Things No One Tells You About Moving House

When we decided back in March that we were going to move, I had no IDEA what the reality of it would actually be. Of course I’ve moved before, but it’s never been as big as this one…whilst moving to uni or to central London have been significant points in my life, they were never MASSIVE. Sure it’s stressful, having to pack everything up and move your entire life elsewhere – but it’s not until we started the process of buying a house that I realised all my previous stresses were NOTHING compared to the adulting version.

I wasn’t totally naive, I knew there’d be a lot of things involved (things you don’t think about until you’re doing it) but the whole process was made unnecessarily stressful by factors we couldn’t control. I’m not going to go into the nitty gritty of the actual sale of the flat/purchase of the house, because frankly, I don’t want to. What I AM going to share with you are the day to day experiences.

1 – Stress

The constant STRESS will be nothing you’ve ever experienced before. Plenty of people said to me over the last few months that along with divorce, it’s one if the biggest things you can do in your life. I’ve felt stressed plenty of times in the past, as we all have, but stressing about something at work now seems like a walk in the park by comparison! There’s so many things hanging over your head for so long, you can’t do ANYTHING about them, it’s all in someone else’s hands…and that was maybe the worst bit.

2 – The disruption to your life

We carried on working as we moved, but I’d be lying if I said I was still able to give work my full attention during the process. I was often distracted, but in particular, it affected the amount I could work from home. As a dance teacher, I do all of my prepping, music finding/editing at home, and when we were moving I just didn’t have the time. I take my hat off to anyone with a 9-5 job (or similar) who keep working and move at the same time, because I really struggled.

3 – Packing is SO time consuming

If you can, start early. Yes it’s a pain to live out of boxes, but TRUST ME, the sooner you start the better.

4 – You’ll have a constant dull headache

Most likely brought on by the stress, and thankfully I didn’t have one for the entire 6 months…but for the actual move itself, it was always there. Keep the paracetamol handy.

5 – How mentally and physically draining it is

…I think because for so long, your life is out of your control. You rely solely on other people to make this dream happen for you, and you may feel like they don’t give a s**t. Which can be such a gutting feeling to have to walk around with, particularly for months on end.

6 – You have so much CRAP

I’ve said it before, but you don’t realise how much crap you accumulate until you have to box it all up and pack it away! We used the move as an opportunity to have a bit of detox and a sort (a lot went to charity or in the bin in the end), but you’ll still have a million things to pack. And a month after moving in, you’ll still have unpacked boxes littering your home. It’s not ideal, but it’s best just to accept it!

7 – Even though it’s a legally binding document, signing doesn’t feel real

Probably because it’s taken so long to get to this point. You’ve had so many phone calls, so many cases of getting your hopes up that things are starting to happen, but then being let down. So when it ACTUALLY happens it feels very surreal. I didn’t even believe it when we got the keys!

8 – How much cardboard you’ll accumulate

Obviously, there’ll be tons from the boxes you used to move stuff over, but even MORE so if your furniture is new. Our house is a new build, was totally bare, and we wanted to use it as an opportunity for a fresh start – with the wedding in 6 months, it was the prefect time to start a new chapter. Which is amazing, but the amount of things you have to buy will be a lot more than you thought! And that translated into cardboard means a LOT of runs to the tip.

But please don’t think it’s all negative! Not at all! There’s so many positives (and I’ll be talking about these in a separate post), but you can GUESS the good ones ahead of time. The ones I’ve listed are things I hadn’t even considered until we experienced it ourselves!

I’m going to leave you with a positive though:

9 – How incredible it feels when things start coming together

You may not be totally happy with how things are, your TV still isn’t mounted on the wall, you’ve got some doors off hinges after having the carpet done and your second bedroom resembles a dumping ground…

But it’s starting to take shape, it’s starting to feel like home, and after the crazy, busy, stressful experience, it’s in AMAZING feeling!

AND whilst I have the opportunity, I want to give a huge shout out to our friends and family for all the support you’ve offered. Whether that was an ear to moan to (I’m looking predominantly at my ladies dance/fitness class on a Monday – Moaning Monday I nicknamed it, I’m so sorry 😂), a supportive or encouraging word, the offer of help or a ‘Happy New Home’ card…it means a lot. In particular, I need to show lots of love to both sets of parents who’ve been absolutely amazing (as ever, but especially) during this process 💖

Stay tuned for more house posts – I’ll be discussing our fave stores for kitting out our new home next time!

Lynette x

Adult Life Hacks (Part II)

Following the popularity of my first Adult Life Hacks, I thought I’d pop down 5 more for you! My favourite (and one I’m probably most proud of) is number 10: the biggest girly life saver so far!

6. Buy a reusable bottle.
It’s been all over the place recently now we’re fully aware of the impact plastic is having on our oceans, but I’m putting it down for multiple reasons:
A – you’re helping save the planet
B – you can easily keep track of your water intake (which is especially important in this heatwave)
C – you can treat yourself to something fancy. One with a water tracker, or a Love Island sippy cup if you feel so inclined… 😉

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7. Have a medicine cupboard.
One place, for all the random stuff you might need. Rennies, Germolene, Plasters, Cough Syrup, After Sun – just chuck it all in there and forget about it till you need it. And don’t replace when you’ve run out, replace when you’re RUNNING out. There’s nothing worse than waking up in the middle of the night with a banging headache and realising you have no pain relief.

