The Wedding Series

After months of blogging about all things wedding, ‘The Wedding Series’ has come to an end! Before I sign off properly on this little project, I thought I’d write a post which includes links to each post I made – so everything’s in one place and easily accessible should anyone need it/want it. I’m going to go chronologically, from the very first post I wrote last July to last week.

Each title is linked, so you can get to each post easily!

PRE-WEDDING

I Said Yes To the Dress!

Read the story of my wedding dress shopping experience at The Bridal Factory Outlet in Northallerton.

outlet

 

The Most Fun Things About Starting To Plan Your Wedding

All the best bits in one tidy little blog post.

IMG_2759 (1)

 

The Pros and Cons of
Wedding Fayres

Read about our experience of the UK Wedding Event at Harrogate Sun Pavilions.

30595270_1110592085747489_3635686324255588352_o

 

How To Manage
Wedding Stress

I can’t decide which is more stressful – moving house or planning a wedding. But it’s an epic task, it’ll take over your life, and when you’re in the middle of it, any stress relieving tips will help.

img_7953

 

Wedding Planning Tips Part 1

My top tips for having the most organised, magical experience possible.

IMG_9385

 

Wedding Checklist

Straight from my wedding spreadsheet (minus a few details that only our wedding needed). Grab a cuppa…

The Wedding Series (4)

 

Cute Wedding Things You Don’t Need…But Want!

There’s so many pretty, quirky and fun things out there that you’re going to want to add to your wedding…these are the ones that turned me into a magpie!

The Wedding Series (6)

 

Questions To Ask:
Your Venue

…before you sign on the dotted line.

The Wedding Series (11)

 

Questions To Ask:
Your Photographer

…to check you’re signing on for your perfect package.

The Wedding Series (12)

 

Questions To Ask:
Your Baker

…don’t get carried away by yummy cake and forget the important details!

The Wedding Series (13)

 

POST-WEDDING

Our Wedding Timeline

Our wedding day in pictures.

Lynette & Ed

 

Wedding Planning Tips Part 2

A few months on from the first post, because one alone wasn’t enough!

Copy of The Wedding Series

 

Wedding Skin Prep

Read about the miracle products that got my skin wedding ready.

Copy of The Wedding Series (1)

 

Post Wedding Pointers

Tips I learned during wedding planning that I had to pass on to future brides and grooms.

Copy of The Wedding Series (1)

 

DIY Wedding Makeup

I did my own makeup – see what products I used.

Copy of The Wedding Series (2)

 

10 Things No One Tells You About Planning a Wedding

You read all the nice posts, and the advice posts…but what’s the reality? The things no one talks about?

Copy of The Wedding Series (3)

 

Top Tips For Your Wedding Day

Potentially my most important post! Tips for couples for the big day itself – tips to ensure you have the most happy, magical day possible.

Copy of The Wedding Series (1)

 

Questions You Never Thought To Ask About Your Wedding

You’ll have so many questions during the planning process, ones that never would have crossed your mind until you’re knee deep in planning! These were mine…

Copy of The Wedding Series (2)

 

Wedding Etiquette

…for both wedding guests AND the couple getting married!

Copy of The Wedding Series

and finally,

 

My 7 Fave Wedding
Purchases From Etsy

Though it could’ve been so much more if I didn’t exercise some self restraint!

Lynette & Ed

Thankyou to everyone who’s supported both my blog and my Instagram in the last year since I started running it ‘properly’, it means so much to have the support of you lot.

Onto the next adventure!

Lynette x (3)

My 7 Fave Wedding Purchases from Etsy

I honestly don’t know what I’d do without Etsy! I’ve used it for gifts before, but it’s such a gem when it comes to kitting out your wedding too. There’s so many gorgeous and wonderful things on there, but here are the ones that caught my attention, and made it to our wedding. I’ve linked all the product titles so you can get straight to each Etsy page if you want!

Signage

sign.jpg

Finding the perfect signage for our wedding literally took months and months of browsing, until finally I came across LolaandElvis. They have a few different design options, but I loved this one. All the types of signs we wanted were available, PLUS they were happy to create an ‘Unplugged Ceremony’ sign just for us! The service was impeccable, mock ups were emailed to me to check over, and nothing I asked was too much trouble. I felt like a valued customer, not just another number, and each sign was perfect when they arrived. I honestly can’t recommend this company enough.

Will You Be My Bridesmaid Proposal

bridesmaid

I mean, HOW CUTE are these?! I saw them and fell in love, because I thought they’d be a perfect little present to ask my girls to be my Bridesmaids 😊 There’s lots of choices for ribbon and flower colour, so yours can be totally unique!

