Post Wedding Pointers

As promised, I’m back with more wedding tips/guidance! I’m calling this ‘Post Wedding Pointers’ because these are things that we did or experienced that, (having come out the other side), we’re SO GLAD we did – even if it caused a bit of stress or extra work beforehand – it was worth it! So, diving straight in:

🏃‍♀️ Don’t Rush Into Anything 🏃‍♀️

Whether you’re tired of getting nowhere with photographers or have spent 6 months looking for the perfect signage…honestly, don’t rush it just for the sake of getting it ticked off your Checklist. Whilst it may feel better in the short term, it won’t in the long term. If you have something specific in mind, keep searching, IT IS out there! And with something like your photographer, you’re going to be spending a lot of time together, and they’re capturing your big day – you need to make sure you get on and that you trust them!

💐 Don’t Feel Obliged to
Stick to Tradition 💐

There are SO many different ways of doing weddings these days, so feel free to play around with how you do things! I didn’t want to toss my bouquet, so I didn’t. You want a different line up at your top table? Do it. By the same token, if you WANT to stick to tradition, DO, don’t let yourself be bullied into something you don’t want to do.

📸 Make a ‘Must Have’
Shot List 📸

If there are specific scenery shots you want as a couple, or special moments you want to try and capture, tell your photographer! They’ll work with you to try and incorporate all your wants, including the formal family shots (if you’re having them). And flipping this coin on it’s head, have a definite unplanned photo that Sugarbird captured when Ed got even more excited about having just tied the knot 😂

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🐑 Appoint a Photo Shepherd 🐑

However lovely they are, the formal photos can feel like a bit of a drag with so many combinations of people that you want to capture. Having got our pictures back, you can tell when our cheeks were starting to hurt from smiling, we had weird faces, which isn’t ideal 😂 Appoint a couple of people to organise and shepherd your family members so the process is as quick and straight forward as possible. Our Best Man and Maid of Honour were wonderful at ordering people about, and the family formals ran like a well oiled machine! Thankyou Emma and James 😊

📝 Email Itinerary to Family/Wedding Party 📝

It can be as vague or detailed as you want, but it’s good for the wedding party to know what’s going on – for their own piece of mind, but also because it’ll allow you the chance to breathe!

📧 Send Emails/FB Messages with Last Minute Requests 📧

So we had an ‘Unplugged Ceremony’ where we asked guests to store phones and cameras away, and we also asked for this for the first dance too. We wanted people to be present in the moment with us, not watching through a lens or a screen. It also meant our wedding photos came back and we could see our guests and their reactions/emotions, and not a sea of gadgets! We also didn’t want people uploading photos on the day (again, we wanted them to enjoy the day with us), and we asked they didn’t share any photos of us until our official photos came back too. We did all this via email or message (which was so easy), and everyone totally understood and respected our wishes. Thankyou lovely guests for being amazing 🙂

🎁 Designate Someone
To Collect Gifts/Cards/Decor 🎁

Whether you’re staying the night at your venue or not, you don’t want to leave anything chilling in a random room somewhere. Ask someone (maybe parents or wedding party) to collect up your gifts and cards and store them in their room. Then, you don’t have to worry, you know it’s taken care of, and you can just pick them up whenever suits you best.

Lynette & Ed

👰 You Set the Tone of
Your Day 👰

If you’re stressed or fretting about something, that will radiate – your guests will be looking for something not right, or something to go wrong. Take it all in your stride, what will be will be, there’s honestly no point stressing or worrying on your big day. Have fun and enjoy, and so will they!

👗 Make Sure You’ve Packed Appropriate Clothes for the
Next Day 👗

There are going to be so many things on your list of things to take to your venue, but don’t forget the time AFTER your wedding too! Whether you’re having brunch the next day with family, want to head to the pool or spa, or are having a nice dinner with your new hubby/wifey, make sure you’ve packed appropriate clothes! As gorgeous as your dress/suit will be, wearing it down to breakfast the next day won’t be ideal 😂

💌 Make Note of
Who Got You What 💌

Opening cards and wedding gifts is honestly so special! But don’t get carried away, make sure you make a note of who got you what. Whilst you’ll probably be able to remember most (if not all) for a few days after, it’s going to be really embarrassing if you thank someone for the wrong gift! We didn’t get round to sending out our Thankyou cards until a few weeks after the wedding because of the Honeymoon, (but had opened the prezzies as soon as we were home from the venue) – had I not written it all down, we’d have been in troubleeeeee.

🏝️ Take Time Off Before
Your Honeymoon 🏝️

This might not be for everyone, but honestly, we’re SO GLAD we waited a week before going away. Your wedding day is SO exhausting, and also taking into account the fact you may have struggled to sleep for a few days before…I can’t imagine jetting straight off on honeymoon. It took us a good few days to recover and recuperate, and we’d planned a week of chilling and coupley things (like going for a meal or going on a walk, things that we struggle to find time for ordinarily). We then flew off to Madeira a week later. We were able to fully enjoy the experience, we weren’t dead on our feet, and it extended the wedding too! 

Stay tuned for more wedding posts – I have some Wedding Day Tips and Things No One Tells You posts coming up – and next week, I’ll be sharing my Wedding Day Makeup!

Lynette x

Questions To Ask: Your Photographer

Welcome back to another ‘Questions To Ask’ post as part of The Wedding Series! Today, I’m talking about questions to ask your wedding photographer. And let’s face it, your photographer is VERY important – they’re going to be the source of eternalising your big day!

This list isn’t as long as Questions To Ask: Your Venue, but a lot of information you’ll want to know will be readily available on websites/facebook pages/other social media. So I’m also going to talk you through our process a little bit.

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When looking for your photographer, it’s really a case of taking time to browse. Talk to your fiance and decide on what kind of style you like, then get yourself on Google, Instagram, Facebook, and check out information you get at wedding fayres too. Insta really was key for me – having access to so many of a photographer’s images that easily, really does give you a great impression of all the different kinds of work they produce. From there, I followed links to websites to find out more about packages they offered/prices/reviews etc.

