Welcome to my birthday post! I turned 27 at the weekend, so it’s time for ’26 Discoveries in my 26th Year’ 💖 A lot of bloggers do ‘__ things I’ve learned in __ years’, but… More
11. Command Strips 🖼️
After a dramatic experience when trying to mount a TV bracket on the wall last year involving gas, a hole in the wall and living off takeaways for a few days (I’ll let you fill in the gaps!), we just couldn’t be bothered dealing with the STRESS of banging 17 picture hooks into THE SAME WALL when we put up some wedding photos 😬 SO, Command Strips it was! Genius things, easy to use, and nothing’s fallen down yet (touch wood)!
12. Save Money on Flowers: Buy an Orchid 🌸
I love having plants and flowers in the home, it really brightens the place up. I love having a vase of flowers on the coffee table, but it really does add up if you’re having to replace them every week. Maybe one day I won’t notice the flower shaped dent in my bank account, but for now, a one off purchase of an orchid was a great idea! Just got to remember to water it (I’m not so good at that, but I’m getting better)!
13. Always Have Lardons in the Fridge 🥓
I mentioned it in my first vlog a couple of weeks back, but they’re honestly such handy things to have around. They only take 3 minutes to cook, so when you’re not sure what to make for lunch or tea, it’s easy to throw them in a salad, some eggs, a pasta dish…the possibilities are endless! Unless you’re a vegetarian I guess… 🙈
14. Use a Potato Masher to Close the Windows 🥔
#ShortPeopleProbs, I can’t close the kitchen windows when they’re open in summer because I’m too short to reach over the counter 🙃 Instead of walking outside to push them in (which I’ve done a couple of times), grab your potato masher to yank them in again! Credit to Mama P for that idea!
15. Damp Paper Towel for Bird Poop 🕊️
Crediting my Dad for this one…we had a lovely deposit left on the back of the house, but apparently this hack works on cars too. Dampen a paper towel, pat it onto the ‘stain’ and leave it for a few minutes. You still might need to give it a firm wipe or little scrub (depending on whether you’re dealing with glass, metal or brick), but it’ll be MUCH easier to get rid of then.
With all this hot weather we’ve been having, the summer beverages have been FLOWING, particularly as we just had a glorious bank holiday weekend! Here are the ones I can’t be without. 🍹☕🥂🍸🍺
Robinson’s Lime & Mint Cordial
Okay, so I love the flavour of mint when it’s in/on/with something sweet, but can’t stand it on food or in drinks (you will NEVER see me with a Mojito). However, I’ll have to find a loophole in that statement for Robinson’s cordial. I wanted to get some lime squash and this was the only choice in Tesco…so I thought I’d give it a go. And WOW am I glad I did! The mint is subtle, the lime not too weak, and I’ve been mixing it with lemonade every day for the last few days 😂 Whether you’re a mint lover or not, give it a try!
I mean, iced anything, but can you go wrong with a delicious iced coffee? Whether it’s bought or homemade, regular milk or milk replacement, added flavouring or just as it is…it’s a summer must have.
Peach Iced Tea
Like the coffee, any iced tea is delicious, but my fave is peach. Really peachy as well, not a weak watered down flavour. All the peach 🍑
Two Brothers Cider
Any cider is good in the warm weather, but Two Brothers is the favourite of Ed and I. They tend to be on offer in the supermarket (bonus!) and the flavours are yurrrmy. Ed opts for Rhubarb and Custard and I go for Toffee Apple, a flavour I first discovered when I was in London, and it’s now a firm part of my life.
Lime & Soda
My go to non-alcoholic summer drink in pubs and beer gardens since I was a kid. They’re delicious, and I suppose the flavour brings back fond memories.
Rhubarb and Ginger Gin
I’ve only really got into gin in the last year or so, mainly because that’s when I discovered it with LEMONADE. I hate the taste of tonic, so just never had gin before (they go hand in hand, right)? Not in our house! I mix any gin we have with lemonade to satisfy my sweet tooth. I love trying new flavours, and whilst Rhubarb and Ginger isn’t exclusively drunk in the warmer weather, it’s a yummy summery taste.