Confetti

IMG_4694

It’s biodegradable, the colours were spot on for our colour scheme…what’s not to love?!

Bridal Hair Accessories

hair

You can get hair accessories from so many places, but I didn’t really know what I wanted. I decided early on that I was going to do my own hair, and with all the curls I wasn’t sure how I wanted to play it when it came to accessorising. So I decided to get a couple of grips like this so that I had the freedom to play around and use them however I wanted. I loved that, plus, they’re so pretty 😍

Father of Bride Cufflinks

cufflinks

I wanted to get my Dad cufflinks as an ‘I love you/thankyou for everything’ present, and I stumbled across these which could be personalised with our wedding date (image from Etsy site, not ours). Personalised, yet classy…something I feel can sometimes be lost with personalised gifts. They were really special and I’m so glad I found them.

Hashtag Cards

Lynette & Ed

Cheap and cheerful and they worked well with the rest of our signage! Again, what’s not to love?!

Mr & Mrs Sign

Lynette & Ed

I’m going to ignore the fact that there was some confusion with delivery (twice!) because it was sent to the wrong address (on the other side of the country!) for no reason…because I really love the product. I did a lot of spray painting for the wedding, so I ordered these in unpainted wood and sprayed them myself so everything would match…and saved quite a bit of money in doing so! They sat on our top table during the breakfast, on our gift table during the evening do, and now, on our living room windowsill! 

Who else is a massive Etsy fan?!

Lynette x (3)

Wedding Etiquette

With my wedding series almost over, I thought it a good idea to write an etiquette post – for both wedding guests AND the happy couple (yep, there’s etiquette on both sides)! I’m sure in this day and age we’re all aware of the Do’s and Don’t’s…but it’s good to have a reminder…

If You’re the One
Getting Married:

 

Spouse invitations

If a guest is married, it’s required by etiquette (yeh, required, that’s the word that articles use!) to invite the spouse. I had to google this one as I was sure it was a ‘thing’ and it definitely is, so make sure you invite the significant others.

Send thankyou cards

Obviously, you’d thank anyone who gave you a wedding gift, but don’t just send a text – finish off your wedding with a flourish and do it on paper or card – maybe even using the same design template as you did for the rest of your stationery!

Don’t invite someone to the hen/stag if they’re not coming to the wedding

Goes without saying really I think, but how much of a slap in the face would that be?!

Chat to your guests

Receiving lines aren’t really a part of new traditions, but make sure you get round to all your guests for a quick chat. As well as it just being polite, surely you WANT to see them all?!

Accommodation

If your wedding isn’t close to home (be that 30 minutes, or 300 miles), you need to provide your guests with information about accommodation (and transport, for that matter)! If your venue has rooms, great, if not, hit google and find some nearby hotels that you can note down on your information cards.

Don’t put registry info on the invitation

Your invitation is something special, you’re telling people that they’re loved so much that you want them there on your special day! It may be tempting to get all your information out there at the same time (and save on stamps too, it doesn’t half get expensive when you’re posting all your invites!), but now is not the time to start asking for gifts. Save that for later.

Lynette & Ed

If You’re a Guest:

 

DON’T. WEAR. WHITE.

I can’t stress this enough. Even with a pattern on. There’s so many colours to choose from, please, just pick one of those. A bride would be totally within her rights to kick you out and never talk to you again if you turned up in white. I would’ve done had any of our guests turned up like that.
And by the same token, if you’re planning an outfit to stand out and make a statement, shame on you. Wear something nice, look gorgeous of course, but the couple has one day to themselves, one day as the centre of attention with family and friends around them – to attempt to stand out is selfish.

RSVP on time

The couple will have put an ‘RSVP by’ date on your invite. This is because they NEED TO KNOW BY THEN for a multitude of reasons, they haven’t just plucked it out of thin air. Don’t be the guest they have to chase: when it’s been made so clear, they won’t be your biggest fans for ignoring it.

No shows

Being a no show is a big no no! Weddings are expensive, and other people have missed out on the opportunity to be there because you RSVP’d yes. Unless you’re blown away to Oz in a tornado, you should be there.

Unless you’re the bride or groom, you’re a guest.

I’ve said it many times before, but weddings are mammoth tasks and very stressful. Unless you’re the ones getting married, you are a guest. Just smile sweetly, agree with everything that’s going on, don’t start questioning, grilling or making the couple feel guilty or obligated to do something (whether that’s during the planning or on the day itself) – it’s not your day, it’s theirs, and they’re doing what THEY want to do.