Finding our photographer was definitely one of the hardest tasks of the planning process. There’s SO many amazing photographers out there, and trying to narrow it down really was a struggle. But when I happened across the Instagram page of Sugarbird, I just knew the search was over (and Ed agreed when I showed him too)!

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We didn’t even need to get to the end of our meeting with James to share a ‘look’ and know that we wanted to book him – and we did, right then and there in the pub! 🍻

It’s important to remember that whilst you can do your research and love their photos, you’re going to be spending the entirety of your special day with this person…you need to make sure you get on! Do you feel connected to their photos, and do you feel in your gut that you can trust them to capture your wedding day perfectly? These photos will stay with you forever!

So after doing all my research and arranging a meeting, here’s the list I wrote…and started quizzing as soon as I was prompted! 🙊

  1. How long have you been in business?
  2. Have you shot at our venue before? If not, do you plan to check it out beforehand?
  3. How much do you charge to stay an hour or so later?
  4. Can we give you a list of specific shots that we’d like?
  5. Will we receive a written contract?
  6. How much is the deposit?
  7. Is there a payment plan?
  8. Do you charge a travel fee?
  9. What time will you arrive at the venue?
  10. How soon after the wedding day will the proofs be available?
  11. Is retouching included in the price?
  12. How much is it for a second photographer?
  13. What happens if you’re ill on the day?
  14. What information do you need from us before the day?
  15. Do you have Public Liability Insurance?

And as well as those important questions, I really can’t stress enough that you should follow your gut/s. These photos are so important, you want to make sure you’re making the right decisions for the right reasons, and that the images you get back will reflect you as a couple.

Lynette & Ed

Photo credit goes to the wonderful Sugarbird Photography following our pre-wedding shoot 📸

Lynette x

 

Tips for Coping with Moving House

Moving house is a massive task. As we were moving, lots of people kept telling us that it was up there with divorce as one of the biggest/most stressful things you can do in your life. It takes over your life, and however much you tell yourself it’ll be fine and there’s a light at the end of the tunnel, when you’re actually living it, it can be a struggle. During our move, I made a few notes about things I was doing to help cope with stress/keep organised, and I’m going to share them with you now. I hope they might help someone out there!

MAKE PRIORITY LISTS

Undoubtedly, you’re going to be buying new things for your new place (woo!). If this is your first house, you’ll be buying loads of furniture. If it’s a new build you’ll be buying curtain rails and carpets too. Or if you’re a seasoned pro and have been in your old house for a number of years, you’re moving into a new space, so there’s bound to be SOMETHING you need. Make a list, browse online, go to the furniture outlet near you, and make decisions about what you’re going to do. Don’t leave it till the last minute coz you’ll just be creating more stress for yourself!

TAKE CONTROL OF WHAT YOU CAN

When so many aspects of buying/moving house are out of your control, it can be easy to feel totally powerless. And I suppose you are; your life, your future, is in somebody else’s hands – someone who isn’t emotionally invested and working 24/7 to make this venture happen. So if you’re panicking, or freaking out, take control over what you can, like organising your packing, or going shopping for new furnishings/furniture. You’ll feel better for it (rather than just sitting home, waiting for an email or phone call), and it means when the trigger’s pulled, you’re ON IT!

ROLL WITH THE PUNCHES

Whilst you can take control of what you can, sometimes you just have to accept the rubbish that comes with moving. It’s NEVER going to be a straight forward process, so it gets to a point where you just have to go with it, accept that only in a perfect world would it be a quick, easy, painless process. I found that once I accepted this and just went with it, I stressed a little less.

USE WORK AS A DISTRACTION

Whether you’re still in the purchasing process, or whether you’re into the move itself – allow yourself to take time away from it, and work is the perfect time to do this. When you’re home, your life is completely disrupted (you’re constantly reminded when the place is littered with boxes, half your stuff is missing and your telly’s sitting on the floor!). So when you’re at work, try not to let the move bother you. During the move, when I was in work I COMPLETELY immersed myself, and it really helped.

ENLIST THE HELP OF OTHERS

Family, friends neighbours – if they offer, accept their help with big thanks! There’s soooo much to do, and splitting the work load makes the task much smaller.

LABEL EVERY BAG AND BOX

So I was really good at this, I went labelling CRAZY – until we were packing up the last minute stuff. Those every day things that sit lonely in cupboards or out on the side ever since you packed up the other 98% of your belongings. All the last minute stuff happens in such a rush (coz there’s a lot more than you realise and you have to get out), and all our stuff got thrown into various bags and boxes. Which meant that when we got to the house, I could tell you exactly where the wooden spoons and the tealight holders were, but not the shampoo or pyjamas were. Not ideal.

KNOW THAT IT WILL GET BETTER

However stressed you are, however overwhelming it all is – it WILL get better, there IS an end to all of this – and when you get there, it’ll be the BEST feeling! You’ll be in your new place, you’ll absolutely love it, and the stress will slowly melt away.

RESCUE REMEMDY

And if all else fails – a couple of drops of Rescue Remedy will calm you down! It was my driving teacher that introduced it to me, and it’s a handy little bottle to have around when it all gets a bit too much.

If you’re in the middle of moving, about to move, or just nosey (coz moving is always bound to happen!) – I hope that one or two tips help you out. 

Much love,

Lynette x

How to Manage Wedding Stress

I’m writing this post at the end of January, just over 3 months before our wedding. And I have no idea what’s to come in the next few months of planning, but I’m currently lying in bed at 1am, unable to sleep because I’m feeling stressed and anxious. And I’m absolutely DONE with this feeling taking over and spoiling my experience, so I’m going to find a way to deal and manage it!