And obviously, the standard beer, prosecco, Archers and lemonade…oh, and water. Water’s important too #hydration 👍🏻 Have you got any other favourite summer bevvies?
‘Adulting’ is a term I use frequently with my friends – sometimes sarcastically, sometimes seriously – but always with the slight disbelief that we’re ACTUALLY ADULTS, and not just moseying through life as our teenage selves did. I’m married, I have a house, a car, amazing jobs…yet I still struggle to get my head around the fact that I’m almost in my late twenties, and that the kids I teach will see me as a ‘grown up’! I decided I’d just take note of some of the things that have highlighted my ‘adult’ status this month:
1. I made an ‘unwanted presents’ box in the loft
It’s no secret that on some occasions during our lives, we all receive presents we don’t like, don’t need, or just aren’t ‘us’. We can’t bear to throw them away because we feel guilty (even though the person who gifted them will probably never know), and it’s not that we’re ungrateful…but when you don’t like whatever it is, or it has no place in your life, what do you do? Well, I made a box. A box for unwanted gifts that can sit in the loft, out of sight, but always there. And if you’re sat there reading this thinking ‘that’s awful!’, then you’re lying, and you know full well that you have your own system (even if it’s not the same as mine) of dealing with weird gifts.
2. We have a flowerbed
AND WE’RE VERY PROUD OF IT! We got a bit of advice from Granny Nette (thankyou!) about how to start, but other than that, we did it all ourselves! It’s really pretty, and we’re really proud of ourselves that we did something adult-y that went right.
3. I bought a spirit level
I used to borrow dad’s, but I decided that I’d got to a stage in my life where I needed my own. So I got one.
4. Warm weather = more washing!
Once upon a time, the heat excited you because it meant you could go and do fun things, or spend longer with your friends. Now, if I wake up and the weather’s forecast to be warm with no rain, I get excited for all the washing I know I can get done (and dried!) that day.
5. I drove to get a Maccies and ended up coming back with M&S food
The intention after summer school was to drive to the retail park and treat myself to a takeaway…but as soon as I got there, I didn’t fancy it. So into M&S I went, and picked up some flowers for myself when I got there too.
6. Garden Centre trips are REALLY FUN
So, the homewear shopping trips started to become fun when I was a student, but since we moved into the house and we have a garden now, Homebase/garden centre trips have become just as fun!
7. I had to shout at kids for playing in our drive
Yep, I turned myself into ‘that scary lady who lives at number ___’. But when the kids were playing around our cars, that’s a big NOPE. I got very cross. And anyone who knows me, knows that when I get really riled up, it’s not pretty. It worked though, I haven’t seen them anywhere near our house or drive since! Mwahaha…
8. I’m googling weeding tips
I don’t think there’s anything to comment on, there’s just no denying it’s ridiculously adult-y, and I wouldn’t have been doing it a few years back!
9. “Sorry, my husband deals with that”
It’s happen a couple of times, but the main one was to a Virgin cold caller knocking on the door with a ‘I noticed you’re not with us’ spiel…it meant I could get rid of him within 2 seconds of opening the door ✋
I also still feel giddy when I refer to Ed as my ‘husband’ or someone calls me by my new surname 😍
Who else has similar, scary moments of realisation?! 🙈
After months of blogging about all things wedding, ‘The Wedding Series’ has come to an end! Before I sign off properly on this little project, I thought I’d write a post which includes links to each post I made – so everything’s in one place and easily accessible should anyone need it/want it. I’m going to go chronologically, from the very first post I wrote last July to last week.
Each title is linked, so you can get to each post easily!
Read the story of my wedding dress shopping experience at The Bridal Factory Outlet in Northallerton.
All the best bits in one tidy little blog post.
Read about our experience of the UK Wedding Event at Harrogate Sun Pavilions.
I can’t decide which is more stressful – moving house or planning a wedding. But it’s an epic task, it’ll take over your life, and when you’re in the middle of it, any stress relieving tips will help.
My top tips for having the most organised, magical experience possible.
Straight from my wedding spreadsheet (minus a few details that only our wedding needed). Grab a cuppa…
There’s so many pretty, quirky and fun things out there that you’re going to want to add to your wedding…these are the ones that turned me into a magpie!