Turn your phone OFF

Particularly during the ceremony. The couple want you to be present with them in this special moment, not staring at them through a screen – if you’re interested in pictures, that’s what the photographer’s there for! Nothing will ruin a photo of the happy couple more than a sea of cameras and phones in the background.

Spell their names right

Whether it’s on a card or a personalised gift (especially the latter I suppose, when it’s likely to be more than a couple of quid), make sure the names are spelled right! It’s not a hard thing to double check, and it won’t be well received AT ALL if you get it wrong. Make sure you double check if you need to (with a family member or on Facebook, IT’S SO EASY so there’s no excuse)…otherwise, the gift/card you got will end up buried at the bottom of a box in the loft or in the bin, however nice it may have been! When it’s their wedding, I can guarantee it’ll be taken very personally. Anyone wanna guess if it happened to us…? 😂

Brides, Grooms, Guests – have you got all of that? Some of it sounds a little intense I know, but, I say it as it is, that’s me. 

Lynette x (3)

Top Tips For Your Wedding Day

Okay, I’ve written quite a few wedding posts now, but I thought it was about time I shared my post important one. Unlike my other posts, this isn’t about the planning, or the run up, but tips for the actual day itself. And this post will reveal the top tips and suggestions I’d give to ANYONE getting married! So let’s dive right in…

Make Time in Your Itinerary for Each Other

This was one of the biggest pieces of advice we were given. Like, almost every person who wished us well said ‘Oooo you’ll never see each other’. To which we thought, SOD THAT! So, I wrote some ‘Bish time’ into our itinerary, to make sure we definitely had that time to spend together. And it was so easily done, so easy, I was surprised that so many people had struggled with it themselves! I suppose it’s one of those things that if you’re aware of it ahead of time, it’s easily manageable. We planned to get away a couple of times during the day, but actually managed it 5 or 6 times! And those moments as a newly married couple, amidst the chaos and business of the rest of the day are UTTERLY magical, and are such a special memory of our day that we both hold now.

Lynette & Ed

Mingle, But Don’t Feel Bad About Moving On

There’s so many people you love there, you want to see them all and have a chat, and make sure you actually spend time with them. It’d be so easily done to spend 30 minutes talking to each person, but with so many wedding guests there, you really don’t have the time. Mingle, but don’t feel bad about moving on – people will understand!

Walk Slowly Up the Aisle

As with anything when adrenaline is involved, it’s very easy to speed up, and if you don’t think of it ahead of time, you’ll be next to your hubby/wifey to be within seconds! Ask whoever’s walking you down the aisle to set the pace, slow you down a bit if needs be (thankyou Dad!) and ENJOY that incredibly iconic moment.

Practice Holding Your Bouquet

You’ll want to hold it lower than you’d think! Some say to have the stems lined up with your belly button, but it’ll depend on the style of your bouquet and the design of your dress. So I ended up holding mine in line with my hip bones! It’s just one of those things that you wouldn’t think of, so here I am now to point it out 😊

Lynette & Ed

Grooms – Don’t Lock Your Legs!

This one’s from Ed. 

“Make sure not to lock your knees! If you lock them for too long, you risk passing out: not good on your wedding day. Remind yourself every now and then (or get your best man to do it like me!) to shake out or have a little knee bend to relieve the built up tension.”

Don’t Skip Brekkie

I know you’ll be a bag of nerves and excitement, and the idea of food might make you feel queezy…but you MUST eat something on your wedding morning. Whether it’s a bit of toast or a piece of fruit, just make sure there’s something in your system. You don’t want to spoil your day by feeling lightheaded or worse, faint!

Make the Effort To Eat

Following straight on from the last point, keep eating during the day. Again, so many people said ‘You won’t eat.’ And I just couldn’t understand this – when you pay so much per head for your wedding breakfast and/or buffet/hog roast etc, you had your menu tasting, and most importantly YOU LOVE TO EAT, why would you not eat?! I know this is a good time for the newly weds to walk around and talk to guests, but I’m pretty sure your guests would rather you eat and last the whole day, than attempt to talk to them and see you collapse the next minute from lack of nutrition 🙃 Screw tradition, eat the damn food!

Lynette & Ed

Step Back and Survey

I saved a big one for last. A piece of advice we were given close to the big day, which we made sure we did, and are SO grateful for (thanks for the tip Mr Lunt)! This is probably the only time in your life when ALL of your dearly loved friends and family are in the same place, and they’re here because of the two of you – because they love you, they believe in your marriage and want to celebrate the most special day of your lives. Take a moment with your new spouse to step back, and just watch. Watch these people interacting, laughing, dancing, having an amazing time. It will be ingrained in your memory forever.