Every element of wedding planning is a mammoth task, it all takes so much TIME and there’s SO MANY things involved with each element you’re planning. Even something as simple as *wracks brain trying to think of the easiest part of wedding planning so far* the favours, can be turned into a marathon of multiple emails, tastings, design ideas, design approval, deposits, invoices, contract signing, final preparations…all with a smile on your face – because it’s your wedding, of course! Even listing it doesn’t seem to give it the credit it deserves! Whilst it’s very easy to say ‘just ask for help’, it’s really not as simple as that, when you’re the one managing the day. It’s incredibly time consuming and life encompassing, and there’s no way around that (unless you have someone else planning it for you)! I assume that it’ll be much easier to ask for help when the day gets closer and we need help organising and doing, rather than just the booking/planning that I’m doing now.

So, it’s only natural, that whilst you’re trying to plan the wedding you’ve dreamed of since you were a kid, manage your budget and keep everyone happy (along with everything else going on with planning and, you know, WORK and LIFE), you allow your mental health to deteriorate. It’s so easily done, but I really hope I can find a way around this.

The plan: to make a list of things that I think I might help alleviate these feelings. And then make a conscious effort to take my own advice over the next couple of months – I’m one of those people happy to give advice, but terrible at taking my own! I pray it works. Shout out to my incredible Maid of Honour (I know you’re technically a ‘matron’ because you’re married, but it doesn’t have the same ring to it!), who’s been so wise and supportive when I’ve needed her (as always). And a couple of her pointers made this list. I love you girl 💖

1. Make a checklist 📝

I’m a sucker for a checklist anyway, but with SO many things to do, any bride will want one! It’s an overwhelming list, and I find it so easy to see all the things I’m yet to do, panic, and try to do everything as soon as I can! But that’s not realistic, not when half of the things on there won’t/can’t happen till 4 weeks before the big day! But checking things off as you get them done will really help.

2. Formal planning time 📚

Related to point 1…have a list with dates of when you can/need to do things by. It shows that you’re on top of things and that you don’t need to have everything finished just yet! Then step back and distance yourself. Have a date/time each week when you review the list to check your progress…this way, you don’t need to think about it the rest of the time.

3. Make time to spend with a loved one 💕

Ban all wedding talk if you want, or take the opportunity to vent, but set a coffee date with a special person. Someone who you know will distract you/calm you down/let you talk your frustrations out/talk you through problems.

4. Equally, make time for you 😌

Find an activity that you find peaceful and calming, and devote time to that, and that alone – don’t get distracted! Reading in the bath, colouring, yoga – whatever it is, set aside time for you and it, and allow yourself to become completely immersed in ‘chill’.

5. Talk to your venue contact 💒

They do this for a living, it’s second nature. So if you have a question, why are you stressing about not knowing, assuming an answer, or googling it? Ask! You’ll feel better!

6. Write down any problems 📓

My wonderful Maid of Honour once told me (years ago now!) to keep a notepad by my bedside for any of those nights when you have a million things flying round your head. This has proved to be invaluable advice, as the nights are when I seem to struggle most with overthinking. Sometimes even writing a problem down, without necessarily solving it, can make you feel better.

7. Be honest 💬

Talk things out with your fiancé, bridesmaid, parent, sibling or friend, don’t keep it all bottled up. Even just getting things out in the open and off your chest can feel like a weight’s been lifted. They love you, they’ll take the time to listen, and help if they can.

8. Get some fresh air 🍃

Whether you go on a walk by yourself in silence or with your earphones in, fresh air will do you the world of good!

9. Plan a month in advance 📆

This was a piece of advice I saw on a website over summer. The woman had planned her wedding, imagining it was a month earlier…which meant that even the smaller things (that you might forget about, or stress over at the last minute) like service cards, tealights and bathroom basket were taken care of! This left her and her fiance with a calm and stress free few weeks in the run up to the wedding. I can’t remember where I read it, otherwise I would give credit, but organisation Queen over here loves that idea! I hope it works…

10. It’s YOUR DAY make YOUR DECISIONS 👰🤵

SO many people have said this to me. And thankyou, I salute you, because this has turned into a little mantra. There’s so much drama that can go on with a wedding, from family politics to the table runners being the wrong shade of blue. Whilst you will accommodate certain needs and politely take suggestions into consideration, remember it’s YOUR DAY. This is the first page of a brand new book, and the start of the rest of your lives together. For everyone else there, however close you are – it’s just another (very lovely, hopefully!) day. If you know that there’s a certain detail or two that will stress you out for months in advance, or you’ll hate on the day, just don’t do it, simple!

11. Take a breath, try and find a solution 💪

Whether your brain’s in a muddle over the seating plan for the third hour, the vendor you really wanted to use can’t supply a specific item you had your heart set on, or you can’t have the band/DJ you wanted – it’ll be okay. Naturally, when it’s your wedding, every task becomes personal because you invest so much in it. Every element is just one building block in the tower that is ‘your big day’. And sometimes, something will happen that will shake the tower, or a brick will be removed, and you’ll feel like you’re absolutely powerless to keep it all together. Take a moment, take a breath…find a solution. Work out HOW you’re going to deal with that problem guest, talk to family, source other vendors, get on Pinterest and fall in love with a new decor idea, ask for recommendations from whoever let you down, knowing they’ll recommend similar products/services to their own. I promise, that as soon as you find a solution to the problem, your stress and anxiety will melt away.

12. Acceptance 💖

Nobody can control everything. You can only do what you can and then ride out the rest. Focus time on accepting that what will be, will be, and be disciplined when your mind tries to tell you that you need to control everything. You don’t! Things will fall into place.

If you reached this point, well done and THANKYOU for sticking with it. This is probably the longest post I’ve ever written, and I had no intention of it turning into an essay…but it’s something I felt passionately about sharing. It’s something I’m sure every bride and/or couple will struggle with, and if I can help in any way, it’s worth the rambling!

