding’ into Pinterest to find THOUSANDS of ideas. Everything looks so gorgeous, there’ll be creative ideas you never thought of, and it’ll take you weeks (perhaps months!) to decide what you’re going to do, and how you’re going to do it.

Lynette & Ed

6. Wedding Fayres will expose you to so many LOCAL suppliers

Which is amazing! We both grew up here, went to school here, met here, decided to move back here independently of each other (but at the same time) after a bit of adulting, bought our first house here, and Ed proposed here – we have such a special bond with our home town, we wanted to source and use as many local suppliers as possible for our wedding day. As well as loving supporting small businesses, it just felt right. And we wouldn’t have met all these lovely people were it not for our trip to the Sun Pavilions in Harrogate for the UK Wedding Event. We discovered our Favour suppliers there, who turned out to live just round the corner from us! Can’t get more local than that 🍬

7. You’ll be refreshing your email every 30 seconds

Whether it’s waiting for confirmation from a supplier, or the answer to a burning question, you’ll be refreshing your email so often it’s not even funny. And when you see an email coming in, the mini heart attack happens – it dies down again if it’s just spam, but then you’re back to square one! Waiting. Refreshing…

8. It’s easy for the budget to get out of control

No, SERIOUSLY. It’s so easy it’s not even funny. Set your budget, try to guestimate how much you’ll spend on each element, and keep an excel spreadsheet of how much you spend on every single thing you buy. It’s all well and good thinking of the big things like the dress/flowers/rings/cake etc, but if you don’t keep track of the placenames/confetti cones/passport name change/registrar fees – you’re going to find yourself in deep doo doo.

Lynette & Ed

9. Whilst it’s your day, you want to keep your family happy – AND IT’S HARD

I’ve said it so many times before and I’ll say it again – it’s your big day, do what YOU want, don’t feel pressured into anything by anyone else. But that being said, obviously it’s natural to listen to wants/requests. It’s your family, you love them, and you want them to be happy, so if there’s a decision you’ve made that totally conflicts with a problem they have – it really is tricky. Out the other side of it, I still stick by my statement of ‘DO WHAT YOU WANT’, but just be aware that it’s hard. And try not to get ill from the stress like we did. Only a little bit bitter about that… 🙃

10. It’s stressful but you’ll feel SO MUSHY

I’ve never felt as 😍 and mushy and warm and fuzzy as when we were wedding planning (until we got married that is, the ice heart has officially thawed). It’s so exciting, so special, and you will ABSOLUTELY LOVE IT. Yet no one says how magical it feels!

Did I spill the wedding tea a bit? I suppose I did! But they’re all points that I think any bride or groom needs to know. It’s such a MASSIVE part of your lives, it’s wonderful but it won’t be easy, and I don’t think you can ever know too much!

Lynette x

DIY Wedding Makeup

I made the decision quite early on that I wanted to do my own wedding makeup, for a couple of reasons. I’ve spoken before about making a priority list when it comes to spending, and (personally) I couldn’t justify spending a couple of hundred on makeup (and hair) for me and my bridesmaids – I decided I’d rather spend the money elsewhere. So, I did some research, talked to some MUA friends, and made my Wedding Makeup Bag by myself.

And I’m really glad I did! I was happy with my makeup on the day, I still looked like myself, and I came across some life changing products that I’ve introduced into my regular makeup routine too! Winner winner! So, here we go.

Smashbox Photo Finish Primer

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I’ve never spent this amount of money on makeup before, but I thought it was worth a go after a few glowing reviews from fellow bloggers. And oh my. It’s worth EVERY PENNY. It goes on gorgeously, makes your skin feel amazing, and since I started using it in January, have never had a problem with foundation going patchy or coming off easily. It’s nothing like any other primer I’ve used, and I’ll never use anything else again!

Max Factor Eyeshadow Primer

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I hadn’t used eyeshadow primer before, so I don’t have anything to compare this to. But I used it, and my eyeshadow stayed on all day so…tick!

Barry M Green Concealer

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You might not need it, but it’s one of those products you want with you, just in case! The green neutralises any red patches or angry spots, which is fab..just make sure to pop some concealer over the top before your foundation, you don’t want any green patches peeking through!

Collection Lasting Perfection Concealer

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I struggled for years to find a concealer that was the same tone as my skin, so when I found ‘extra fair’, I was over the moon! Great coverage, it doesn’t leave me with orange patches on my skin, I love it!

Wunder 2 Last & Foundation

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I’ve always struggled to find a good full coverage foundation that isn’t cakey but has really good staying ability. I’ve never had much confidence in my skin so have needed good coverage, but with all the dancing and sweating, I’ve needed something that will stay…so I’ve always been on the look out for ‘revolutionary’ products. I saw this advertised on Facebook a few months back, and thought I’d give it a go. And I’m so glad I did! It does all that I want it to, plus it doesn’t rub off onto clothes! The only negative is that the palest shade isn’t THAT fair, and only matches my neck when I have tan on, so I don’t use it all the time. BUT it was perfect for the wedding and I highly recommend it.

Revolution Cream Contour – Fair

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Contour is new for me, so I went for this kit as it seems to be aimed at contour beginners. I’m sure there are other great kits out there, but this works great for me, and I’ve found it fairly easy to use. I love that it has a yellow cream in there too – perfect for battling those dark circles after sleepless nights! With my fair skin, I also use the lightest cream in here as highlighter…which works really well.

Rimmel Insta Fix & Matte Setting Powder

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I’ve used this for about a year, and coupled with good staying foundation, is an absolute dream!

Collection Blusher – Bashful

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An old faithful – I like it, it works, it’s affordable, so yay!