I urge anyone getting married to take on these tips, it really will help make your day special and drama free. Like the tips/insider info? I have similar posts here for Post Wedding Pointers and 10 Things No One Tells You About Planning a Wedding!

Lynette x (3)

Wedding Planning Tips Part II

Planning your wedding is life encompassing. (As well as there being so much to do), I think it’s because despite the months and months of energy that goes into it, you’re never finished. There’s always something else to do, something else to plan – you manage to get one thing ticked off your checklist and there’s ALWAYS going to be something else that needs your attention, right up until the wedding is over! You’re planning the most magical day of your life and you want it to be absolutely perfect – so naturally, it’s stressful too.

I wrote a planning tips post before our wedding, but I needed to add some more – so here I am! You can check out Wedding Planning Tips Part I here.

There are so many wedding tips out there, but based on my experience, these are the biggest and most important ones that I felt needed sharing.

1. Write a checklist

There are honestly more things involved with planning a wedding than you think – I had no idea until I made our list, which I still kept adding to up to a week before the wedding! There’s no point trying to remember it all, so get it written down, and tick things off as and when they’re sorted (this’ll make you feel happy too!). Although not everything is on there (for example, I didn’t need to state obvious facts like ‘Mum take dress to venue’ or ‘have favours delivered’) you can see My Checklist Here.

2. Keep track of your spending

Firstly, you need to decide on your budget, a point I included in Part I. Once you have, stick to it and keep track of what you’re spending. Not gonna lie, it’s easier said than done, especially when you start getting magpied (yep, I’m turning that into a verb!) by gorgeous venues/decor/stationery/accessories (I’ve got a post about Things You Don’t Need But Want). I made a spreadsheet of all our expenditures as and when they got booked. It lists the vendor and/or product, the total amount, deposit amount, remaining balance, and a tick box for when the full payment had been made. And I’m so glad I did – it was quite sobering to write it all down and realise how quickly it was adding up!

Lynette & Ed

3. Make a priority list

Linked to the point above, I think it’s important to sit down with your fiance and decide which elements of the wedding you want to throw money at, and where you want to save. Some may want to splurge on the venue, some may want to save. Some may want to splurge on the decor, some may want to save. And this applies to every single thing you’ll organise, because there are so many options for every aspect of a wedding. We’re all different, all our ‘dream wedding’s are different, so make your own list. And an easy way of saving some pennies if your budget’s starting to weep…

4. …chop the Guest List

Ruthless, but it feels less so when you’re faced with a long list of names, each of which costing you a gazillion pounds per head. 

5. Invite who, and do what YOU want

I can’t stress enough, that you must remember this is YOUR day, and no one else’s. (Weddings work very differently now to 30 years ago, which some people may not realise – it may be worth just getting them, and yourself, clued in to these changes so there’s no confusion/unintentional ill feelings). YOU are the ones in charge, not anyone else, so don’t feel bullied into anything. And I only stress this so strongly, because after talking to other brides, this seems to be the biggest problem in 21st Century Wedding Planning, and the area that causes the most upset. 

6. Make a list of questions before meetings

Whoever you’re meeting with, whether it’s your wedding coordinator, favour vendor, dress seamstress (the list is endless), make a list of all the questions you want to ask – the ones you’ll want to know the answers to before signing on the dotted line. I’ve got lists of questions for your venue, photographer, and baker if you’re curious.

Lynette & Ed

7. Don’t be afraid of buying/booking early

In fact, the sooner the better! Particularly with bigger things like your venue and photographer which can get booked up years in advance – get booking to avoid disappointment! With all the craziness of moving house, and then life and work getting hectic, I’m so glad that I cracked on with a lot of things, despite worrying that I was doing it too soon. It meant a lot less stress later on, and trust me, you’ll want to have as little of that as possible close to the big day – there’ll be plenty of other things to be worrying about!

8. Ask for help when you need it

During the planning, the truth is, you and/or your fiance may feel like you want to tell everyone to back off and let you get on with planning your day by yourselves. But there will be plenty of family and friends offering their help, because it’s exciting for them too, and there will be occasions (however stubborn you are, or happy you are to be in control), that you WILL need that help. Take them up on their offer. Then it’s up to you how much instruction you give (depending on how much control you want to hand over/hang on to)! Just saying it as it kids. No planning articles tell you the truth about these things.

9. Write a separate checklist for your the wedding party of who’s doing what

From who’s attending what appointments, to who’s in charge of taking what to the venue, it’s not only peace of mind for you to have a note of this, but the family will feel happy to be kept in the loop, and clued in with what is/isn’t required of them.