Much love,

Lynette x

#DancerProbs Part II

Something a little different for you today…

Back when I was just dabbling with blogging a couple of years ago, I posted ‘#DancerProbs Part I’ – a post with my first 5 problems that dancers encounter in everyday life. And with so many #dancerprobs out there, it seemed only right to do another post…this may even turn into a little series, you never know! And shout out to Graham Hebron for the images – they’re a couple of years old now, but he wanted a dancer project in his portfolio and I had a studio so… 🙊

6. Choreographing to Every Song On Your Phone

The best time to create is when you’re NOT TRYING to plan something, so often for me that happens when I’m out on a walk. Or driving to work. The latter is much more annoying – has anyone else tried voguing whilst driving on winding country roads? Don’t. 🙈

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7. Bad pirouette days

It’s totally a thing. I don’t know why, but it is! Sometimes you just can’t turn well, regardless of the amount of effort you put into your technique , or the amount of times you try to correct/alter what you’re doing. And it can be INFURIATING! 

8. Dancing Down Supermarket Aisles

I have to say I haven’t found myself doing it as much recently, perhaps because I’m the sensible one in our relationship and have to keep Ed in check when HE skips down the aisles, salad bag and shower gel swinging in hand. I did it a lot when I was at college though. And often, I wasn’t alone, it was an entire group effort – yes, sometimes we got in people’s way or our trollies accidentally collided – but I’m sure a bit of entertainment by the frozen veg is exactly what the people of Sidcup wanted, right? 😂 

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Photo Credit: Bob McLennan
One of the few images of Ed and I together on stage in Rock of Ages last year 🤘🏻❤️

9. Waking Up With Mysterious bruises 

Again, less common for me now – I teach more therefore I dance less, so any bruises I DO get, I have a pretty good idea where they come from. But back in the day, you’ll wake up to bruises on strange parts of your body with no idea where they came from. The most juicy, recent bruise I had (a few months back now) was on the shoulder…and I wasn’t the only one. Sorry gals. Bring your pillows next time we try shoulder freezes 😂

10. Relaxing Your Smile When You Turn Away From the Audience

It makes me feel bad, but sometimes it’s necessary! If you’ve never tried smiling for a long period of time, try it. It’s painful! On stage, after months of grueling rehearsals the pain in your face can be a good distraction from the pain in your arms or quads or calves perhaps, especially when your cheeks start shaking from being fixed in that position for so long. But that doesn’t mean it’s pleasant! I don’t like dropping character on stage, even if I AM facing the backdrop, but if it’s between that and getting facial twitches (they happen if it’s fixed for too long) mid kick line…

Stay tuned, there’ll be more dancer probs posts to come, as well as some ‘new home’ and wedding planning posts!

Lynette x

New Year: Q & A Time!

Hey guys, welcome back to Life With Lynette! It feels like so long since I last posted, I got so used to posting every two days for Blogmas! Whilst it was fun, it’s been nice not to have to consistently think about the blog, I can’t lie about that! So I’m going back to posting once a week. Or that’s the plan anyway…on top of regular work I have an exam session, dance showcase and wedding to both plan for and do over the next few months, so we’ll see how we go!

Anyway, getting back to it, I thought it’d be fun to a little bit of a Q&A! Thankyou to those who commented on Twitter or Insta, you’re all wonderful 😘 And you lot reading this should go and check them out. So, here we go!

1.What’s the one thing that has always inspired you/inspires you most in life? Tasha at Tasha Lifestyle and Sophie at Sophie’s Choice – my two blogging bezzies asked virtually the same question, what are the chances 😂

I’m a perfectionist, so I suppose the feeling of always wanting to better myself. Whilst training it was about being able to jump higher, turn more precisely, perfect technique as much as I could. Now in work, it’s about trying to produce better material in classes, create more emotional, or fun, or slick show routines, and the aim to please is a big factor I guess. My dad’s always had a gorgeous little saying… “Aim High, Dig Deep and Never Give Up”, and that’s been my mantra for as long as I can remember. It works!

2. If you’ve seen that episode of Friends where Monica has to choose between the dress of her dreams or the band Chandler really wants, what would you do if you were in the same position with your wedding? Hannah at Hannah Mary

Haha I love this! With our wedding only months away, I can feel Monica’s pain – but, I’d go with the band. If I had to choose between a pretty dress (knowing how many gorgeous wedding dresses there are out there) or my future husband’s dream band, he wins hands down 🤵🏻

3. Who’s your favourite blogger and what do you like about them? Lav at Lavrax London

This is really tricky because there’s a few faves I have for different reasons! If we interact regularly, you can put money on me loving your blog, I always read them when you post them (even if I don’t always get chance to like/comment) – but I have to shout out to Sophie’s Choice. I love her content, I love how she writes, and (in both life and blogging) I’m forever proud of her for her commitment and determination, and the journey she’s been on.

4. What kind of blogs do you like to read? Lav at Lavrax London

I dabble, and sometimes if the pictures grab me, it really doesn’t matter what genre it is! I like to read a lot of lifestyle blogs, but recently I’ve got into reading beauty posts too. With our wedding coming up, I’ve been taking more of an interest in skincare and good makeup, and reading blogger’s reviews (bloggers who are of similar age/skin kind to me) is really useful! Much better than a general online or magazine review. My next mission is to find my wedding lipstick, so if you’re reading this and have any recommendations, drop me a comment! 💄

5. What’s your favourite colour combo? Lav at Lavrax London

Our wedding theme – Midnight Blue and Rose Gold 😍

6. Why did you start your blog? Soph at Soph Isobel

It started a couple of years ago when I came back to my home town and started working as a dance tutor. People kept asking if I was going to create a blog – so one day I just got on with it! It was purely dance/teaching based, and I wrote once every few weeks and shared on FB with friends…that’s it. It wasn’t until July of 2018 (after a long period of no posts) that I decided to re-vamp my site, create Twitter and Instagram pages, and start to blog on a bigger scale about ANYTHING that tickled my fancy. I enjoy it so much more, now that I feel I have total freedom with my content. And I’ve met some amazing people through it!

