Things No One Tells You About Moving House

When we decided back in March that we were going to move, I had no IDEA what the reality of it would actually be. Of course I’ve moved before, but it’s never been as big as this one…whilst moving to uni or to central London have been significant points in my life, they were never MASSIVE. Sure it’s stressful, having to pack everything up and move your entire life elsewhere – but it’s not until we started the process of buying a house that I realised all my previous stresses were NOTHING compared to the adulting version.

I wasn’t totally naive, I knew there’d be a lot of things involved (things you don’t think about until you’re doing it) but the whole process was made unnecessarily stressful by factors we couldn’t control. I’m not going to go into the nitty gritty of the actual sale of the flat/purchase of the house, because frankly, I don’t want to. What I AM going to share with you are the day to day experiences.

1 – Stress

The constant STRESS will be nothing you’ve ever experienced before. Plenty of people said to me over the last few months that along with divorce, it’s one if the biggest things you can do in your life. I’ve felt stressed plenty of times in the past, as we all have, but stressing about something at work now seems like a walk in the park by comparison! There’s so many things hanging over your head for so long, you can’t do ANYTHING about them, it’s all in someone else’s hands…and that was maybe the worst bit.

2 – The disruption to your life

We carried on working as we moved, but I’d be lying if I said I was still able to give work my full attention during the process. I was often distracted, but in particular, it affected the amount I could work from home. As a dance teacher, I do all of my prepping, music finding/editing at home, and when we were moving I just didn’t have the time. I take my hat off to anyone with a 9-5 job (or similar) who keep working and move at the same time, because I really struggled.

3 – Packing is SO time consuming

If you can, start early. Yes it’s a pain to live out of boxes, but TRUST ME, the sooner you start the better.

4 – You’ll have a constant dull headache

Most likely brought on by the stress, and thankfully I didn’t have one for the entire 6 months…but for the actual move itself, it was always there. Keep the paracetamol handy.

5 – How mentally and physically draining it is

…I think because for so long, your life is out of your control. You rely solely on other people to make this dream happen for you, and you may feel like they don’t give a s**t. Which can be such a gutting feeling to have to walk around with, particularly for months on end.

6 – You have so much CRAP

I’ve said it before, but you don’t realise how much crap you accumulate until you have to box it all up and pack it away! We used the move as an opportunity to have a bit of detox and a sort (a lot went to charity or in the bin in the end), but you’ll still have a million things to pack. And a month after moving in, you’ll still have unpacked boxes littering your home. It’s not ideal, but it’s best just to accept it!

7 – Even though it’s a legally binding document, signing doesn’t feel real

Probably because it’s taken so long to get to this point. You’ve had so many phone calls, so many cases of getting your hopes up that things are starting to happen, but then being let down. So when it ACTUALLY happens it feels very surreal. I didn’t even believe it when we got the keys!

8 – How much cardboard you’ll accumulate

Obviously, there’ll be tons from the boxes you used to move stuff over, but even MORE so if your furniture is new. Our house is a new build, was totally bare, and we wanted to use it as an opportunity for a fresh start – with the wedding in 6 months, it was the prefect time to start a new chapter. Which is amazing, but the amount of things you have to buy will be a lot more than you thought! And that translated into cardboard means a LOT of runs to the tip.

But please don’t think it’s all negative! Not at all! There’s so many positives (and I’ll be talking about these in a separate post), but you can GUESS the good ones ahead of time. The ones I’ve listed are things I hadn’t even considered until we experienced it ourselves!

I’m going to leave you with a positive though:

9 – How incredible it feels when things start coming together

You may not be totally happy with how things are, your TV still isn’t mounted on the wall, you’ve got some doors off hinges after having the carpet done and your second bedroom resembles a dumping ground…

But it’s starting to take shape, it’s starting to feel like home, and after the crazy, busy, stressful experience, it’s in AMAZING feeling!