Last, and most importantly…

Lynette & Ed

10. Work as a team with your fiance

I’ve spoken about how much of a stressful time it can be – mainly because that’s the bit no one tells you! But it will also be the most wonderful. It’s such a special time, and for me, it was made even more special by Ed and I doing a lot of it together – I have so many fond memories that I’ll cherish for the rest of my life. Make time for each other, share the work load, and enjoy every minute.

There are plenty more tips I can give, but these are my top 10 based on our experience. Not enough? Stay tuned, I’ve got a ‘Post Wedding Pointers’ post coming to you soon! 

Lynette x (3)

Questions To Ask: Your Baker

Welcome back to another ‘Questions To Ask’ post – this time, we’re talking CAKE! 🍰 And before I go any further, full photo credit in this post goes to Blossom Tree Cake Company.

We found our baker through a flyer we picked up at a wedding fayre at The Pavilions of Harrogate last year, and after browsing their social media and LOVING the look of the cakes they did, got in touch with Blossom Tree Cake Company. They not only offer a friendly consultation, but a chance to try up to 3 different flavours (which you pay for, but that gets deducted from the price of your cake).

IMG_0913

Well, WOW, we will never forget our experience! It was a warm bank holiday at the beginning of May last year (the same bank holiday that our wedding’s on this year!), were greeted warmly, and offered drinks as we looked through their portfolio (which is GORGEOUS), before trying our 3 gluten free tasters and discussing the design of our cake. I’m not going to go into any more detail than that for now (but probably will AFTER the wedding!), but I have nothing but positive things to say about the experience!

SO, the part you’re here for, the questions to ask:

  1. How long have you been in business?
  2. What is your baking background?
  3. How many weddings have you baked for?
  4. Are you licensed and insured?
  5. Do you offer gluten free cakes?
  6. Do you use fondant or buttercream?
  7. What flavours are your specialities?
  8. How far in advance will our cake be made?
  9. This is our theme – what design/decorations do you have/can you suggest?
  10. Can we freeze a tier, and if so, what’s your advice for keeping/defrosting/eating etc.
  11. …and can you provide a cake box so we can transport it home safely?
  12. Do you deliver to our venue? If so, what’s the charge?
  13. How much is the deposit?
  14. When do you require the full payment?
  15. When will we receive a contract?

IMG_0919

And as with Questions To Ask: Your Venue, and Questions To Ask: Your Photographer, there’ll be some questions that I (and you) don’t need to add to your list (eg. about flavours), because there’ll be basic information readily available on their website, or about cake stands and knives, which you’ll already know about through your venue.

I’m SO EXCITED TO SEE AND EAT THIS CAKE, YOU HAVE NO IDEA!!! 

Lynette x (3)

Questions To Ask: Your Venue

Okay, WELCOME to a subcategory of ‘The Wedding Series’ – ‘Questions To Ask…’!

Viewing venues and doing your research is really fun, but what about when you get to your meetings? What are the important questions to ask before signing that contract? Same applies for your photographer, baker, florist…hence this new little category!

Our venue coordinator is amazing, and a lot of these questions were actually answered during our initial show around/sit down (that level of efficiency gave me real peace of mind moving forward!), but here’s the list I compiled last March!

And let me just point out too, that this is the list for the initial meeting, when you and your fiance are in the midst of venue viewings and trying to get a feel for which venue fits you best. There will be PLENTY more questions you’ll want to ask during the planning process, but these are the ones you want to know before booking.

Questions To Ask: Your Venue

  1. Is wedding insurance included in the price?
  2. How long can you hold the date we want?
  3. Chair decor – is it included in the package/options/prices?
  4. Vendors – do you have suppliers you recommend/work with regularly?
  5. Can we have lit candles?
  6. Do you have any rules about confetti, fireworks or other decorations?
  7. Will we have to hire/pay extra for chairs, glassware, table cloths etc?
  8. What are our lighting options for the reception?
  9. Is there a safe place for gifts?
  10. Is VAT included in the final price?
  11. Accommodation – do guests pay us, or the venue directly?
  12. Do you provide mics for speeches?
  13. Will we need to vacate any rooms for setting up (at any time during the day)? If so, what are our options during that time?
  14. Does the bar take cash or card?
  15. Is there a schedule for; initial deposit, final payment, charges for staff.
  16. Will the venue clear everything away afterwards?
  17. When can we start setting up?
  18. Do you have public liability insurance?
  19. What are your usual timings for the day (ceremony, food etc)?
  20. Can we move things around to decorate?
  21. Can we have a written confirmation email and contract?
  22. Diameter of circular tables (how much room will we have for centre pieces)?
  23. Does the DJ provide their own decorations (star cloths, uplights etc)?
  24. Do you provide easels for signs?
  25. Do you provide a cake stand and knife?
  26. Do you host more than one event at a time?
  27. Do you allow sparklers?
  28. How many guests can you accommodate in the day/evening?
  29. Which rooms are licensed for civil ceremonies?
  30. Do you/how do you cater for food allergies/vegetarians/vegans?