7. What’s your guilty music pleasure? Soph at Soph Isobel

This is hard because I have quite an eclectic taste anyway, especially with this job – so I don’t necessarily feel embarrassed about anything I listen to. 
BUT, I suppose I enjoy the Cha Cha Slide more than I should! Probably because it gets played every week in my 18+ and Senior Commercial classes every week for the Cha Cha plank challenge! 

8. What’s your favourite post you’ve ever written? Ruby at Ruby Captures

I think it’d have to be my 25 Discoveries post on my birthday! I wrote down 25 things that I’d discovered during my 25th year (lifestyle, beauty, musings, mental health – it was a real mixed bag)! It was fun to create, and was a post I was really happy and confident to share with everyone. And that was a really good feeling 💖

9. How do you grow your blog and other social media platforms? Alisha at Inside the Voyage

I’m not sure I’m necessarily the right person answer this, but I’d say engagement is key. Interacting with people (people who’s content you take an interest in, don’t be one of those people who fakes it just for likes) has helped my traffic, as well as follow/comment trains – they can be really effective tools when you’re trying to reach new/different people.

10. How do you stay motivated with your blog? Taiwo at A Lifestyle Nerd

The biggest motivator is writing about things I want to. Posts feel much more organic when I write about what I want, when I want, rather than pushing it (like I did a couple of years ago when I was just blogging about dance). And I find that by doing that (even if I go through a quiet period), I feel much more inspired to write…and therefore, motivation just keeps ticking over!

Thankyou to you lovely lot for your questions, this was a fun post to write! It’s been a really busy start to the year, and it feels like my attention has been everywhere BUT blogging…but I’m still here, and I’ll be getting back into the swing of regular posts soon. Thankyou to all of you who read or continued to visit my blog (even when I’ve been quiet on social media!), it really means a lot.

Until next time,

Lynette x

 

New House? New Stuff!

Okay, so one of THE MOST fun things about moving house, is BUYING NEW PRETTY THINGS! Obviously 😉 We moved from an old flat with tons of character (and BEAMS, I love beams), into a house that’s less than a year old, which is really bright and light and totally empty. Which meant – RE-STYLE!!! We both wanted a nice clean and light home to settle down in, so we decided to keep the interior mainly white, cream and grey. That way, we have a nice blank canvas to work from when it comes to furnishings and decor.

I LOVE our new home, and after months of waiting to move in (and therefore months of browsing for ideas online), when we were finally in a position to furnish –  I was LOVING life! And still am 😊 So here we go:

Stacking Tables – Wayfair

I know these made it to my last post, but I LOVE them, so had to include them again! We hadn’t seen anything similar anywhere else, especially not in ROSE GOLD! 😍

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Trinket Dish – Next

I saw this a good month before we moved out of the flat, but when it was Rose Gold AND marble… I couldn’t resist, and bought it straight away! (Then it sat in a box for 6 weeks)!

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Floor Light – IKEA

We knew we wanted a fancy floor light for the living room, and didn’t go to IKEA with the intention of buying – but we saw this and HAD to buy it (when DOESN’T that happen at IKEA, let’s face it 😂). I wish I could capture it better, but you get the idea!

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Aloe Vera – IKEA

Now this we DID go with the intention of buying. We wanted some greenery to freshen the place up and knew we could get some in the Market Place when we were already there buying furniture. This sits in the bathroom and I honestly don’t know why I didn’t invest in house plants sooner!

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Mason Jars – Etsy

These were in my favourites for monthssss before purchasing, so I was so excited when I finally got my desk/dressing table sorted and I could buy these! Can you tell I love MARBLE AND ROSE GOLD yet? 🙊

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Leaner Mirror – Wayfair

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I’d seen a lot of these large leaner mirrors on Insta and really liked them,
so got searching, and happened across this one…I waited until it was reduced,
and got it ordered! 

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Shoe Rack – Amazon

This is a BRILLIANT idea, I found it a year or so ago to put at the back of our wardrobe/cupboard in the flat (it was almost a second bedroom)! And when we moved, I ordered another! It comes totally deconstructed, which means you can build it and click it together in any design you want. In the flat, it was a cuboid block of 12, now as you can see, it fits perfectly in our under stairs cupboard.

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Bluebells Canvas – Etsy

We decided we wanted a nice natural canvas, so knowing how much of a good experience I’ve had with Etsy, we headed to their website. There’s lots of gorgeous canvases on there, but this is the one we went with.

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Desk/Dressing Table – Various

The desk and drawers are from IKEA, mirror from Dunelm, Chair from Wayfair, canvas from Matalan, cushion from Amazon, and you’ve already seen the mason jars and trinket dish 😊 I love this little set up! Ed’s desk is much more manly, so I had to make my side of the room pretty 😊

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If you’ve got any fave home furnishings, what are they? Or is there anything you think I need to invest in? Let me know in the comments!

Lynette x

 

Life Update – Autumn 2018

RIGHT, well hello again…I can’t believe how long it’s been! I’d really started getting into blogging over the summer, and then suddenly; nothing. But I promise you I have a very valid reason – WE MOVED INTO OUR FIRST HOUSE!

If you know me or follow me on social media, I’m sure it won’t have escaped your notice, as I haven’t really shut up about it! It’s been a long, tiring, stressful process – how naive was I to think it’d be easy and smooth, and that we’d be settled and back to normal by the end of September?! ❌ I’m not going to go into details of the problems we’ve encountered throughout this process because frankly, I see no point in moaning now we’re finally getting settled, and also, you’d still be reading this post 6 months from now 🙃 I want to focus on the POSITIVES, because as I say, we’re in, we’re settled and we love the house!