AND whilst I have the opportunity, I want to give a huge shout out to our friends and family for all the support you’ve offered. Whether that was an ear to moan to (I’m looking predominantly at my ladies dance/fitness class on a Monday – Moaning Monday I nicknamed it, I’m so sorry 😂), a supportive or encouraging word, the offer of help or a ‘Happy New Home’ card…it means a lot. In particular, I need to show lots of love to both sets of parents who’ve been absolutely amazing (as ever, but especially) during this process 💖

Stay tuned for more house posts – I’ll be discussing our fave stores for kitting out our new home next time!

Lynette x

Life Update – Autumn 2018

RIGHT, well hello again…I can’t believe how long it’s been! I’d really started getting into blogging over the summer, and then suddenly; nothing. But I promise you I have a very valid reason – WE MOVED INTO OUR FIRST HOUSE!

If you know me or follow me on social media, I’m sure it won’t have escaped your notice, as I haven’t really shut up about it! It’s been a long, tiring, stressful process – how naive was I to think it’d be easy and smooth, and that we’d be settled and back to normal by the end of September?! ❌ I’m not going to go into details of the problems we’ve encountered throughout this process because frankly, I see no point in moaning now we’re finally getting settled, and also, you’d still be reading this post 6 months from now 🙃 I want to focus on the POSITIVES, because as I say, we’re in, we’re settled and we love the house!

My last blog post 25 Discoveries in my 25th Year was published when we were in our little limbo home – we moved out of the flat on 17th September but couldn’t move into the house until 26th September (it’s a new build so it was totally bare – we were waiting on the carpet installation), so spent a week in a holiday home by the river. It wasn’t an ideal situation, but it was pretty and we made it work – and it meant I spent the evening of my 26th birthday on the roof terrace with my Bish, sipping Prosecco ❤️

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Moving into a new build is great, because you can TOTALLY make it your own. But when you’re starting with a blank canvas, it takes time to get it done, especially when you’re still working at the same time. We’ve got all the furniture done now (apart from some shelves that need fitting and the TV mounted on the wall), so it’ll just be little homey touches to finish it off – and those kinds of things are best decided when you’ve actually been living in the space! Some of my favourite additions so far – PLANTS! They really lift the feeling of the room, and I’m loving having them around.

I want to give a MASSIVE shout out right now to my parents who helped us with the move – they didn’t need to take time off from work to help us shift all of our crap out of the flat and move it over, but they did. Or to give up their evenings to help us take things to to the tip, but they did. And a SPECIAL mention to my Dad who’s given up EVERY SINGLE WEEKEND SINCE to help us DIY 😳 It’s meant so much to both of us that you’ve been so helpful and supportive, and we really can’t thank you enough ❤️

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As we slowly start to get there, we can begin to find a bit of normality in life again (though it’s been up in the air for so long, I may have forgotten what that feels like)! I’m really excited to get back to blogging (I’ve missed it and my blogger friends!), and I can actually get a bit of a social life back! With my job, my social life isn’t particularly thiving anyway, but for too many months now I’ve had to postpone plans with friends. I can’t tell you how many times the phrase ‘as soon as we’re a bit more settled in the house we’ll get something sorted!’ has been used! And I feel awful for having had to do it, I just didn’t realise how long it’d take to be ‘sorted’. I should’ve just sent out an email to my bezzies 3 months back saying ‘SEE YA AT XMAS!’, it’d have probably been more accurate 😂

I’m majorly excited to get back to my chums (because they have so much going on too, so catch ups are a MUST), and also to get back to wedding planning! It had to be put on hold during the move – thank God we got the big things booked 6 months ago, else we’d be in real bother now! With only half a year left, I really need to get cracking! 👰🏻