As I said, there will be LOADSSSS more questions that will come up during the planning process, these are just the ones to get you going before you sign on the dotted line. There are (of course) more questions that you can ask (questions that will be on wedding sites and other articles), but a lot of these will actually be answered on the venue’s website/in the brochure, before you even go for a viewing!

Things like:
Do you offer a complimentary menu tasting?
How much wine is included per person?
What evening food do you offer?

…which is why they haven’t been included in my list. These are all the questions we asked, got firm answers right there on the spot, and we came back feeling very well informed – and in a good place to move forward with the booking!

ONLY 3 WEEKS TO GO NOW!

Lynette x (3)

Cute Wedding Things You Don’t Need…But Want!

There are SO many gorgeous ideas for weddings out there, from decor to entertainment, favours to personalised merchandise – I’m sure I’m not the only bride who’s felt a bit like a magpie whilst scrolling through Pinterest or Etsy! Today, I’m sharing some cute addition ideas with you – those that you don’t NEED at you’re wedding, they’re not integral to the day – but that you want…badly! These are just some of the things that made me 😍 when I saw them (though not all of them are part of the #BishWedding2019)!

Wedding 2019 Merchandise

I went into Matalan yesterday and they had a whole dedicated section…and I want all of it! I bought a couple of things but couldn’t justify buying any more…yet…

IMG_9831.jpg

Mr & Mrs Balloons

I suppose it’s not so much the balloons themselves, but the cute pictures of the newly married couple with them!

balloon

Image from BelleepoqueCo on Etsy

Cake Topper

I know most people will opt for some kind of cake topper, but there’s so many different ways of doing it – figures, flowers, laser cut words… I suppose this has made the list because if you already have some kind of decoration on the top of your cake, it’s very hard to say no to other pretty things!

cake

Image from DinDinDiesDesigns on Etsy

VM Bespoke Placenames/Wine Charms

I must’ve seen these more than anything else recently, the sponsored site keeps coming up on my Facebook feed. And there’s no denying these are pretty!

vm

Image from VM Bespoke

Bridal Party Robes

Technically, we don’t need them, especially as you’re spending all that money to wear them (for what they are) for a couple of hours…but, like the balloons, they make for such cute pictures!

robes

Image from Love Fox Designs on Etsy

Personalised Honeymoon Beach Bag

I mean, it’d almost be rude not to proudly display your new initials on an accessory whilst you’re abroad, right?!…

bag

Image from Heart and Soul Wedding on Etsy

Expensive Shoes

I’d say that the majority of brides go for a long dress…which means, we can’t see the shoes. No one will see them really (unless you make a scene, and lift your dress up and make everyone aware of the beauties you have on), but some of the ones you see on Pinterest are just UTTER Cinderella shoes! And if you can’t wear them on your wedding day, when can you?!

shoes

Image from Pinterest

Personalised Sweetie Bags

£100 for sweet bags that’ll probably be thrown in the bin in the next 24 hours? But the message on them is so cute and romantic…

sweet

Image from Zazzle

Individual Confetti Bags/Cones

You can spend all that money on personalised sweetie bags that’ll get thrown away, confetti bags/cones will just get thrown away too…but these cones are so cute!

cones

Image from Hooray Days on Etsy

Belly Bands

It makes sense; with the actual invite, information card, RSVP etc, they could SO easily fall out of the envelope and be lost forever, right?… 😉 So a pretty band that matches the rest of your invites makes sense, right? 🙊

band

Image from Zazzle

Fairylights Overload

THEY JUST LOOK SO PRETTY IN PHOTOS, there’s no such thing as too many, right?!

lights

Image from Pinterest

Floral Light Decor

I saw these on Etsy, then followed on Instagram coz I LOVEEEE how they look! Letters, & signs, hearts…the temptation to buy them is unreal!