…before you sign on the dotted line.
…to check you’re signing on for your perfect package.
…don’t get carried away by yummy cake and forget the important details!
Our wedding day in pictures.
A few months on from the first post, because one alone wasn’t enough!
Read about the miracle products that got my skin wedding ready.
Tips I learned during wedding planning that I had to pass on to future brides and grooms.
I did my own makeup – see what products I used.
You read all the nice posts, and the advice posts…but what’s the reality? The things no one talks about?
Potentially my most important post! Tips for couples for the big day itself – tips to ensure you have the most happy, magical day possible.
You’ll have so many questions during the planning process, ones that never would have crossed your mind until you’re knee deep in planning! These were mine…
…for both wedding guests AND the couple getting married!
Though it could’ve been so much more if I didn’t exercise some self restraint!
Thankyou to everyone who’s supported both my blog and my Instagram in the last year since I started running it ‘properly’, it means so much to have the support of you lot.
Onto the next adventure!
I honestly don’t know what I’d do without Etsy! I’ve used it for gifts before, but it’s such a gem when it comes to kitting out your wedding too. There’s so many gorgeous and wonderful things on there, but here are the ones that caught my attention, and made it to our wedding. I’ve linked all the product titles so you can get straight to each Etsy page if you want!
Finding the perfect signage for our wedding literally took months and months of browsing, until finally I came across LolaandElvis. They have a few different design options, but I loved this one. All the types of signs we wanted were available, PLUS they were happy to create an ‘Unplugged Ceremony’ sign just for us! The service was impeccable, mock ups were emailed to me to check over, and nothing I asked was too much trouble. I felt like a valued customer, not just another number, and each sign was perfect when they arrived. I honestly can’t recommend this company enough.
I mean, HOW CUTE are these?! I saw them and fell in love, because I thought they’d be a perfect little present to ask my girls to be my Bridesmaids 😊 There’s lots of choices for ribbon and flower colour, so yours can be totally unique!
It’s biodegradable, the colours were spot on for our colour scheme…what’s not to love?!
You can get hair accessories from so many places, but I didn’t really know what I wanted. I decided early on that I was going to do my own hair, and with all the curls I wasn’t sure how I wanted to play it when it came to accessorising. So I decided to get a couple of grips like this so that I had the freedom to play around and use them however I wanted. I loved that, plus, they’re so pretty 😍
I wanted to get my Dad cufflinks as an ‘I love you/thankyou for everything’ present, and I stumbled across these which could be personalised with our wedding date (image from Etsy site, not ours). Personalised, yet classy…something I feel can sometimes be lost with personalised gifts. They were really special and I’m so glad I found them.
Cheap and cheerful and they worked well with the rest of our signage! Again, what’s not to love?!
I’m going to ignore the fact that there was some confusion with delivery (twice!) because it was sent to the wrong address (on the other side of the country!) for no reason…because I really love the product. I did a lot of spray painting for the wedding, so I ordered these in unpainted wood and sprayed them myself so everything would match…and saved quite a bit of money in doing so! They sat on our top table during the breakfast, on our gift table during the evening do, and now, on our living room windowsill!
Who else is a massive Etsy fan?!
With my wedding series almost over, I thought it a good idea to write an etiquette post – for both wedding guests AND the happy couple (yep, there’s etiquette on both sides)! I’m sure in this day and age we’re all aware of the Do’s and Don’t’s…but it’s good to have a reminder…
If You’re the One
If a guest is married, it’s required by etiquette (yeh, required, that’s the word that articles use!) to invite the spouse. I had to google this one as I was sure it was a ‘thing’ and it definitely is, so make sure you invite the significant others.
Send thankyou cards
Obviously, you’d thank anyone who gave you a wedding gift, but don’t just send a text – finish off your wedding with a flourish and do it on paper or card – maybe even using the same design template as you did for the rest of your stationery!
Don’t invite someone to the hen/stag if they’re not coming to the wedding
Goes without saying really I think, but how much of a slap in the face would that be?!