And I continue to love my job 💖 My ‘academy’ kids performed amazingly in their showcase this weekend – to see how far they’ve come in year just filled me with pride! And my ‘studio’ kids better get ready, because when we get back from half term, we go full whack into rehearsals for our annual show in March! I’ve got some routine ideas that I’m really excited to start, so bring it on! A couple of little extra opportunities have presented themselves over the last couple of months too, which is really amazing, and I feel incredibly grateful. Seeing kids learn, grow, become better people, develop their teamwork skills, have fun with friends and and enjoy themselves is just incredible – I’m very lucky to be able to do such a rewarding job 🙏

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And that, my friends, is where I leave you for today. I have plenty of blog inspo that I’ve been jotting down in my Bullet Journal (the journal I meant to talk about at the beginning of September…it didn’t happen then because I didn’t have time, but I WILL be discussing it in my next post)! December is fast approaching too, which means…BLOGMAS! It’s getting cold, I’m loving my new cuddly coat, and I’m proper getting in the mood for winter and Christmas so I’ve started planning for that too! Who else is planning for Blogmas?

Until next time,

Lynette x

How I Spent My Week Off

Does what it says on the tin I guess, no need for a massive introduction! I have no idea whether this is going to be of any interest or not, but seeing as having a full week of absolutely no work is so rare for me, I wanted to document it. So here we go!

Summer school finished on the Friday, I spent the Saturday planning for Autumn term, so we’re starting the week on Sunday. I’m going to give you a couple of little insights to each day…obviously, I won’t have spent my entire day doing these things, I fitted telly watching/laundry/grocery shopping/meal planning/general chilling into my days as well…but this isn’t a diary, so I won’t bore you with the nitty gritty things 😊

SUNDAY

IMG_3280.JPGI started the week with a GORGEOUS catch up with my best girl and Maid of Honour, whom I haven’t seen properly in months! (The coffee was too yummy on a cold day to take a pretty pic first, hence the empty cups you get instead 😉). I can tell you right now, I love adulting, and I love my job, but the two together means it’s near impossible to find time to socialise 😳 I think we all struggle, in our own ways. But it was so lovely to see her and a laugh! So after we’d had a cuppa and a good old natter, home I toddled to make soup, and sat down for the afternoon with my book. Following my Summer Reading List post, I’ve finished one book and am half way through the second! Quite an achievement for me in this short amount of time! Go and check out my list if you’re curious. 
The evening was finished off PERFECTLY with a beauts Chicken Thigh recipe from Alice’s first book, red wine, The Hobbit (Part 3), and my Bish 😊 (Which, by the way, is the nickname Ed and I have for each other. We’ve been friends for over 9 years now, and we’ve never called each other by our first names. Never. I have no idea where ‘Bish’ came from, and to refer to, it’s easy to call him Ed…but to his face…NAH. WEIRD. He’s Bish 😊)

MONDAY

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I had THE ULTIMATE BANK HOLIDAY MONG. Lots of sitting around doing nothing and watching Primeval (one of my August Hauls). Ed went out to get us a takeaway from So Bar (one of our faveeee places to eat, they do the most INSANE burgers), drank wine, and watched Fellowship of the Ring. Followed by a banoffee brownie (also from So) for pudding WHICH WAS AMAZING, especially after this ‘cleaner’ plan we’ve been on recently! It was a long time since we had a yummy, cosy night in like this together, and I’d really missed it.

TUESDAY

Voldy (my little Viva) was getting her first MOT (ever, and with me) on the Wednesday, so we went out to check over things. And to give her a wash. I CAN’T WAIT TILL WE MOVE so I don’t have to park under a tree anymore…white car + tree = leaves, bird mess, and a new natural habitat growing at the bottom of your windscreen between your wipers and bonnet. GROSS. I hadn’t driven for 6 weeks either, so that didn’t help! But never mind, she got some TLC.
IMG_3224Today is ALSO the day I started my Bullet Journal! I’d been sooooo excited to get organised (I’d been making blogging notes on my phone and iPad, but that wasn’t cutting it anymore). I planned it all out, I got out my new fine liners, I got artistic and started drawing too…I genuinely had loads of fun, I love drawing and colouring.
The day was finished with painting my nails with my new varnish from Prism Polish UK – again, I included this pic in my August Haul, but LOOK AT THAT COLOUR 😍