Letter

Image from Love Letters by Analisa on Etsy

…and there’s SO MUCH MORE too! There really are so many options and ideas out there for every style of wedding, and it’s been incredibly difficult to keep my sensible head on and not been tempted to buy everything! But I’d be lying if I said a couple of things hadn’t slipped into my shopping basket… 🙊 

Lynette x (3)

Wedding Checklist

Okay, I’ve spoken a lot on Twitter recently about my wedding checklist, so I thought it was about time I shared this with you! I started it a year ago, and I’m still adding to it now, 5 weeks before the wedding! There are things on the list that I never would have thought of before last February… Of course, you think of the big things like the dress and the venue and the cake, but it wasn’t until I started planning that I realised I needed to be thinking of things like updating my EHIC, or double checking how many chair sashes are included in our wedding package…

There’ll be some things missing from the list that you might expect to see there (transport, or hair stylist for example), and some more obvious ones, like the caterer or DJ are missing because quite a few things are included in our wedding package. But this is a list tailored specifically to our wedding. Early on, I separated it into things to buy/to book/to do/extras…so I’m going to keep that going now, though there’s no particular order. Okay, are you ready? Deep breath…

TO BUY

The Dress
The Shoes
Underwear
Garter (unless you’re borrowing)

Bride’s Jewellery
Bride’s Hair Accessories
Bridesmaid Dresses
Bridesmaid Jewellery
Bridesmaid Hair Accessories
Suit
Shoes

Groomsmen’s Suits
Groomsmen’s Shoes

Wedding Rings
Centrepieces
Centrepiece Accessories
Top table decor

Umbrellas (just in case!)
Confetti
Guestbook
Placenames
Wedding Party Hangers
Lipstick
Advice Cards
Signs for Hashtags
Balloons

Present for other half
Thankyou presents for wedding party

TO BOOK

Venue
Photographer
Venue decor
Florist
Cake
Favours
Honeymoon
Table runners
Hair cut and colour
Spray Tan
Wax
Dinner tables for evening before/day after

TO DO

Decide on which person/people to allocate to each item on the checklist
Decide on Budget
View Venues

Choose Venue
Give Notice of Marriage
Pay Ceremony Fee
Choose Witnesses

Create Guestlist
Choose Stationery
Send Save the Dates
Send Invites
Have dress fitting (and follow up appointments)
Meet with florist
Meet with baker/have cake tasting

Meet with photographer
Order Signage
Create ‘must play’ song playlist for Reception
Choose aisle music
Choose 30 minutes pre-ceremony music
Choose 3 songs for register signing
Choose readings for ceremony
Seating Plan for Wedding Breakfast
Wear in shoes
Make emergency wedding kit
Get name changed on passport
Get name changed on EHIC
Send ‘must have’ shotlist to photographer
Have menu tasting
Have engagement shoot
Create running order for the day

Get Bridesmaid’s dresses altered
Decide on Bridesmaid’s hair
Collect wedding rings
Get engagement ring polished
DIY items for centrepieces
Organise afternoon entertainment

EXTRAS

Find something OLD, NEW, BORROWED and BLUE
Book time off work
Confirm arrangements with vendors
Give vendor contact details to Maid of Honour
Make arrangements for day before at the venue (check in time, nails, dinner etc.)

And along with all of these things, you have to take into consideration how time consuming it will all be. I spent my free time for WEEKS searching for our signage for example, and the seating plan is a bloomin’ nightmare! I think our final plan is version 5 or 6! Whilst it can be stressful, and time consuming, and the checklist seems never ending, I’ve LOVED planning our wedding. It’s been such a special experience, and I won’t know what to do with myself when it’s over!

More and more things are getting ticked off the list AND IT’S SUCH A GOOD FEELING! Bring on the next few weeks 😊

Lynette x (3)

The Pros and Cons of Wedding Fayres

Before I start, full photo credit goes to the UK Wedding Event website. I made sure that all of the photos used were taken on the day we were there – so you can actually get a sense of the vibe we were feeling when we were walking round 😊

30629376_1110592645747433_2327551234216558592_o (1)

After we got engaged, the main thing people said to me (after congratulations!), was ‘Go to a Wedding Fayre/Fayres’. A lot of Fayres are on Sundays which is one of my work days, so we only managed to get ourselves to one, back in the Easter Holidays. Which some might think was a shame, but honestly, it was a lovely afternoon, a great experience, and we didn’t come away feeling like we needed to source more ideas – we actually had too many!

I’d already done a fairly substantial amount of research by the time we went to the Fayre, hosted by The UK Wedding Event at the Harrogate Sun Pavilions. It was 6 weeks after our engagement, and by this point we already had the venue booked, colour scheme decided, and I’d sat for hoursssss on Pinterest looking at centre pieces, flowers cake, decor ideas… (Yes, organisation Queen is in her ELEMENT with this wedding planning malarkey!) There’s SO many ideas out there for any kind of wedding, and social media has proved to be a WONDERFUL tool (particularly Etsy, but I’m going to come back to that another time).