Chat to your guests
Receiving lines aren’t really a part of new traditions, but make sure you get round to all your guests for a quick chat. As well as it just being polite, surely you WANT to see them all?!
If your wedding isn’t close to home (be that 30 minutes, or 300 miles), you need to provide your guests with information about accommodation (and transport, for that matter)! If your venue has rooms, great, if not, hit google and find some nearby hotels that you can note down on your information cards.
Don’t put registry info on the invitation
Your invitation is something special, you’re telling people that they’re loved so much that you want them there on your special day! It may be tempting to get all your information out there at the same time (and save on stamps too, it doesn’t half get expensive when you’re posting all your invites!), but now is not the time to start asking for gifts. Save that for later.
If You’re a Guest:
DON’T. WEAR. WHITE.
I can’t stress this enough. Even with a pattern on. There’s so many colours to choose from, please, just pick one of those. A bride would be totally within her rights to kick you out and never talk to you again if you turned up in white. I would’ve done had any of our guests turned up like that.
And by the same token, if you’re planning an outfit to stand out and make a statement, shame on you. Wear something nice, look gorgeous of course, but the couple has one day to themselves, one day as the centre of attention with family and friends around them – to attempt to stand out is selfish.
RSVP on time
The couple will have put an ‘RSVP by’ date on your invite. This is because they NEED TO KNOW BY THEN for a multitude of reasons, they haven’t just plucked it out of thin air. Don’t be the guest they have to chase: when it’s been made so clear, they won’t be your biggest fans for ignoring it.
Being a no show is a big no no! Weddings are expensive, and other people have missed out on the opportunity to be there because you RSVP’d yes. Unless you’re blown away to Oz in a tornado, you should be there.
Unless you’re the bride or groom, you’re a guest.
I’ve said it many times before, but weddings are mammoth tasks and very stressful. Unless you’re the ones getting married, you are a guest. Just smile sweetly, agree with everything that’s going on, don’t start questioning, grilling or making the couple feel guilty or obligated to do something (whether that’s during the planning or on the day itself) – it’s not your day, it’s theirs, and they’re doing what THEY want to do.
Turn your phone OFF
Particularly during the ceremony. The couple want you to be present with them in this special moment, not staring at them through a screen – if you’re interested in pictures, that’s what the photographer’s there for! Nothing will ruin a photo of the happy couple more than a sea of cameras and phones in the background.
Spell their names right
Whether it’s on a card or a personalised gift (especially the latter I suppose, when it’s likely to be more than a couple of quid), make sure the names are spelled right! It’s not a hard thing to double check, and it won’t be well received AT ALL if you get it wrong. Make sure you double check if you need to (with a family member or on Facebook, IT’S SO EASY so there’s no excuse)…otherwise, the gift/card you got will end up buried at the bottom of a box in the loft or in the bin, however nice it may have been! When it’s their wedding, I can guarantee it’ll be taken very personally. Anyone wanna guess if it happened to us…? 😂
Brides, Grooms, Guests – have you got all of that? Some of it sounds a little intense I know, but, I say it as it is, that’s me.
I’m pretty sure I’ve said it before, but I’ll say it again…there are SO many things involved with a wedding, so many more than you’d ever realise until you’re actually knee deep in table plans and decor spray painting! And there’ll be questions you need to know the answers to that never would have crossed your mind before. The point of this post is not to answer all these questions (I still don’t have answers to some of them!), but just point out some of the things you’ll want to research/ask your venue.
What happens with the confetti? 🌸
So, it’s arrived in a massive bag…how do we use it? Do I empty it into a big box and people grab a handful? Do I invest in confetti cones/baskets etc, and if so, how do guests get them?
Do I stand up with everyone during the speeches? 🥂
I’m the bride. People are toasting me. Is it rude if I stay sat down, or is it weird if I stand and effectively, toast myself? (I didn’t think about this until it was literally happening, I had no clue what I was supposed to do) 😳
Where do the bouquets go after the ceremony? 💐
I think each wedding will be different, but our coordinator suggested using my bouquet as decoration for the cake table. Which was lovely! I just hadn’t given my bouquet a second thought (past the ceremony) until a couple of weeks before the wedding.