WEDNESDAY

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Voldy went for her MOT, passed, and came back even sparklier than before! In the time I had free , I went window shopping (with the new house in mind) in TK Maxx/Homesense, Matalan Home, Boots and Next, and finally finished up in Costa to have some lunch. I really enjoyed it actually, it’s been a long time since I got out to do something like that by myself. I really must try to do it more often (she says as the most stressful and manic couple of months begin 🙃😰) 

THURSDAY

August Haul was written, photos taken, and published. Doesn’t sound like much but this blogging malarkey really is a time consuming hobby! The rest of the day was spent filling in more of my journal, watching more Primeval, and trying to just chill out and wind down. I felt very pent up today, I’m not sure why…

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FRIDAY

Was a day of adulting, followed by  a trip to the theatre. First off, it was the first time I’d driven on the Motorway at 6pm on a Friday…well THAT was an experience! I’m used to travelling on a Sunday morning, when the traffic is fairly light, so creeping along some stretches nose to tail at 20 mph was a bit of a change! Not gonna lie, I was anxious about the journey ahead of time, and during, but I’m proud of myself for cracking on and not giving in, because now I can tick the ‘stressful motorway drive’ off the list of accomplishments!

IMG_3339Also, I have to do a quick shoutout to the show I went to see…Wakefield Youth Music Theatre Group performing Les Mis. I’m still relatively new to the Wakefield theatre scene, and have only seen one production before now (which was this time last year)…but…WOW.
I think it’s natural to go to a youth group show with good (but perhaps not exceptional) expectations. HOW WRONG COULD I BE. I have learned, that when you go to Wakefield, you expect the best AND YOU’LL GET MORE. (I mean, to be fair, it’s a Louise Denison/Jim Lunt production, so OF COURSE it’s going to be incredible!) I genuinely couldn’t believe the passion and energy pouring off the stage from this group of kids and the standing O they received was totally deserved. If you’re in commutable distance of Wakey before the show closes at the end of this week, I URGE you to go, you won’t be disappointed. AND the other lovely thing, was that I got to see one of my girls who I hadn’t seen in nearly a year 😊

SATURDAY

IMG_3379I spent the first part of my day editing my ‘1 Second a Day’ video. I’d seen some friends post their 2017 videos at the beginning of this year and thought it was a lovely idea! I know that you can get apps that do it for you, but when I already pay my monthly subscription to Adobe for Premiere Pro, I figured I’d get my money’s worth and do it myself! Which is actually quite fun! 

I also figured I should start organising for when we move. So the afternoon was spent upstairs, sorting, packing things into bags and disassembling the storage rack (which, by the way, I’ll share at another point, probably in a ‘new house’ related post, because it’s so handy)!

SUNDAY

I know I started on a Sunday too, but WE WENT TO DUNELM MILL AND IT WAS AMAZING! First off, it was a day of adulting with my fiance, and I don’t think I can ever stress enough how special times like this are. The last time I visited Dunelm was when Mum, Dad and I were kitting out my flat in Sidcup, so that’ll be at least 5 years ago now, if not longer! The house Ed and I are moving in to is a new build so it’s a totally blank canvas – which means we can do everything from scratch and make it completely our own. With the wedding next year too, this is the start of a new chapter of our lives – and it really is quite exciting 😊 I don’t want to get too carried away now (which would be very easy because it was so fun!), because as I said, I’m reserving ‘house things’ to another time. 

I rarely get that ‘Sunday feeling’ because usually I work Friday-Tuesday, but after a week of absolutely no work and back to classes tonight, I was definitely feeling it a bit!

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Hope you all had a lovely summer – let’s get back to it! 💪

Lynette x