My last blog post 25 Discoveries in my 25th Year was published when we were in our little limbo home – we moved out of the flat on 17th September but couldn’t move into the house until 26th September (it’s a new build so it was totally bare – we were waiting on the carpet installation), so spent a week in a holiday home by the river. It wasn’t an ideal situation, but it was pretty and we made it work – and it meant I spent the evening of my 26th birthday on the roof terrace with my Bish, sipping Prosecco ❤️

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Moving into a new build is great, because you can TOTALLY make it your own. But when you’re starting with a blank canvas, it takes time to get it done, especially when you’re still working at the same time. We’ve got all the furniture done now (apart from some shelves that need fitting and the TV mounted on the wall), so it’ll just be little homey touches to finish it off – and those kinds of things are best decided when you’ve actually been living in the space! Some of my favourite additions so far – PLANTS! They really lift the feeling of the room, and I’m loving having them around.

I want to give a MASSIVE shout out right now to my parents who helped us with the move – they didn’t need to take time off from work to help us shift all of our crap out of the flat and move it over, but they did. Or to give up their evenings to help us take things to to the tip, but they did. And a SPECIAL mention to my Dad who’s given up EVERY SINGLE WEEKEND SINCE to help us DIY 😳 It’s meant so much to both of us that you’ve been so helpful and supportive, and we really can’t thank you enough ❤️

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As we slowly start to get there, we can begin to find a bit of normality in life again (though it’s been up in the air for so long, I may have forgotten what that feels like)! I’m really excited to get back to blogging (I’ve missed it and my blogger friends!), and I can actually get a bit of a social life back! With my job, my social life isn’t particularly thiving anyway, but for too many months now I’ve had to postpone plans with friends. I can’t tell you how many times the phrase ‘as soon as we’re a bit more settled in the house we’ll get something sorted!’ has been used! And I feel awful for having had to do it, I just didn’t realise how long it’d take to be ‘sorted’. I should’ve just sent out an email to my bezzies 3 months back saying ‘SEE YA AT XMAS!’, it’d have probably been more accurate 😂

I’m majorly excited to get back to my chums (because they have so much going on too, so catch ups are a MUST), and also to get back to wedding planning! It had to be put on hold during the move – thank God we got the big things booked 6 months ago, else we’d be in real bother now! With only half a year left, I really need to get cracking! 👰🏻

And I continue to love my job 💖 My ‘academy’ kids performed amazingly in their showcase this weekend – to see how far they’ve come in year just filled me with pride! And my ‘studio’ kids better get ready, because when we get back from half term, we go full whack into rehearsals for our annual show in March! I’ve got some routine ideas that I’m really excited to start, so bring it on! A couple of little extra opportunities have presented themselves over the last couple of months too, which is really amazing, and I feel incredibly grateful. Seeing kids learn, grow, become better people, develop their teamwork skills, have fun with friends and and enjoy themselves is just incredible – I’m very lucky to be able to do such a rewarding job 🙏

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And that, my friends, is where I leave you for today. I have plenty of blog inspo that I’ve been jotting down in my Bullet Journal (the journal I meant to talk about at the beginning of September…it didn’t happen then because I didn’t have time, but I WILL be discussing it in my next post)! December is fast approaching too, which means…BLOGMAS! It’s getting cold, I’m loving my new cuddly coat, and I’m proper getting in the mood for winter and Christmas so I’ve started planning for that too! Who else is planning for Blogmas?

Until next time,

Lynette x

25 Discoveries in my 25th Year

YAYYYYY BIRTHDAY! I’m a couple of days late, but I just didn’t have time to post this on the actual day! 🎈🎉🎂

I’ve seen a lot of bloggers do a ‘___ things I’ve learned in ___ years’ for their birthdays, but I’ve decided to note down 25 discoveries (food, beauty, lifestyle, well-being…) from the last 12 months. Enjoy!

1. ‘It’s Just a Story…’

This is a big one for me, and linked to my post about how Derren Brown’s ‘Miracle’ helped my anxiety. I go into more detail in the post and explain what the phrase means, but just for a quick insight; I struggle with anxiety on occasion, mainly when dealing with new places/experiences, and applying this phrase to stressful situations has allowed me to cope with my anxiety in a different way. The show is on Netflix and I didn’t imagine when I sat down to watch it that it would make me look at life differently, but this simple phrase when worrying about something… it honestly really helps. 

2. Chocolate Wine

YES it’s a thing, but you can only get it in Sainsbury’s! It’s so delicious and yummy, and it’s VERYYYYYYY easy to drink it as you would a glass of juice (definitely try to pace yourself with this one)! Seriously though, give it a go! (FYI it’s in the port section as it’s classed as a fortified product – Ed and I spent AGES trying to find it in the red wine section to start off with)!

3. It’s okay to say no to work

I hate to let anyone down, as I’m sure we all do. But sometimes, when that comes at the detriment of your physical or mental health, you have to say no. I had a situation at the beginning of the year where I’d taken on too much and it was really taking it’s toll. As much as I hated to do it, I said no to a job. But I’m glad I did, because I really don’t know how I’d have coped for the rest of the school year with such intense commitments. LISTEN TO YOUR BODY, do what YOU need to do.

4. How To Drive

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I never had the time to learn when I was at school, so I started learning a year after I moved back to Yorkshire, shortly before my 25th birthday. I was extremely nervous ahead of time because I felt old to be learning…everyone my age already seemed to know how to drive, and all other learners were doing so in their school uniforms! But I had the most amazing teacher, who’s calming voice I still hear in my head, and getting my car in December has opened up so many doors for me! As a freelance dance tutor, it really is one of the best things I’ve done.