Loreal True Match Highlighter

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Again, it’s been in my makeup bag for years, and is a dream on my fairer skin

Collection Fast Stroke Eyeliner

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I’m rubbish with eyeliner, so I stuck with my old trusty liquid Collection 2000.

Ardell Demi Wispies

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I’ve used lashes for years when I’ve been on stage, but I’ve never needed a natural lash before. After umming and ahhing for ages, an MUA friend recommended Demi Wispies, which she uses on her brides. I invested and immediately fell in love! They’ve got enough volume to make a difference, but are still nice and natural. Highly recommend these – thankyou Tors! 😘

Bourjois Volume Reveal Waterproof Mascara

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100% you need waterproof on your wedding day! I’ve used the same mascara for 10 years because it’s perfect and I love it, so this one was bought purely to avoid panda eyes, based on good amazon reviews. Because of the lashes, I wasn’t too fussy because you could only see the mascara in action on the lower lash.

Revolution Eyeshadow Pallet – Flawless Matte

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There are so many pallets out there for us to fall in love with, but it’s something I didn’t want to spend loads on. I’ve got 2 Revolution pallets, one sparkle, one matte (I used the latter for my wedding makeup) and I wouldn’t be without them. Plenty of colours to choose from for all looks, and very affordable!

Rimmel Brow This Way

Again I’ve used this for years now, have always been happy with it…so if it ain’t broke, don’t fix it 😊 I only just started using the gel, but it’s great at keeping any little strays in place.

Rimmel Exaggerate Lip Liner – Eastend Snob

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An old favourite, good old Rimmel! It’s a twist up, which I’ve found recently to be more sharp and accurate than pencil liners. I used pink but have it in a couple of other colours too.

Charlotte Tilbury Hot Lips – Liv It Up

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I struggled to find the perfect lipstick shade for MONTHS, but finally found myself on the Charlotte Tilbury website. I love than you can mock up all the lipsticks on different skin tones/hair colours online, so after a bit of playing around, opted for Hot Lips in shade ‘Liv It Up’. It was the perfect shade of pink – pink enough to be ‘look at my pretty lips’ but not too over the top. I was obsessed as soon as it arrived, it worked perfectly with the rest of my makeup and my dress, and I continue to be now as I use it in every day life!

Lipcote

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Part of the reason for struggling to find a good lippy, was that I was looking for the perfect colour, that wasn’t matte, but most importantly, was long lasting. I gave up on this when my mother in law told me about Lipcote, the product that locks your lippy in place. After all my years of performing, I can’t believe I’d never come across it before! After a few hours it CAN become flaky, but I just went upstairs before the evening do, wiped my lips off and started again. I’m so glad I used this because it meant I could wear my PERFECT lipstick shade 😊

Smashbox Setting Spray

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I didn’t even THINK about setting spray until a couple of days before, but thankfully, my mother in law had a little Smashbox tester! Hooray for Smashbox!

I’m so glad I did my own makeup. I was totally in control, I saved money, and I ended up discovering new (really good!) products that I’ve been able to add to my makeup bag! Yay! 💄

Lynette x

Questions To Ask: Your Photographer

Welcome back to another ‘Questions To Ask’ post as part of The Wedding Series! Today, I’m talking about questions to ask your wedding photographer. And let’s face it, your photographer is VERY important – they’re going to be the source of eternalising your big day!

This list isn’t as long as Questions To Ask: Your Venue, but a lot of information you’ll want to know will be readily available on websites/facebook pages/other social media. So I’m also going to talk you through our process a little bit.

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When looking for your photographer, it’s really a case of taking time to browse. Talk to your fiance and decide on what kind of style you like, then get yourself on Google, Instagram, Facebook, and check out information you get at wedding fayres too. Insta really was key for me – having access to so many of a photographer’s images that easily, really does give you a great impression of all the different kinds of work they produce. From there, I followed links to websites to find out more about packages they offered/prices/reviews etc.

Finding our photographer was definitely one of the hardest tasks of the planning process. There’s SO many amazing photographers out there, and trying to narrow it down really was a struggle. But when I happened across the Instagram page of Sugarbird, I just knew the search was over (and Ed agreed when I showed him too)!

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We didn’t even need to get to the end of our meeting with James to share a ‘look’ and know that we wanted to book him – and we did, right then and there in the pub! 🍻

It’s important to remember that whilst you can do your research and love their photos, you’re going to be spending the entirety of your special day with this person…you need to make sure you get on! Do you feel connected to their photos, and do you feel in your gut that you can trust them to capture your wedding day perfectly? These photos will stay with you forever!

So after doing all my research and arranging a meeting, here’s the list I wrote…and started quizzing as soon as I was prompted! 🙊

  1. How long have you been in business?
  2. Have you shot at our venue before? If not, do you plan to check it out beforehand?
  3. How much do you charge to stay an hour or so later?
  4. Can we give you a list of specific shots that we’d like?
  5. Will we receive a written contract?
  6. How much is the deposit?
  7. Is there a payment plan?
  8. Do you charge a travel fee?
  9. What time will you arrive at the venue?
  10. How soon after the wedding day will the proofs be available?
  11. Is retouching included in the price?
  12. How much is it for a second photographer?
  13. What happens if you’re ill on the day?
  14. What information do you need from us before the day?
  15. Do you have Public Liability Insurance?

And as well as those important questions, I really can’t stress enough that you should follow your gut/s. These photos are so important, you want to make sure you’re making the right decisions for the right reasons, and that the images you get back will reflect you as a couple.

Lynette & Ed

Photo credit goes to the wonderful Sugarbird Photography following our pre-wedding shoot 📸

Lynette x