Groom – Where do I look when I’m at the end of the aisle? 🤵
Straight forwards? To the bridesmaids and approaching bride? A bit of both? This is a question Ed asked before the wedding, but I think by the time it got to the day, there’s that much going on and emotions are so high, you don’t even have chance to worry about it!
When do I take my veil off? 👰
Immediately after the ceremony? After the photos? Before the evening do? Or leave it on all day? After lots of researching, it seems it’s one of those things that is down to each individual bride. So I just decided I’d take it off when I’d had enough of it. And that came after the speeches when we were tucking into the wedding breakfast, because it was making me warm and annoying my bare upper back.
What time does the sun set? ☀️
You want those gorgeous sunset pics? You’re going to need to know what time the sun sets. Make sure you find out and add it to your itinerary so you know when in the proceedings you need to slip away.
What happens with my engagement ring? 💍
The main answer to this question (when googling) seems to be to wear it on the other hand. Which is all well and good unless it doesn’t fit. I’ve got relatively thin fingers, so getting a ring over my knuckle is a struggle anyway, I wasn’t going to force it onto my right hand and get it stuck! So dad looked after it and I popped it on again after the ceremony.
How do I feed the photographer? 📸
Is he bringing a pack up, or do I need to find him a seat at the wedding breakfast? One I can’t answer and you’ll have to ask your venue, but we paid for ours to eat in the lounge bar next to the breakfast room.
Can we book our honeymoon in my married name? ✈️
Yes you can, because you can get a post dated passport. You’ll need a special application form, and a signed form from your officiant with details of your ceremony (don’t worry, it’s fairly straight forward). You won’t be able to use your new passport until you’re married, but once you ARE, you’re all set to jet off as Mr and Mrs.
And there’ll be plenty more that you’ll encounter during your wedding planning. Anyone else out there come across these kinds of ‘OMG I have no idea’ kind of surprise questions during their planning?
Okay, I’ve written quite a few wedding posts now, but I thought it was about time I shared my post important one. Unlike my other posts, this isn’t about the planning, or the run up, but tips for the actual day itself. And this post will reveal the top tips and suggestions I’d give to ANYONE getting married! So let’s dive right in…
Make Time in Your Itinerary for Each Other
This was one of the biggest pieces of advice we were given. Like, almost every person who wished us well said ‘Oooo you’ll never see each other’. To which we thought, SOD THAT! So, I wrote some ‘Bish time’ into our itinerary, to make sure we definitely had that time to spend together. And it was so easily done, so easy, I was surprised that so many people had struggled with it themselves! I suppose it’s one of those things that if you’re aware of it ahead of time, it’s easily manageable. We planned to get away a couple of times during the day, but actually managed it 5 or 6 times! And those moments as a newly married couple, amidst the chaos and business of the rest of the day are UTTERLY magical, and are such a special memory of our day that we both hold now.
Mingle, But Don’t Feel Bad About Moving On
There’s so many people you love there, you want to see them all and have a chat, and make sure you actually spend time with them. It’d be so easily done to spend 30 minutes talking to each person, but with so many wedding guests there, you really don’t have the time. Mingle, but don’t feel bad about moving on – people will understand!
Walk Slowly Up the Aisle
As with anything when adrenaline is involved, it’s very easy to speed up, and if you don’t think of it ahead of time, you’ll be next to your hubby/wifey to be within seconds! Ask whoever’s walking you down the aisle to set the pace, slow you down a bit if needs be (thankyou Dad!) and ENJOY that incredibly iconic moment.
Practice Holding Your Bouquet
You’ll want to hold it lower than you’d think! Some say to have the stems lined up with your belly button, but it’ll depend on the style of your bouquet and the design of your dress. So I ended up holding mine in line with my hip bones! It’s just one of those things that you wouldn’t think of, so here I am now to point it out 😊
Grooms – Don’t Lock Your Legs!
This one’s from Ed.
“Make sure not to lock your knees! If you lock them for too long, you risk passing out: not good on your wedding day. Remind yourself every now and then (or get your best man to do it like me!) to shake out or have a little knee bend to relieve the built up tension.”