8. Keep a pack of tissues in the car.
You never know when you might need them – runny nose, dusty dashboard, cobweb on your wing mirror, blossom stuck out of reach of the windscreen wipers… Just pop a pack in the glove box, it’s crazy how many times they come in handy.

9. You don’t need to have chocolate in stock like toilet paper.
If you do, you just eat it (or I do anyway). I was awful at this in college, I always had it so I always ate it. In my defence, I was dancing a millions hours a day and was eating quite a healthy/balanced diet, and sometimes after a sweaty ballet class, you just NEEDED to chow down on a Freddo. I’ve since learned the error of my ways – buy it when you need it, don’t stock pile it in the fridge/cupboard.

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10. Fix a broken nail with a teabag.
I tell you no lie. I love my nails to look pretty, and I’m sure that there’s plenty of girlies out there who can empathise with the heartbreak of a broken nail. You’ve just gotten them all to a nice length, and you knock it badly or catch it on something, and it splits. I learned a year or so ago, it’s NOT the end of the world, you don’t need to cut all your beautifully grown out nails down. Head to the kitchen, grab a teabag, empty the contents into the bin and cut off a small square. Paint a layer of clear nail varnish on your poorly nail, pop the small cut of teabag on top of the split, and wait till it’s dry. Add another clear coat, and you’re good to carry on your normal nail routine! Obviously it’s not totally super smooth, so I make sure the nail colour I choose to go on top includes some glitter (this covers any lumps)…but it honestly works! AND because you only need a teeny bit of teabag per go, you don’t have to waste your brew by using a whole teabag every time – you’re only using a tiny square so you can save your ‘nail saviour’ for next time! Give it a go…

If you missed the first 5, you can check them out here

Lynette x

Adult Life Hacks (Part I)

After much deliberation, I’M BACK with a fresh updated blog! Bringing you ramblings from all aspects of life now, not just dance – we’re talking lifestyle, work, theatre, general musings – maybe even some wedding updates as requested by a couple of people! I’m not going to promise how frequently I’ll be posting because we all know life/work can get cray, but I really want to try and stay on top of it. So, without further ado…let my next chapter commence!

IMG_1142Now then, I’m not going to claim these ‘life hacks’ will be earth shatteringly life changing, but I’ve found them to be blooming’ useful. Mama P would be proud. Except the last one…I don’t think she’d be proud of that one…

1. Always have tinned tomatoes in the cupboard.
They can go in so many dishes, and are fab to have if you can’t be bothered making an effort for tea and just want to throw some bits in a pan. I don’t even LIKE tomatoes. But it works. And I’d never be without them.

2. Bio Oil is a GOD SEND.
My skin has never been amazing. In my teen years, I assumed that when I reached my twenties, it’d be perfect. That didn’t happen, which was quite disappointing. I’m only just starting to really get on top of/understand my skin and skin care regime, and bio oil has been an incredible addition. Massage it onto scars and (it won’t happen immediately but) keep at it – they’ll disappear. Genuinely. Using this on spot scars has been amazing and I’m finally starting to find some confidence. I went out the other day with no makeup on, and that’s unheard of. Don’t get me wrong, I haven’t spent the last 10 years or so going out with a full face on every single day, but even on a chilled day, I couldn’t leave the house without a dab of concealer. So this one is a big deal for me.
By request, credit goes to my wonderful fiancé for introducing me to the shimmering world of bio oil😊

3. Your basket is your friend.
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Shopping online? I don’t know about you, but I LOVE a good browse. In season, out of season, whether you visit a site to intentionally buy, or just get carried away whilst you’re bored on your day off…add your favourite items to your basket, then leave them there for a couple of days. If you’re still thinking about them 2 days later, you’re good to go. If NOT, you just saved yourself from an impulse buy, you won’t be living off bread sandwiches for the next month, and it won’t serve as a gloomy reminder in your wardrobe of the cocktails you could’ve had, or cute stationery you could’ve bought.

4. Buy the Aldi own/Morrison’s own booze equivalents.
Archers? Orchards? It tastes exactly the same when mixed (especially once you’ve had a few). Save the pennies and get the half price one.

5. Hide your washing up in the oven.
House guests, entertaining for the evening or just someone popping round for a cuppa…pack it away…out of sight, out of mind! Until you forget it’s there. For the love of god, don’t forget you’ve hidden it there and pre-heat the oven later that day. Obviously I would never do something silly like that (🙄), but I can pretty much guarantee that any big knives would melt and weld themselves to the wire rack. Any crumbs on a baking tray would turn to charcoal. And you’d feel like an absolute spoon. Just…be careful! And remember, this doesn’t come from experience……..

Lynette x