30657040_1110594562413908_1716699265729822720_o

I’ve put together a list of Pros and Cons about the event. Obviously, this is totally personal so I’m not claiming it’s the gospel truth, but I thought you might be interested 😊

PROS:

Meeting Local Suppliers:

One of the things that Ed and I had decided quite early on, was that we wanted to source as many LOCAL suppliers as possible. For a multitude of reasons, but the main two being:
a) We want to support local business
b) We have so many ties to the area (including him proposing at Knaresborough Castle)…it just felt like a really nice bow to tie our whole relationship together.
THIS was where the Wedding Fayre really delivered. We were able to meet local businesses (it turns out that one company that we’re definitely going to go with LITERALLY lives round the corner from us!), that we wouldn’t have found had we just sat on Google. 

Getting Ideas:

This is the main reason for all of my friend’s Fayre recommendations…there’ll be things there that you won’t find scrolling through Google or Pinterest (unless you have a million free hours). There was a guy at ours for example who did engravings and carvings into a variety of objects for place names, seating plans etc etc. I’d never have thought of using a mirror engraving as a seating plan, but there you go!

Goodie Bag:

YESSSSS who doesn’t LOVE a goodie bag?! With The UK Wedding Events team (who organise Fayres all over Yorkshire), you get a canvas tote on arrival with a floor plan of what’s where, and a bunch of wedding magazines and flyers. You’ll pick up more little freebies as you go round, but my fave (obviously) were the food stands 😉 Stood in Valley Gardens, eating strawberry/champagne fudge is NOT a bad way to spend a Sunday afternoon!

Spending time with your fiance:

Ed and I live together so we see each other every day, but because of work and house stresses the last few months, we’ve not had an awful lot of time to spend together in a ‘going out and doing things’ sense. I value every minute I spend with him anyway, but getting out of the flat and doing something adventurous or different is always lovely – and fun! 
As much as anything else, it’s nice to be able to start your wedding journey together. I know lots of partners will have different plans for who does what, as it’s not possible to do everything together. So being able to spend some time ‘wedding-ing’ (just the two of you as well, without any family or friends present) is really special. Especially when you’re recently engaged and it’s all still new and exciting and a bit weird, and people keep on congratulating you!

CONS:

Businesses going for ULTRA HARD SELL

I would definitely recommend going with a BIT of an action plan about what you want (or perhaps more accurately, what you DON’T want), because some people will try to do the HARD SELL. And I mean like, jump down your throat before you even get to their stand and won’t let you leave without signing up to their mailing list. So BE STRONG and just say no 💪 (Politely of course, you don’t have to barge past them, by all means have a conversation with them…but stand your ground). 

It’s Busy

We went later in the day in an attempt to avoid the crowds (although this COULD mean you miss out on freebies, but it was a risk we were willing to take). And it paid off for us getting there at 3pm, but I can imagine it being very cramped in there earlier in the day.

Getting emails MONTHS later from companies you had no idea existed

Kind of linked to the Hard Sell point I made. This is the problem with anyone you show any interest in…they insist on you writing down your name and email address. Which is great to essentially get a free reminder a few days later about the suppliers you liked, but I got a GDPR email from a random company a few weeks ago, which sent me into a mild panic: the name wasn’t anything to do with weddings, and it took me Googling the website link to realise it was a wedding ring company! Panic over, it wasn’t a stalker. But I’d totally forgotten I’d even given them my details. We weren’t interested in the slightest but I felt bad for the guy who had very few names on his sheet, so I suppose I’ve contradicted my earlier statement. At the end of the day though, it’s totally up to you how you choose to spend your experience; a s**t ton of emails might be a help to some, but may be a nuisance to others. 

30689320_1110592105747487_4967645052424683520_o

All in all, they’re great events to attend, and whilst there are a couple of cons, they really don’t outweigh all the pros – and this post wasn’t necessarily about reviewing the experience, it was to give you a general idea. I hadn’t read much about what to expect from a Wedding Fayre when I googled ahead of our visit, so I’m putting this out there in the hope it finds someone who really needs an honest opinion. OR, maybe you just fancied a nosey…it seems people are curious about wedding related thangs!

If you’ve enjoyed reading this, stay tuned by subscribing/following my blog because I’ve got plenty of other wedding post ideas! 😊

Lynette x (3)