Don’t Skip Brekkie
I know you’ll be a bag of nerves and excitement, and the idea of food might make you feel queezy…but you MUST eat something on your wedding morning. Whether it’s a bit of toast or a piece of fruit, just make sure there’s something in your system. You don’t want to spoil your day by feeling lightheaded or worse, faint!
Make the Effort To Eat
Following straight on from the last point, keep eating during the day. Again, so many people said ‘You won’t eat.’ And I just couldn’t understand this – when you pay so much per head for your wedding breakfast and/or buffet/hog roast etc, you had your menu tasting, and most importantly YOU LOVE TO EAT, why would you not eat?! I know this is a good time for the newly weds to walk around and talk to guests, but I’m pretty sure your guests would rather you eat and last the whole day, than attempt to talk to them and see you collapse the next minute from lack of nutrition 🙃 Screw tradition, eat the damn food!
Step Back and Survey
I saved a big one for last. A piece of advice we were given close to the big day, which we made sure we did, and are SO grateful for (thanks for the tip Mr Lunt)! This is probably the only time in your life when ALL of your dearly loved friends and family are in the same place, and they’re here because of the two of you – because they love you, they believe in your marriage and want to celebrate the most special day of your lives. Take a moment with your new spouse to step back, and just watch. Watch these people interacting, laughing, dancing, having an amazing time. It will be ingrained in your memory forever.
I urge anyone getting married to take on these tips, it really will help make your day special and drama free. Like the tips/insider info? I have similar posts here for Post Wedding Pointers and 10 Things No One Tells You About Planning a Wedding!
So you have a rough idea in your head of what planning a wedding entails, and you can read all the advice articles you want…but there’s some elements of planning that no one mentions. So I’m gonna do that now. And I’m gonna start with a big one, because it’s something we had no clue about, yet caused drama, and I think anyone planning a wedding needs to be aware of this! And number two is Ed’s most important lesson.
1. Traditions have changed
There are a lot of traditions that have changed in the 30 years since our parents got married. We had an issue with corsages (I know 🙄), which was purely down to both generations doing things their own way, assuming ‘that’s just how things are done’ and not realising the others’ idea of tradition was the complete opposite! So my advice would be to stay aware, discuss lots with your family/guests, just to make sure you’re all on the same page.
2. Share your burdens
“Stress can, and WILL sneak up on you. Be sure to share your burdens with your partner and not keep them bottled up. You’re marrying this person, they’re the most important person in your life – they, of all people, need to know if you’re struggling.”
3. Who arrives when
The guest list itself will probably be quite easy, and you’ll keep adding names to it for a few months (you’re bound to forget a couple of distant relations or make new friends that you’d like to have there). The tricky bit, is deciding who comes to what part of the day – particularly if you have a set amount of guests that you’ve agreed with your venue, and adding an extra head costs a lot of dolla! You’re just going to have to be ruthless (you’ll find your own way of doing this), but know it’s going to take a while to decide. Make sure you have a bottle of wine (or two!) handy…
4. It’s a nightmare trying to find a photographer
Not for any negative reason though, I might add. It’s just – your photos are the one thing that immortalise your wedding, the one reminder of the day, the only professional documentation you’ll have. And that comes with a lot of pressure, because you don’t just want to jump into something for the sake of it. You need to sit down with your fiance and have a chat about what kind of style you like, how much you’re willing to spend, and the kind of package you want. There are lots of wonderful photographers out there, and maybe some couples get lucky by stumbling across their perfect match straight away (remember, you’ve got to get on as well – you’ll be spending a lot of time with them!)…but it took us months to find Sugarbird. Worth the wait though 😉
5. You’ll be spoilt for choice with decor
Honestly, it won’t be a case of trying to find decor for your day that matches your theme, rather, you have to decide what NOT to have. You only have to type your colour sceme and ‘wedding’ into Pinterest to find THOUSANDS of ideas. Everything looks so gorgeous, there’ll be creative ideas you never thought of, and it’ll take you weeks (perhaps months!) to decide what you’re going to do, and how you’re going to do it.