5. Twitter’s Amazing Blogging Community

I had no idea until the beginning of summer that there even WAS a blogging community on Twitter! But I’ve met some wonderfully supportive and friendly people, and I love to check out their content and see how they’re getting on. Shout out to my lovely blogger gals 😊

6. Dermalogica Skincare

I included this in a post about clearing up my skin, and I have to repeat it because the Clear Start Toner has made a MASSIVE difference. My skin’s finally cleared up (took long enough mind you) and now I wouldn’t be without it!

7. Mushroom Sauce

This was a discovery from a Google search when I wanted to jazz up a chicken breast. It’s easy and yummy and has made it to my recipe book! This is the recipe I used.

8. The ‘Dear Evan Hansen’ Soundtrack

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Yes, I know it came out last year, yes I know I’m late to the party, but I don’t care – this soundtrack is gorgeous. The story sends a really important message, and the actual music itself is incredibly special. If you haven’t listened to it, DO. I listen to this at least once a week.

9. Want activewear? Head to Forever21!

Forever 21 was a favourite in our year group at Bird for fancy sports bras, and I’ve shopped their activewear range on occasion for the last 18 months or so (as well as JD Sports, Sports Direct and other branded stores). Now, I tend to head straight for Forever 21, especially for sports bras and leggings. The high waisted leggings DON’T SLIP DOWN, are very flattering and comfy, and I adore the designs too. Most of the time they have a matching sports bra (and who doesn’t feel like they can take on the world when they’re matchy matchy?!), so I’m absolutely in love with this store for my work clothes 💖

10. Multiple planners are a god send

Of course, I’m referring to my wedding! One planner ain’t enough, there’s just not enough room for all the various notes you scribble, questions for meetings, contact information of suppliers, guest list, playlist ideas, not to mention the more fun bits like colour scheme ideas/inspo, guest predictions and memorable dates… I have two but I’m not gonna lie, I’m tempted to get a third!

11. Being on stage with a significant other is THE MOST FUN!

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Ed and I have done our fair share of shows together over the years, but October 2017 was our first with the upgrade from bezzies to a couple. And it was SO much fun! Shoutout to HSAP, we miss you!

12. How FAB Etsy is

I really had no idea until I started using it last Christmas! I’ve bought so much from there now, it’s my go to for gift ideas and I love browsing all the wedding related stuff to get inspiration too! I’m going to be dedicating a couple of blog posts to my Etsy experience, so keep an eye out!

13. ‘Unforgotten’ (ITV)

The most gripping TV series I’ve watched since Broadchurch series 3. If you haven’t already, get yourself on the ITV Hub and catch up on the last 3 series, because this is such a JUICY drama. And I love murder mysteries so this is right up my street! Ed and I totally binge watched this and cannot WAIT for the next series, because the story lines and performances and just outstanding.

14. How you fuel your body has a massive impact on the way it runs

Potentially an obvious one? We all know that if we spend our lives eating takeaways, we’re going to feel more sluggish and crappy than if we’re eating a more ‘clean’ diet (I put that in inverted commas because I’m not suggesting I eat like a rabbit AT ALL, but now, I’m making everything from scratch so I know exactly what’s in my food). We haven’t necessarily been on a ‘diet’, but recently we’ve re-educated ourselves about what we’re putting into our bodies. Before now, it was very carb heavy – to my mind, active jobs like ours required carbs to fuel us through. Whilst this isn’t necessarily wrong, having spent a lot of my life eating bread and pasta and NOW concentrating on fueling my body with higher portions of protein/veggies/natural snacks – my body feels SO MUCH better for it! I have more energy, I feel less sluggish – and I didn’t realise I was feeling sluggish in the first place! It was a life changing discovery.

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15. Rebuilding burnt bridges lifts a weight you didn’t even know was there

So I recently re-kindled with my old high school bezzie. There’s no need to get into the ‘break up’ or any of that miserable business, because the main thing is, it’s all in the past. It was the one thing that really made me sad when I’d look back at it, or imagined what life might be like were she still one of my gals…but I didn’t realise there was a weight there…not until it was lifted! Lots of love has been happening this year and this just finished it off nicely 😊

16. Continuing to learn at work

Vague, but I genuinely learn more every time I’m in the Studio (whichever Studio that may be)! It really is one of those things where you learn on the job – I know I’m probably a VERY different teacher now to how I was 2 years ago when I’d only just started. I’m very lucky to be able to teach a wide range of students/styles/abilities/locations, and am loving being able to learn from some incredible creatives/collegues.

17. I didn’t know what stress was until we bought a house

I have no idea why I ever thought I was stressed before now. Having experienced the stress and rubbish that goes with buying a house, I will never complain about being stressed again! It’s such an important thing hanging over you for so long, something that you have NO control over… I don’t think we can comprehend until we actually go through it, how intense the entire process is. It’s been a rubbish experience regardless of the stress (I’m not going into it though), and can’t wait till we’re actually moved in! We got the keys a week ago and finally, we had a reason to SMILE about the house – it had been fairly miserable up to that point 😂

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18. I’m actually quite good at cooking!

I started my cooking life 7 years ago when I moved down to London, and it’s safe to say that it’s been a longggggg learning experience – Jacket Potatoes and Chicken Kievs were my go to for the first year or so 😂 As with anything, it just takes practice, but it’s only in the last couple of months that I’ve realised that I can cook up some mean dishes!

19. I’m shocking at baking

Total opposite of the above. I’ll give it a go, especially when I’m making Ed’s birthday cake or my rent’s anniversary cake – but I’m absolutely awful. I cheat and use the Betty Crocker mixes, but I’m still rubbish 😂

20. Flowers in the home make me happy

I don’t know if it’s the freshness or the colour or what – but it lifts my mood 😊

21. Cherry J Rum

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Ed made the discovery in So Bar a few months back, and it’s BEAUTIFUL. You know cherry haribo? Imagine that flavour mixed with coke and ice 😍 You can buy it on Amazon, and if you’re in the mood for that kind of drink, BUY IT!