6. Wedding Fayres will expose you to so many LOCAL suppliers
Which is amazing! We both grew up here, went to school here, met here, decided to move back here independently of each other (but at the same time) after a bit of adulting, bought our first house here, and Ed proposed here – we have such a special bond with our home town, we wanted to source and use as many local suppliers as possible for our wedding day. As well as loving supporting small businesses, it just felt right. And we wouldn’t have met all these lovely people were it not for our trip to the Sun Pavilions in Harrogate for the UK Wedding Event. We discovered our Favour suppliers there, who turned out to live just round the corner from us! Can’t get more local than that 🍬
7. You’ll be refreshing your email every 30 seconds
Whether it’s waiting for confirmation from a supplier, or the answer to a burning question, you’ll be refreshing your email so often it’s not even funny. And when you see an email coming in, the mini heart attack happens – it dies down again if it’s just spam, but then you’re back to square one! Waiting. Refreshing…
8. It’s easy for the budget to get out of control
No, SERIOUSLY. It’s so easy it’s not even funny. Set your budget, try to guestimate how much you’ll spend on each element, and keep an excel spreadsheet of how much you spend on every single thing you buy. It’s all well and good thinking of the big things like the dress/flowers/rings/cake etc, but if you don’t keep track of the placenames/confetti cones/passport name change/registrar fees – you’re going to find yourself in deep doo doo.
9. Whilst it’s your day, you want to keep your family happy – AND IT’S HARD
I’ve said it so many times before and I’ll say it again – it’s your big day, do what YOU want, don’t feel pressured into anything by anyone else. But that being said, obviously it’s natural to listen to wants/requests. It’s your family, you love them, and you want them to be happy, so if there’s a decision you’ve made that totally conflicts with a problem they have – it really is tricky. Out the other side of it, I still stick by my statement of ‘DO WHAT YOU WANT’, but just be aware that it’s hard. And try not to get ill from the stress like we did. Only a little bit bitter about that… 🙃
10. It’s stressful but you’ll feel SO MUSHY
I’ve never felt as 😍 and mushy and warm and fuzzy as when we were wedding planning (until we got married that is, the ice heart has officially thawed). It’s so exciting, so special, and you will ABSOLUTELY LOVE IT. Yet no one says how magical it feels!
Did I spill the wedding tea a bit? I suppose I did! But they’re all points that I think any bride or groom needs to know. It’s such a MASSIVE part of your lives, it’s wonderful but it won’t be easy, and I don’t think you can ever know too much!
I made the decision quite early on that I wanted to do my own wedding makeup, for a couple of reasons. I’ve spoken before about making a priority list when it comes to spending, and (personally) I couldn’t justify spending a couple of hundred on makeup (and hair) for me and my bridesmaids – I decided I’d rather spend the money elsewhere. So, I did some research, talked to some MUA friends, and made my Wedding Makeup Bag by myself.
And I’m really glad I did! I was happy with my makeup on the day, I still looked like myself, and I came across some life changing products that I’ve introduced into my regular makeup routine too! Winner winner! So, here we go.
Smashbox Photo Finish Primer
I’ve never spent this amount of money on makeup before, but I thought it was worth a go after a few glowing reviews from fellow bloggers. And oh my. It’s worth EVERY PENNY. It goes on gorgeously, makes your skin feel amazing, and since I started using it in January, have never had a problem with foundation going patchy or coming off easily. It’s nothing like any other primer I’ve used, and I’ll never use anything else again!
Max Factor Eyeshadow Primer
I hadn’t used eyeshadow primer before, so I don’t have anything to compare this to. But I used it, and my eyeshadow stayed on all day so…tick!
Barry M Green Concealer
You might not need it, but it’s one of those products you want with you, just in case! The green neutralises any red patches or angry spots, which is fab..just make sure to pop some concealer over the top before your foundation, you don’t want any green patches peeking through!
Collection Lasting Perfection Concealer
I struggled for years to find a concealer that was the same tone as my skin, so when I found ‘extra fair’, I was over the moon! Great coverage, it doesn’t leave me with orange patches on my skin, I love it!