22. ‘The one’ wedding dress is a thing

I HAVE MY WEDDING DRESS AND I’M UTTERLY IN LOVE WITH IT and I genuinely thought this was just a saying. Until I got mine on in the store. And OMG. It’s a wonderful feeling. I DON’T WANT TO WAIT ANOTHER 8 MONTHS TO WEAR IT THOUGH 😂👰🏻

23. It’s okay to rely on people

I’ve always been very happy with my independence, and by extension, relying on just myself. In the last 12 months I’ve realised it’s okay to share your burden with someone else – it actually helps! Even if it’s literally just talking through a problem, it’s amazing how much better you feel. I’m pretty sure that allowing myself to let down that barrier and be weak on occasion has actually helped my mental health. And I am forever grateful to my wonderful fiance for being absolutely incredible, and knowing me better than I know myself.

24. Want a cheap bouquet? Head to M&S!

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It was a couple of days ago when Ed and I had moved out of the flat that we popped down to M&S to get a nice little tea and some bubbles. At the checkout, one of the ladies who worked there (who was sorting out flowers at the end of the conveyor belt at the time) piped up; ‘Do you want some flowers?’ They were £1.60 for the bouquet down from, can you guess? £16. £16! Which is JUST ridiculous. There were a couple of other bouquets that were starting to brown, so I guess it’ll just be luck of the drawer…but now I know! Go at the end of the day right before closing! You’re welcome 😉

25. Don’t be afraid to cut people out of your life

It’s difficult to cut toxic people out of your life, particularly when you have history with them. You keep them as friends on Facebook or follow each other on Instagram: whether that’s because you haven’t got round to doing a social media cleanse, or whether they meant something to you and you’re not sure if you’re ready to end all communication with them. But life’s too short. I’ve got to an age now where if someone doesn’t add or bring anything to my life, or worse, take away from it, why keep them in it? It feels a bit harsh, but d’you know where I’m coming from? It’s only this year that I’ve found the courage to cut those people from my life. I’ve got a new chapter starting, so this is the perfect time to have a clear out.

And there we go, well done if you made it to the end, I wasn’t expecting it to be as long as that – I guess I got carried away with descriptions 🙈 I hope you enjoyed learning about my discoveries, and maybe learned a thing or two along the way! 

Until next time…

Lynette x

Blogger Recognition Award

So this is exciting! In the middle of all the moving madness and stress last week, I found a spare minute to check my Twitter notifications and realised Mel LaBella had nominated me for the Blogger Recognition Award! Which is lovely! I’ve been much less active with my blog and the various social media platforms associated with it because of the chatoic-ness of life/the move. Which is fine, it’s my hobby, but to get this nomination when I’d been a bit quiet was amazing, so thankyou so much chick!

The rules: 

  • Thank the blogger that nominated you
  • Write a post to show your award
  • Give a brief story of how your blog started
  • Give two pieces of advice to new bloggers
  • Select 15 other bloggers you want to give this award to
  • Comment on each blog and let them know you have nominated them and provide the link to the post you created

How Life with Lynette started:

When I came back from London two years ago, a lot of people had asked if I was going to start a blog about life as a dance teacher. The thought hadn’t occured to me, but after some thinking, I decided to give it a go. It was only tiny in comparison to what I do now – I was posting once every 2/3 weeks, and only shared it on my work Instagram account and Facebook friends. My posts gradually decreased until the beginning of this year, where I went 6 months with only one post – I just didn’t have time or inspiration to write.

July came around and I decided it was either time to knock it on the head officially, or commit properly. I popped a poll on Instagram, and the outcome was that people would be interested in reading it, to stick with it, and write about whatever I wanted – not just dance. So that’s exactly what I did! And it was actually really nice to find out people would be interested in reading what I have to say!

Here I am, 2 months later, having done quite a bit of research about blogging techniques/engagement tips, written quite a few fresh posts, am actively making an effort to engage on Twitter and Instagram – and am loving it! As I said, the last couple of weeks have been a struggle, and it’ll be another couple of weeks till I’m back into the swing of things: and I’m missing it a bit! Especially the lovely blogger friends I’ve made!

Advice for New Bloggers No. 1:
~ Just Go With the Flow ~

I’ve seen a few bloggers recently panicking about not having a niche, or specific topics to talk about – worrying that they need to have one. You don’t! If you want to have one for yourself, GREAT, but equally, don’t feel like you have to just because a lot of bloggers do. If you want to just write whatever comes to your mind, DO THAT. It’s much more organic, more genuine, and you (as a writer) come across much better to your audience – forced posts lack passion and aren’t as enjoyable to read. And speaking from personal experience, since switching the way my blog works, I enjoy it SO MUCH more. PLUS, I have much more inspiration, because I’m not pressuring or limiting myself to talk about one thing. It’s your blog, niche or not, do what YOU want.

Advice for New Bloggers No. 2
~ Utilise Twitter ~

I’ve said it before, but I had no idea how vast the blogging community was on Twitter. For sharing your posts, reading others, engaging with people, advertising your other blog related social media accounts… It’s SUCH a useful tool. I only started with Twitter as a blogger in mid July and it was such a good decision! My blog traffic has increased massively, and I’ve met some amazing people! There are so many friendly and supportive bloggers out there – as opposed to being competitive as I originally thought! Shout out to the friends I’ve made through blogging 💖

My Nominees:

  1. Sophie’s Choice
  2. Elisha Blogs
  3. Just Sophie
  4. Tasha’s Lifestyle
  5. Ellie Blakeney
  6. My Big Fat Greek Lifestyle/Coffee and Corfu
  7. Bailey Leah
  8. Grand Fash Life
  9. World of Rachel
  10. Rebecca Faye
  11. Scrubs and Swimsuits
  12. Anchored Teapot
  13. Blog About a Latte
  14. Kate’s Beauty Home
  15. Books Nest

I look forward to reading your responses, and I’m hoping to be back into the swing of things soon! Lots of love 💖

Lynette x