Wunder 2 Last & Foundation
I’ve always struggled to find a good full coverage foundation that isn’t cakey but has really good staying ability. I’ve never had much confidence in my skin so have needed good coverage, but with all the dancing and sweating, I’ve needed something that will stay…so I’ve always been on the look out for ‘revolutionary’ products. I saw this advertised on Facebook a few months back, and thought I’d give it a go. And I’m so glad I did! It does all that I want it to, plus it doesn’t rub off onto clothes! The only negative is that the palest shade isn’t THAT fair, and only matches my neck when I have tan on, so I don’t use it all the time. BUT it was perfect for the wedding and I highly recommend it.
Revolution Cream Contour – Fair
Contour is new for me, so I went for this kit as it seems to be aimed at contour beginners. I’m sure there are other great kits out there, but this works great for me, and I’ve found it fairly easy to use. I love that it has a yellow cream in there too – perfect for battling those dark circles after sleepless nights! With my fair skin, I also use the lightest cream in here as highlighter…which works really well.
Rimmel Insta Fix & Matte Setting Powder
I’ve used this for about a year, and coupled with good staying foundation, is an absolute dream!
Collection Blusher – Bashful
An old faithful – I like it, it works, it’s affordable, so yay!
Loreal True Match Highlighter
Again, it’s been in my makeup bag for years, and is a dream on my fairer skin
Collection Fast Stroke Eyeliner
I’m rubbish with eyeliner, so I stuck with my old trusty liquid Collection 2000.
Ardell Demi Wispies
I’ve used lashes for years when I’ve been on stage, but I’ve never needed a natural lash before. After umming and ahhing for ages, an MUA friend recommended Demi Wispies, which she uses on her brides. I invested and immediately fell in love! They’ve got enough volume to make a difference, but are still nice and natural. Highly recommend these – thankyou Tors! 😘
Bourjois Volume Reveal Waterproof Mascara
100% you need waterproof on your wedding day! I’ve used the same mascara for 10 years because it’s perfect and I love it, so this one was bought purely to avoid panda eyes, based on good amazon reviews. Because of the lashes, I wasn’t too fussy because you could only see the mascara in action on the lower lash.
Revolution Eyeshadow Pallet – Flawless Matte
There are so many pallets out there for us to fall in love with, but it’s something I didn’t want to spend loads on. I’ve got 2 Revolution pallets, one sparkle, one matte (I used the latter for my wedding makeup) and I wouldn’t be without them. Plenty of colours to choose from for all looks, and very affordable!
Rimmel Brow This Way
Again I’ve used this for years now, have always been happy with it…so if it ain’t broke, don’t fix it 😊 I only just started using the gel, but it’s great at keeping any little strays in place.
Rimmel Exaggerate Lip Liner – Eastend Snob
An old favourite, good old Rimmel! It’s a twist up, which I’ve found recently to be more sharp and accurate than pencil liners. I used pink but have it in a couple of other colours too.
Charlotte Tilbury Hot Lips – Liv It Up
I struggled to find the perfect lipstick shade for MONTHS, but finally found myself on the Charlotte Tilbury website. I love than you can mock up all the lipsticks on different skin tones/hair colours online, so after a bit of playing around, opted for Hot Lips in shade ‘Liv It Up’. It was the perfect shade of pink – pink enough to be ‘look at my pretty lips’ but not too over the top. I was obsessed as soon as it arrived, it worked perfectly with the rest of my makeup and my dress, and I continue to be now as I use it in every day life!
Part of the reason for struggling to find a good lippy, was that I was looking for the perfect colour, that wasn’t matte, but most importantly, was long lasting. I gave up on this when my mother in law told me about Lipcote, the product that locks your lippy in place. After all my years of performing, I can’t believe I’d never come across it before! After a few hours it CAN become flaky, but I just went upstairs before the evening do, wiped my lips off and started again. I’m so glad I used this because it meant I could wear my PERFECT lipstick shade 😊
Smashbox Setting Spray
I didn’t even THINK about setting spray until a couple of days before, but thankfully, my mother in law had a little Smashbox tester! Hooray for Smashbox!
I’m so glad I did my own makeup. I was totally in control, I saved money, and I ended up discovering new (really good!) products that I’ve been able to add to my makeup bag! Yay! 💄